Zahamba izinsuku lapho obaba bakusasa belindile ephasishi behambisa umngane wabo ekuphileni. Namuhla, bayanda kakhulu kubo abahileleka phakathi nesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Kodwa ngo-D-Day, kusenzima ngezinye izikhathi ukuthi bathole futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuthatha indawo yabo.

Lapho ukufinyela okubonisa ukuqala kwesibeletho kwenzeka, ukukhathazeka okukhulu komama abakhulelwe cishe akufiki ngesikhathi sokuyoteta, noma kunoma yikuphi ukungakwazi ukuxwayisa umlingani wabo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu njengoba leli gama lisondela ukuthi ufinyeleleke unomphela.

Ukubhalisela iwadi yababeletha ngokuvamile kwenziwa ezinyangeni eziningi ngaphambili, osekusele nje ukudlulisela endaweni yokwamukela izivakashi ikhadi elibalulekile kanye nekhadi lomshwalense wezempilo lozobeletha, kanye nefayela lakhe lezokwelapha (ama-ultrasound, umbiko isikhathi sokuhlangana nodokotela obulala izinzwa…), bese ugcwalisa ifomu. Kungenziwa ubaba wesikhathi esizayo noma umama ozayo.

Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi obaba bakusasa bathole indawo yabo ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Abanye abasakwazi ukuzisiza lapho bebhekene nokufinyela okusonta umlingani wabo ezinhlungwini ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Ukuhambela izikhathi zokubeletha kanye nezokulungiselela ukubeletha ndawonye kungabasiza bazizwe bengenawo amandla, ikakhulukazi i-haptonomy kanye nendlela ye-Bonapace ebafundisa ngokusobala ukuthi bangakhulula kanjani abalingani babo. Abanye bayesaba ukuguqula amehlo ngesikhathi sokuxoshwa. Noma ukuthi lesi sigaba sokubeletha asilimazi i-libido yabo kamuva. Abanye, ngokuphambene nalokho, batshalwe imali kangangokuthi bagcina, ngokungazi, ngokucasula umama wesikhathi esizayo kanye neqembu lokubeletha. Okungcono kakhulu, ukugwema ukudumazeka, iwukuxoxa ndawonye, ​​ikhanda liphumule, kusenesikhathi ngaphambi kokubeletha, indlela ngamunye abona ngayo izinto. Njengesikhumbuzo, umuntu oyedwa kuphela onelungelo lokuhambela ukubeletha. Uma ubaba wesikhathi esizayo engakwazi noma engayifuni, uma umama wesikhathi esizayo ethanda ukuthi angayi, akukho lutho oluvimbela ukuphathisa lo msebenzi kwesinye isihlobo esiseduze.

Umbelethisi noma udokotela wezifo zabesifazane ngokuvamile uphakamisa ukuthi ubaba omusha asike inkaba esaxhuma umama nengane yakhe. Isenzo esingenabuhlungu ngokuphelele amadoda amaningi ayazisa ukubaluleka kwaso okungokomfanekiso. Kodwa uma ungathandi ukukwenza, ungaziphoqi. Asikho isizathu sokuzizwa unecala: uzoba namanye amathuba amaningi wokutshala imali ngokwakho.

Esikhathini esedlule, umntwana wayegeza okokuqala egumbini lokubelethela futhi lo msebenzi wawuvame ukunikezwa ubaba omusha ngenkathi usana lusaphumula futhi luthola ukunakekelwa okungenzeka. Kodwa kuba njalo ukulinda amahora angu-24 noma angu-48 ukuze ugeze umntwana. Ngaleyo ndlela uzuza isikhashana emiphumeleni yokuzivikela ye-vernix, into emhlophe nenamafutha eyayimboza isikhumba sakhe ingxenye enhle yokukhulelwa. Kuhlala kubaba, uma ethanda, umsebenzi wokugqoka ingane yakhe esanda kuzalwa, evame ukuqondiswa ezenzweni zakhe ngumsizi wokunakekela izingane. Ngaphambilini, angase futhi anikezwe ukujwayela isikhumba nesikhumba nengane, isibonelo uma kwenzeka unina ehlinzwe ngokuhlinzwa.