Okuqukethwe
Kungani amantombazane akhangwa kangaka amadoda anentshebe? Yiziphi izindlela ezijulile ezifakwe kwabesifazane lapho bebona uhlaza ebusweni balowo ongase abe umlingani? Izingxabano ezimbalwa eziphoqayo ekuvikeleni izintshebe.
Ingabe izintshebe zibuyile emfashinini noma azikaze ziphume emfashinini? Ngokombono wokuziphendukela kwemvelo - okwesibili. Emqhudelwaneni wokunakwa kwabesifazane, amadoda anentshebe ayaqala futhi awine.
Izinkanyezi eziningi, kusukela kwabalingisi kuya ezithombeni ze-rock, zinentshebe. Intshebe igcwele yonke indawo, kodwa abanye abantu abasazithandi. Bengazi lutho ngomuntu, bajaha ukwenza iziphetho ngaye, bengenaso isikhathi noma bengafuni ukubona ubuntu obudala uhlaza.
“Nokho, noma ubani ozimisele ukwamukela imibono enjalo evamile futhi afinyelele eziphethweni njengokufanelekile kufanele azi ukuthi ubanjwe yimibono ecatshangwayo,” kukhumbuza uWendy Patrick, umbhali wencwadi ethi How to Read People.
Izimfihlo zokuheha abesilisa
Ukukhula noma ukungakhuli? Ukukhetha amadoda amaningi abhekana nakho ngezikhathi ezithile. Lapho bekwenza, kubalulekile ukuba bacabangele isimo sabo senhlalo, imikhuba, izici zokuphila, indawo yokusebenza, umbono womfazi nezinye izici.
Intshebe ishintsha kakhulu ukubonakala kwendoda, futhi lokhu kuvame ukusetshenziswa, isibonelo, embonini yefilimu, ukushintsha ukubukeka kwabalingisi ngayo. Kwabaningi, ubuhle bakhe bulele eqinisweni lokuthi uma ekhathele noma engahambi, ungamqeda ngemizuzu embalwa. Kodwa akugcini lapho: ucwaningo lwakamuva lufakazele ukuthi abesifazane bathola amadoda anezinwele zobuso ezikhangayo futhi ebusa emphakathini nasemzimbeni.
Amadoda anentshebe abukeka njengabesilisa athathwa njengakhanga kakhulu ngabahlanganyeli.
Ucwaningo lweNyuvesi yaseQueensland lwaluhlanganisa abesifazane abangu-919 abaneminyaka engu-18 kuya kwengu-70. Abahlanganyeli babuke izithombe ezingu-30 zamadoda: ngamunye wathathwa okokuqala ngaphandle kwentshebe, kwase kuba nentshebe ekhulile; izifundo ziphinde zikhonjiswe izinguqulo ezithintwe kabusha zezithombe lapho ubuso bubukeka bufana kakhulu noma bungaphansi kobudoda. Abesifazane bazilinganisele ngokukhanga okubonwayo ebudlelwaneni besikhathi esifushane nobesikhathi eside.
Yaba yini imiphumela? Izinwele eziningi ebusweni, amadoda athandeka kakhulu, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ziye zafinyelela kulesi siphetho. Amadoda anentshebe abukeka njengowesilisa abhekwa njengakhangayo, ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside.
Enentshebe nehlathi
Abacwaningi bafinyelele esiphethweni sokuthi sibheka ubuso bowesilisa njengophawu lokuthi umuntu uphethe isikhundla esiphezulu emphakathini futhi unamandla ngokomzimba. Izinwele zobuso zigqamisa izici zesilisa ngokuvala izindawo ezingakhangi kangako.
Ababhali bephrojekthi baqinisekisile ukuxhumana phakathi kwezici zobuso besilisa namandla omzimba, amakhono okulwa kanye nesikhundla esiphakeme somphakathi. Ngokombono wabo, ebuka ubuso bowesilisa, abesifazane bafinyelela iziphetho mayelana namandla nempilo yendoda, okungase kube nomthelela ekuthandweni kwabo komshado.
Kuvele ukuthi ngokukhulisa intshebe, indoda ingaqinisa ubudoda bayo? Kubonakala kunjalo. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi amadoda anentshebe ngokwawo azizwa engamadoda futhi akhiqiza i-serum testosterone, okubuye kwenyuse amazinga okubusa emphakathini.
Akubona bonke abantu besifazane abathanda intshebe
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akubona bonke abesifazane kule phrojekthi ababethanda ubuso nezimila: ikakhulukazi, abanye babesaba ukuba khona kwama-parasites ezinweleni noma esikhumbeni samadoda. Abanye babona ubuso obungagundiwe njengophawu lokuthi indoda ayilandeli ukubukeka kwayo.
Kodwa-ke, ubuhlobo abusebenzi ngendlela ehlukile - abesifazane abanezinga eliphakeme lokwenyanya amagciwane babevame ukukhetha amadoda anentshebe, okungase kubonise ukuthi babheka izinwele zobuso njengesibonakaliso sempilo enhle.
Abesifazane abangashadile abanezifiso zokuzala babevame ukukhetha ubuso besilisa obushefe buhlanzekile.
Ababhali balo msebenzi bathola nokuthi abesifazane “abanezifiso ezinkulu zokuzala” babengathandi ngempela amadoda anentshebe. Kodwa-ke, lapho ososayensi becabangela isimo somshado sabahlanganyeli bephrojekthi, kwavela ukuthi, ngokuvamile, abesifazane abangashadile nabashadile abafuna ukubeletha bathola abesifazane abanentshebe bekhanga kakhulu kunabesifazane abangazange baphuphe ngokuba ngumama.
Abesifazane abangashadile abanezifiso zokuzala babevame ukukhetha ubuso besilisa obushefe buhlanzekile, kuyilapho abesifazane abashadile bebonisa isimo sengqondo esibi ngabo.
Yiqiniso, umbono wokubukeka kwamalungu obulili obuhlukile kuyindaba yokunambitheka, okwakhiwa ngaphansi kwethonya lezici eziningi. Kodwa kubonakala sengathi ososayensi baphinde bafakazela ukuthi siqondiswa kakhulu imvelo kanye nezindlela ezibekwe phansi ngamakhulu, uma kungenjalo izinkulungwane zezizukulwane ezedlule. Futhi manje, ukubukeza, isibonelo, amafilimu noSean Connery, ekugcineni umuntu angaqonda ukuthi kungani i-Bond egundiwe ehlanzekile ibonakala ingathandeki kunezinhlamvu ezidlalwa ngumdlali eminyakeni eminingi kamuva ngentshebe ehloniphekile futhi elungiswe kahle.
Mayelana Nombhali: UWendy Patrick ungummeli wecala, usosayensi wezobunhloli, kanye nombhali wencwadi ethi How to Read People.