Okuqukethwe
Kwesinye isikhathi sikhuluma amazwi komunye nomunye angabonakali ecasula umuntu okhuluma naye kodwa angalimaza. Lawa amabinzana-abahlaseli, ngemuva okulele ukucasuka okungashiwongo. Balulaza ukuthembana komunye nomunye futhi kancane kancane bacekela phansi inyunyana, umqeqeshi uChris Armstrong uqinisekile.
"Awuzange ubuze ngakho"
“Muva nje, ngisendleleni yokuyongena esikhumulweni sezindiza, ngibone ingxoxo yombhangqwana oshadile,” kusho uChris Armstrong.
Ungu:
“Wawungangitshela.
Ingabe yena:
“Awukaze ubuze.
“Yimali eningi. Akumele ngikubuze. Bengilindele ukuthi ungitshele."
“Kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kokuthi “akazange aqambe amanga” kanye “nokwethembeka,” kukholelwa uchwepheshe. — Lowo onakekela imizwa yomlingani uzozitshela ukuthi yini engase ikhathaze othandekayo. "Awukaze ubuze!" isisho esivamile somhlaseli ongenzi lutho owenza olunye uhlangothi lube yisola ngayo yonke into.
"Awuzange usho, kodwa ucabange"
Kwesinye isikhathi sibeka kalula izinjongo nezifiso zozakwethu abangazange bakhulume ngazo, kodwa, njengoba kubonakala kithi, bathola ngokungaqondile esitatimendeni sabo. Uthi, "Ngikhathele kakhulu." Uzwa ukuthi, "Angifuni ukuchitha isikhathi nawe," futhi ngokushesha amsole ngakho. Uyazivikela: "Angizange ngisho lokho." Uqhubeka nokuhlasela: "Angishongo, kodwa ngacabanga."
“Mhlawumbe ngandlela thize lona wesifazane uqinisile,” kuvuma u-Armstrong. — Abanye abantu bazama ngempela ukubalekela ingxoxo nozakwethu, bezithethelela ngokuba matasa noma ukukhathala. Kancane kancane, lokhu kuziphatha kungabuye kuphenduke ulaka olubhekiswe kothandekayo. Nokho, thina ngokwethu singaba abahlukumezi, sihlukumeze olunye uhlangothi ngokuqagela kwethu.”
Sishayela uzakwethu ekhoneni, esiphoqa ukuthi sizivikele. Futhi singafinyelela umphumela ophambene, lapho, ezizwa esolwa ngokungafanele, eyeka ngokuphelele ukwabelana ngemicabango yakhe nolwazi lwakhe. Ngakho-ke, ngisho noma uqinisile ngalokho empeleni ngemuva kwamazwi omlingani, kungcono ukuvuleka ngalokho okukukhathazayo esimweni esizolile, kunokuba uzame ukusola, ukufakazela kumuntu lokho angazange akusho.
"Angifuni lokhu kuzwakale kungenanhlonipho..."
“Konke okuzoshiwo ngemuva kwalokho, kungenzeka kuvele kube luhlaza futhi kucasule umlingani. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ubungeke umxwayise kusenesikhathi, kukhumbuza umqeqeshi. “Uma udinga ukwethula amazwi akho ngezixwayiso ezinjalo, ingabe udinga ukuzisho nhlobo?” Mhlawumbe kufanele uguqule umcabango wakho?
Ngemva kokulimaza othandekayo, uyamphika futhi ilungelo lokuzizwa ebuhlungu, ngoba waxwayisa: "Angizange ngifune ukukucasula." Futhi lokhu kuzomlimaza nakakhulu.
"Angikaze ngikucele lokhu"
U-Armstrong uthi: “Umngane wami uChristina u-ayina njalo amahembe omyeni wakhe futhi wenza imisebenzi eminingi yasekhaya. “Ngelinye ilanga wamcela ukuthi athathe ingubo yakhe kuma-dry cleaners esegoduka, kodwa akazange. Njengoba ingxabano ishisa, uChristina wasola umyeni wakhe ngokumnakekela, futhi wakushaya indiva lokho. “Angikucelanga ukuba u-ayine amahembe ami,” kubhaklaza umyeni.
“Angikubuzanga” kungenye yezinto ezibuhlungu kakhulu ongazisho komunye umuntu. Ngokwenza lokhu, awugcini nje ngokubukela phansi lokho umlingani wakho akwenzele kona, kodwa futhi nemizwa yakhe ngawe. “Angikudingi” umlayezo weqiniso wala mazwi.
Kukhona imishwana eminingi ecekela phansi ubudlelwano bethu, kodwa izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezisebenza nabashadile zivame ukuqaphela lokhu. Uma nifuna ukuya komunye nomunye futhi ningabhebhethekisi izingxabano, yeka ulaka olunjalo lwamazwi. Khuluma nomlingani wakho ngemizwa yakho kanye nolwazi lwakho ngqo, ngaphandle kokuzama ukuziphindiselela futhi ngaphandle kokubeka umuzwa wecala.
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