Okuqukethwe
Ngemva kokufunda kabusha izinganekwane ezithandekayo kusukela ebuntwaneni, namuhla sizokwazi ukuthola kuzo ukuhlakanipha okwakungenakufinyeleleka emehlweni omntwana. Isibonelo, "i-algorithm" yokuthola uthando lweqiniso. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nombhali wezinganekwane uchaza ukuthi ungayichaza kanjani imilayezo yomlingo futhi uyiguqule ibe izivivinyo eziwusizo.
Kukaningi ngitshelwa ukuthi izinganekwane zidukisa abantu besifazane. Iqhawekazi nakanjani lizotholwa yisithandwa salo, yize selithenwe, lifihlwa, noma seliphenduke ixoxo. Izithandani zizophila ngenjabulo kuze kube phakade.
Empilweni yangempela, owesifazane kufanele enze imizamo eminingi yokuthola uthando lwakhe. Futhi namuhla, iseluleko senganekwane "hlala futhi ulinde", esakhiqizwe kabusha ezinganekwaneni eziningi, asisebenzi nhlobo.
Ngiyavuma, ngaphandle yonke into ibonakala sengathi inganekwane “iholela kude neqiniso” futhi ayinakwethenjwa. Kuthiwani uma izinganekwane ziyimilayezo efihliwe, futhi akufanele zifundwe hhayi "ebhaliwe", kodwa "engabhaliwe"?
Lokhu kucabangela kuzosiholela ekutholakaleni kwe-cipher ekhethekile yezinganekwane. Futhi kuvela ukuthi i-heroine yenganekwane yenza uchungechunge lwezenzo ezingezona zansuku zonke, kodwa ezingokomfanekiso, eziphenduka izinyathelo ezilandelanayo eziya enjabulweni yakhe yowesifazane. Ake sibone ukuthi amaqhawekazi ezinganekwane ahlukene enzani ukuze ahlangabezane nothando futhi aguqule izimpilo zawo ngendlela efanele. Lokhu kuzosinika izincomo ezisebenzayo ezicacile.
1. Iqhawekazi liphendula isiphetho esibi sibe esihle
Ngokuzola nangesibindi uya ngasesiphetho sakhe. Amhlangabeze, amgeze, amfunze. Futhi isiphetho esivela esalukazini esibi siphenduka sibe ngumthakathi omuhle.
Izincomo ezinekhodi: qiniseka ukuthi wamukela ikusasa lakho njengoba linjalo. Ukwenza lokhu, yeka ngokuqinile umkhuba wokukhononda ngokudalelwa, ukulangazelela nokudabuka ngoba okunye obukulindele akukafezeki. Yima phambi kwesibuko, uzibuke imizuzu embalwa ngokuthula, bese usho ngokuzwakalayo: “Isiphetho Sami, umuhle njengami! Ngiyakwamukela sithandwa sami! Ngiyazi ukuthi uzothola indlela eya enjabulweni yami, yokuhlangana nesithandwa sami. Ngiyathembisa ukuthi ngeke ngikuphazamise ngezikhalo nezihlamba. Ngikunika ithemba!
Phinda umbhalo uze uqale ukukholelwa kuwo, kuze kube yilapho kuvela inkululeko, ukuthula nokuphefumulelwa ngaphakathi kuwe. Yenza lo msebenzi kabili ngesonto.
2. Iqhawekazi lidlula imbewu
Ngokuvamile ezinganekwaneni, usingamama uhlanganisa ukolweni, unyaluthi, imbewu ye-poppy, uphizi futhi uphoqelela indodakazi yokutholwa ukuthi ihlukanise, ihlele ngokwehlukana.
Izincomo ezinekhodi: bheka indoda hhayi kuphela njengesithandwa esingaba sothando, kodwa futhi njengomthwali wembewu. Qala ukubuka amadoda ahlukene futhi uzibuze imibuzo: hlobo luni lwembewu aluthwala kuye? I-Weedy noma iqinile? Ikhwalithi noma yonakele? Ukuqeqeshwa okunjalo kuzothuthukisa ukuqaphela kwakho kwangaphakathi kwabesifazane kanye nokuqonda okujulile.
3. Iqhawekazi liphotha ithowuzi, leluka umata, liyaluka
Lezi zenzo zifanekisela ukubekezela, ubuciko kanye nokuqonda okunembile komuntu siqu. Isincomo esibethelwe: uzazi ngenhloso nangobuciko.
Zibuze imibuzo emibili: Yini esengiyazi ngami? Yini engingayazi ngami? Thola bese ubhala phansi izimpendulo eziyisikhombisa zombuzo ngamunye. Zama ukuphinda umsebenzi kanye ngesonto.
4. Amaqhawekazi anyathela izicathulo
INkosi uBaba ibheka amadodakazi ayo alele njalo ekuseni athole izicathulo zawo ezintsha sezigugile. Iqiniso wukuthi amakhosazana ayadansa ebusuku.
Isincomo esibethelwe: dansa uvale amehlo akho kakhulu! Thuthukisa kunoma yimuphi umculo! Vumela umcabango wokuthi umdanso uyincwadi engokomfanekiso eya othandekayo wakho. Nsuku zonke, dansa, bhala umlayezo kuye. Kuyo, tshela ngawe futhi ummeme empilweni yakho. Kumdanso ngamunye, tshela isithandwa sakho okuthile okusha ngawe.
Vumela amathiphu alula amahle akusize empilweni!