Ngezwi neqiniso nangokuziphatha kwakhe futhi. Intombazanyana izodlula enkathini lapho, iphupha ngokunqoba ubaba wayo, yokuba naye yedwa, ingathanda ukuxosha unina oba imbangi: yi-Oedipus.
Ubaba uzobe esebeka umthetho ovimbelayo ngokuphendula indodakazi yakhe ethi kuyo: “Ngizokushada uma sengikhulile”, “Nginguyihlo futhi ngiyakuthanda kodwa ngiyindoda kamama futhi uma usumkhulu uzoshada. umuntu ontanga yakho”.
Ngazo zonke izindaba ze-pedophilia, ubudlelwano nabazali banemibuzo eyengeziwe mayelana nobunqunu nokuthi bawunakekela kanjani umzimba wengane yabo, kodwa akuyona into embi leyo.
Uma ubaba ezizwa engakhululekile, kufanele abuze uchwepheshe ozochaza indlela engokwemvelo yokuziphatha nendodakazi yakhe (noma indodana). Manje, kufanele wazi ukuthi ekwakhiweni kwengqondo yengane yakho, kubalulekile ukumgona, ukumphulula futhi usho amazwi amnandi kuye.
Ingabe ubaba udlala indima ekuthuthukiseni ubufazi bakhe?
Kubalulekile ukuthi ubaba abubone ubufazi bendodakazi yakhe. Isibonelo, kufanele imtshele ukuthi muhle, ukuthi ingubo enjalo naleyo imfanela kahle, imnike isipho sowesifazane (indandatho, unodoli…) ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa…
Uma engaziwa nguyise njengendodakazi noma uma iqiniso lokuthi ungowesifazane libaluleke kakhulu, ngokuqinisekile uzobonisa ubunzima ekukhuleni kwakhe noma ngisho nasekufinyeleleni kwakhe ubulili bakhe.