Uyini umgomo wethu njengabazali? Yini esifuna ukuyidlulisela ezinganeni zethu, ukuthi sizikhulise kanjani? Isazi sefilosofi kanye nesazi sezimiso zomndeni uMichael Austin uhlongoza ukucabangela imigomo emibili eyinhloko yemfundo - inkululeko kanye nokuphila kahle.
Ukukhulisa izingane kuwumsebenzi onzima, futhi abazali namuhla banokufinyelela izinsiza eziningi ezivela emkhakheni wezengqondo, isayensi yezokuhlalisana kwabantu, nezokwelapha. Ngokumangalisayo, ifilosofi nayo ingaba usizo.
UMichael Austin, uprofesa, isazi sefilosofi nomlobi wezincwadi ezikhuluma ngobuhlobo bomkhaya, uyabhala: “Ifilosofi isho uthando lokuhlakanipha, ngosizo lwayo singenza ukuphila kwanelise kakhudlwana.” Uhlongoza ukuba kubhekwe omunye wemibuzo ebangele impikiswano ngokuziphatha komkhaya.
Inhlala-kahle
“Ngikholelwa ukuthi umgomo obaluleke kakhulu wokuba umzali inhlalakahle,” uyaqiniseka u-Austin.
Ngokombono wakhe, izingane kudingeka zikhuliswe ngokuvumelana nemithetho ethile yokuziphatha. Njengoba unikezwe ukubaluleka komuntu ngamunye emphakathini wesikhathi esizayo, lwela ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uzizwa eqiniseka, ezolile futhi ejabule kukho konke ukuphila kwakhe. Ngibafisela ukuthi bachume futhi bahlale bengabantu abafanelekile ngokuziphatha nangokwengqondo.
Abazali akubona abanikazi, ababona amakhosi futhi ababona ondlovukayiphikiswa. Kunalokho, kufanele baziphathe njengabaphathi, abaphathi noma abaqondisi bezingane zabo. Ngale ndlela, inhlalakahle yesizukulwane esisha iba umgomo oyinhloko wemfundo.
Freedom
UMichael Austin ungena engxabanweni yomphakathi nesazi sefilosofi yezenhlalakahle kanye nembongi uWilliam Irving Thompson, umbhali wencwadi ethi The Matrix as Philosophy, ohlonishwa ngokuthi, "Uma ungazidali isiphetho sakho, uzoba nesiphetho esiphoqelelwe kuwe. »
Ehlola izindaba zobuntwana nemfundo, u-Irwin uthi umgomo wokuba umzali inkululeko. Futhi indlela yokuhlola impumelelo yabazali ukuthi izingane zabo zikhululeke kangakanani. Uvikela ukubaluleka kwenkululeko kanjalo, eyidlulisela emkhakheni wokufundisa izizukulwane ezintsha.
Ukholelwa ukuthi enkululekweni ilele ukuhlonipha abanye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngisho nalabo abanemibono ehlukene ngezwe bangavumelana ngokubaluleka kwenkululeko. Evikela ukubaluleka kwendlela enengqondo yokuphila, u-Irwin ukholelwa ukuthi umuntu angakwazi ukuyeka inkululeko kuphela uma ehlushwa ubuthakathaka bentando.
Ubuthakathaka bentando abunangqondo kuye, ngoba kulokhu abantu ngeke bakwazi ukwenza izenzo futhi balandele inkambo abazikhethele yona njengengcono kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokusho kuka-Irwin, abazali kufanele baqonde ukuthi ngokudlulisela izindinganiso zabo kubantwana, bangakwazi ukweqa umugqa futhi baqale ukuwafaka ingqondo, ngaleyo ndlela balulaze inkululeko yabo.
Lokhu nje, ngokusho kukaMichael Austin, kuwuhlangothi olubuthakathaka kakhulu lomqondo "umgomo wokuba umzali inkululeko yezingane." Inkinga ukuthi inkululeko ayinalutho kakhulu. Akekho kithi ofuna izingane zenze izinto eziwukuziphatha okubi, ezingenangqondo, noma ezingenangqondo.
Incazelo ejulile yobuzali
U-Austin akavumelani nombono ka-Irwin futhi uwubheka njengosongo ekuziphatheni okuhle. Kodwa uma samukela inhlalakahle yezingane njengomgomo wokuba umzali, khona-ke inkululeko - isici senhlalakahle - izothatha indawo yayo ohlelweni lwamanani. Yiqiniso, abazali kufanele baqaphele ukuba bangalulazi ukuzimela kwezingane. Ukukhululeka kuyadingeka ukuze uhlale ucebile, kusho uMichael Austin.
Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, indlela yokuqondisa, "yokuphatha" yokukhulisa izingane ayamukeleki kuphela, kodwa futhi iyathandeka. Abazali banentshisekelo yokudlulisela izindinganiso zabo ezinganeni zabo. Futhi izingane zidinga isiqondiso nesiqondiso ukuze zithuthuke, ezizozithola kubazali bazo.
“Kufanele sihloniphe inkululeko ekhulayo ezinganeni zethu, kodwa uma sizibheka njengabanye uhlobo lwabaphathi, khona-ke umgomo wethu oyinhloko inhlalakahle yabo, ukuziphatha nobuhlakani bazo,” esho.
Ukulandela le ndlela, ngeke sifune "ukuphila ngezingane zethu." Nokho, u-Austin uyabhala, incazelo yangempela nenjabulo yobuzali iqondwa yilabo ababeka izithakazelo zezingane ngaphezu kwezabo. “Lolu hambo olunzima lungashintsha ukuphila kwezingane nabazali abazinakekelayo kube ngcono.”
Mayelana Nochwepheshe: UMichael Austin uyisazi sefilosofi nombhali wezincwadi zokuziphatha, kanye nefilosofi yomndeni, inkolo, nezemidlalo.