Okuqukethwe
Sivame ukukhohlwa ngakho, sithola izizathu ezihlukahlukene. Okwamanje, ukuzinakekela kubaluleke kakhulu ekusebenzeni okuvamile, ngoba kusisiza ukuba sibhekane ngokuphumelelayo nezinkinga zansuku zonke. Umelaphi womndeni u-Leslie Santana ukhuluma ngokuthi ungazitshela kanjani uma uzinakekela kahle.
Ku-psychotherapy, kubalulekile ukuhlola ngokushesha ukuthi iklayenti liqhuba kanjani ngokuzinakekela - kukule ndawo lapho isihluthulelo sokululama ngokuvamile silele khona. Ngeshwa, ngokuvamile akuqondakali ngokuphelele, kulinganiswa nobugovu nokuzitika.
Basho ukuthini odokotela bengqondo ngokukweluleka ukuthi uzinakekele? Kungani ukunakekela kubaluleke kangaka? Kunini lapho iphumelela kakhulu?
Ake sibhekane.
1. Hlukanisa ukuziphilisa nokuzitika
Ukuziphilisa kuyakhiqiza, ukuzitika kuphambene ncamashi. Kuzuzisa kakhulu ukuthatha imizuzu eyi-10 ngosuku ukuhlaziya ukuthi yini ecasule intukuthelo yakho nolaka phakathi nosuku kunokuchitha ihora endaweni yokucwala izinzipho.
Yebo, akufanele uyeke izinjabulo ezincane futhi uzihluphe ngokuzisola ngenxa yazo. Kodwa ukuzinakekela kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi kugxile ekuthuthukiseni impilo yengqondo neyomzimba.
Ngokuqonda ukuthi yini ekwenza uzizwe ungalungile, uzofunda okwengeziwe ngawe, futhi lolu lwazi luyoba usizo kuwe ezimweni ezicindezelayo zesikhathi esizayo.
Futhi uma usuvele uya ku-manicure noma umlungisi wezinwele, nansi iseluleko esincane kuwe: izinqubo ezinjalo ziyithuba elihle lokuzijwayeza ukuphefumula okujulile.
2. Hlukanisa ukunakekelwa mbumbulu nokunakekelwa kwangempela
Ukunakekelwa mbumbulu kubonakala kufana nokunakekela kwangempela, kodwa kusafanele ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwabo.
Isibonelo esiyinhloko ukuthenga. Ake sithi ngemva kwamasonto amabili okucindezeleka, unquma ukuzithokozisa ngokuthenga okusha. Kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi uzoyithokozela le nqubo futhi isimo sakho sengqondo sizoba ngcono isikhashana. Inkinga ukuthi ngokuvamile sishintsha ngokuphelele ukunakekelwa kwangempela ngama-surrogates anjalo. Ukukhathazeka mbumbulu kungaletha ukukhululeka kwesikhashana kuphela, ngoba akuxazululi izimbangela zangempela zesimo sethu esiphansi noma ezinye izimpawu ezisikhathazayo.
Kunalokho, zama ukugcina idayari yengxoxo yakho yangaphakathi.
3. Funda ukubhekana nobunzima
Leli khono livame ukukhulunywa ngalo ngokungacacile, kodwa okwamanje kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi lihlanganisani ngempela. Ukuzinakekela kuwukubonakaliswa kobuhlobo bakho nawe, futhi ukubhekana nobunzima kuqinisa lobo buhlobo.
Uma ungabubekezeleli kahle ubunzima, cishe, ubuhlobo bakho nawe abuthuthukisiwe. Njengoba uqinisa lobu budlelwano, ungakhohlwa ukuthi kubalulekile ukufunda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nobunzima ngezindlela ezinempilo, ezifanele.
4. Khumbula ukuxhumana kwengqondo, umzimba nomphefumulo
Njengoba sesishilo, ukuzinakekela kuhlale kuhloswe ngayo ukukhuthaza impilo yengqondo nokuphila kahle.
Njengoba uhlela ukuzinakekela, hlola ukuthi usebenza kanjani ngokwengqondo, ngokomzimba nangokomoya. Ukuzisebenzela ukuze unikeze imiphumela yesikhathi eside, yenza umkhuba wokuhlola isimo njalo. Gxila ezindaweni eziyinkinga kuqala.
Lokhu akudingi ukuthi uchithe isikhathi esiningi noma imali. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukunakekelwa kubaluleke kakhulu ekugcineni impilo. Uma ungazi ukuthi ungaqala kuphi, zama ukuhlola ngezinhlobo ezahlukene zokuzindla, yenza uhlu lwemigomo, funda ukubonga, qala ukubhala ijenali, zama ukuphefumula okujulile kanye nezivivinyo zokuphumuza imisipha. Into esemqoka ukuthi ekugcineni uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala kuwe!
Umthombo: PsychoCentral.