Kungani izidlo zingakuvumeli ukuthi ugcine isibalo sakho isikhathi eside futhi ngisho nangemva kwenkambo enhle kakhulu yokulahlekelwa isisindo, isisindo esiningi siyabuya? Ngoba okokuqala sizama ukulungisa umphumela - ukunciphisa umzimba, hhayi ukuqeda isizathu sokuthi maduzane sizoqala ukuphinda sithole, uchwepheshe we-psychoanalytic u-Ilya Suslov uyaqiniseka. Hlobo luni lobuhlungu benhliziyo obufihla amakhilogremu engeziwe nokuthi unganciphisa kanjani isisindo unomphela?
“Uma beqala ukulwa nokukhuluphala ngokweqile, basuke bezihlukumeza ngokudla. Futhi ngokuvamile bathola umphumela obonakalayo futhi osheshayo, kodwa, maye, umphumela wesikhashana, kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Ilya Suslov. - Naphezu kokuthi ukudla ngesiGreki kusho indlela yokuphila, okusho ukuthi angeke kube yesikhashana ngencazelo!
Ezweni lethu, lona kanye iqiniso lesifo esidume umhlaba wonke, ukukhuluphala, alibonwa. Abaningi bafihla amagama angajabulisi ngemuva kwamagama athi "ukugcwala" noma amahlaya kanye nezaga "owesifazane emzimbeni", "ubuhle be-Kustodian", "amafomu ajabulisayo", "indoda enobukhulu obuhloniphekile". Futhi ngokuvamile abaphathwa ngokukhuluphala, kodwa ngemiphumela yako: izinkinga zesisu, umfutho wegazi ophakeme kanye nezifo zenhliziyo, isifo sikashukela, ukuphazamiseka kwezinhlelo zokuphefumula kanye ne-musculoskeletal, ukwehluleka kokuzala.
“Ukuxilongwa kokukhuluphala akuvamile ukutholakala kumarekhodi ezokwelapha. Odokotela noma iziguli abafuni ukuvuma ukuthi kwakukhuluphele okwabangela izinkinga eziningi zempilo, u-Ilya Suslov uyakhononda. Kodwa cishe akekho, ngaphandle kwezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, obheka ngokujulile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, odokotela abambalwa ngokuvamile bakholelwa ukuthi imbangela yesisindo esiningi ihlale ihlezi endaweni ethile ekujuleni komphefumulo.
Ukudla «utshwala»
Kodwa-ke, ukukhuluphala kunencazelo esemthethweni ngokuphelele - kuyisifo esilandelanayo esingapheli. “Uhlelo” kusho ukuthi zonke izinhlelo zezitho zomzimba ziyabandakanyeka, “okuphindaphindayo” kusho ukuphindaphinda, “okungapheli” kusho impilo yonke.
“Kungabekwa ezingeni elilinganayo nokuluthwa utshwala ngomqondo wokuthi, njengoba bengekho ababeyizidakwa zotshwala, ukukhuluphala ngokweqile kungangena ekuxolelweni, kodwa kukususe unomphela, ngaphandle kokwenza imizamo cishe impilo yonke futhi ngaphandle kokutadisha izimbangela eziqulekile nge i-psychotherapist, akunakwenzeka. Ngakho-ke, akukho ukudla kwesikhashana, okungasekelwa umsebenzi ekuqwashiseni okujulile kwezenzo zomuntu, empeleni, akukwazi ukuxazulula inkinga yokukhuluphala, "u-Ilya Suslov uyaqiniseka. Umehluko nje ukuthi ngotshwala, umuntu uvala imizwa nezidingo ngenqwaba, futhi esimweni sokuluthwa kokudla, uphendukela ekudleni ngokweqile.
Kodwa kuthiwani, ngokwesibonelo, ukuzuza kwesisindo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa nangemva kokubeletha? Noma ezimweni lapho umuntu ngokuzumayo ezuza amakhilogremu ayishumi nambili noma ngaphezulu ngemva kwezenzakalo ezicindezelayo?
Uma sibambelele esigabeni esithile sokulila futhi singakaphendukeli kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, ukugcwala kwesikhashana kungaphenduka inkinga yesikhathi eside.
"Ngokuqondene nokugcwala ngemva kokubeletha nangesikhathi sokuncelisa ingane, lokhu kuwumphumela ovamile wezinguquko kusizinda se-hormonal, esikhuphuka ngemva kokuyeka ukuncelisa," kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. - Kwenzeka ukuthi umuntu akhuluphale kakhulu ngenxa yesenzakalo esicindezelayo ikakhulukazi - ukufa noma ukugula kothandekayo, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, ukuhlukana kobudlelwane, ukuzalwa kwengane egulayo, izimo eziphuthumayo. Lokhu ukulahlekelwa okunamandla - umuntu othandekayo noma indlela yokuphila yangaphambili. Iqala inqubo yokulila, okungase kubangele ukwehluleka kwe-hormonal, ukushintsha imetabolism, imikhuba yokudla.
Imicimbi enjalo ingaba yesikhathi esisodwa, yesikhashana, futhi isimo singase siphume. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, uma umuntu ebambelele kwesinye sezigaba zokulila futhi engafuni usizo kudokotela wezengqondo, ukugcwala kwesikhashana kungashintsha ngokungaqondakali kube inkinga yesikhathi eside - ukukhuluphala nokukhuluphala.
U-Ilya Suslov uyakhumbula: “Umngane wami wakhula ngo-20 kg ngemva kokubeletha ingane egulela ukufa. - Sekudlule iminyaka engaphezu kweyisithupha kusukela ekuzalweni: ngalesi sikhathi, esimweni esivamile, ngokudla okunempilo, isisindo kufanele sibuyele esimweni esijwayelekile, kodwa ukugcwala kwakhe kwangemva kokubeletha kuphenduke okungapheli. Esikhundleni sokuzama ukuxazulula inkinga ngezibonakaliso zokuqala ezishaqisayo ngokuthintana nodokotela wengqondo, wayifihla ngokujulile imizwa yakhe yokuphelelwa ithemba, ukwesaba, icala futhi wafinyelela iphuzu lapho ukudla kuyeka ukusiza.
Ingabe ngaso sonke isikhathi kufanele kusolwe ukudla?
Yiqiniso, ngezinye izikhathi ubukhulu bethu buwumphumela we-immunological, izifo ze-endocrine, ukuphazamiseka kwezinqubo zokugaya ukudla ngenxa ye-pathologies emgudwini wamathumbu. Isibonelo, nge-hypothyroidism (ukuntuleka kwamahomoni e-thyroid), ukuvuvukala okukhulu kungase kwenzeke, okubangela ukwanda kwesisindo. Kodwa uma sikhuluma ngesici esingokwengqondo sokukhuluphala ngokweqile, ingabe ukukhuluphala ngokweqile kuhlotshaniswa nokudla ngokweqile?
Ezimweni eziningi, yebo. Umzimba wethu uthola ukudla okweqile okudlula lokho esikudingayo ukuze sinxephezele izindleko zamandla: siphila impilo yokunganyakazi, kodwa sidla sengathi sigijima ibanga elingamakhilomitha angamashumi amane nsuku zonke. Futhi sivame ukuqaphela ukuthi asikhululekile kulesi sisindo, kodwa asikwazi ukuzisiza.
“Ukudla ngokweqile kuyizinhlobo ezintathu. Eyokuqala iyimpoqo noma i-psychogenic, lapho igagasi lingena ngokuzumayo ngezikhathi ezithile, futhi umuntu angadla izinto eziningi ezihlwabusayo ngesikhathi - ngokuvamile okunamafutha, okubhemayo, ukudla okusheshayo noma okumnandi, i-psychotherapist iyachaza. - Uhlobo lwesibili i-bulimia: umuntu udla ngokweqile ukudla okuvamile, abese ekhafula ngokushesha, ebangela ukuhlanza, ngenxa yokuthi ugcwele isifiso sokuba mncane. Isiguli esine-bulimia singadla ibhodwe eligcwele isobho noma inkukhu yonke ngesikhathi, sipheke iphalishi noma i-pasta, sivule ukudla okusemathinini, iphakethe lamakhekhe noma ibhokisi likashokoledi futhi sikudle konke ngokungakhethi. Futhi uhlobo lwesithathu yilapho umuntu edla kakhulu kunalokho okudingekayo. Futhi ngokuvamile lokhu ukudla okungenamsoco - into ehlwabusayo, kodwa ngobuningi obunjalo ngokusobala ayinampilo. Kulokhu, umuntu ubona izibalo ezingekho esikalini, kodwa akakwazi ukwenza lutho futhi aqhubeke nephethini yakhe evamile yokudla.
Enganeni, inqubo yokondla iyisenzo sothando oludla yonke into. Futhi lapho silahlekelwa yilo muzwa, siqala ukufuna ozongena esikhundleni
Ngokuvamile, ngisho nokuqaphela ukuthi isisindo esiningi siyamphazamisa, umuntu akakwazi ukushintsha ukudla kwakhe ngokwakhe - kuze kube yilapho ethola imbangela yokulangazelela kwakhe ukudla. Kungase kube usizi olungaphili, noma ukukhipha isisu, noma umvuzo wokusebenza kanzima. Emsebenzini wakhe, u-Ilya Suslov wahlangana nezinzuzo ezingokwengqondo ezingaba ngamashumi amabili nambili ezivela ekukhuluphaleni.
"Lapho sihlaziya isimo neklayenti futhi sithola imbangela yesisindo esiningi, ngemva kwesikhathi esithile amakhilogremu engeziwe aqala ukuhamba ngokwawo," kusho i-psychotherapist. “Ukudla kuthathela indawo uthando. Ingane incela ibele likanina, izwa ukunambitheka kobisi, ukufudumala kwayo, ibona umzimba wayo, amehlo, imamatheka, izwa izwi lakhe, izwa ukushaya kwenhliziyo yayo. Kuye, inqubo yokondla iyisenzo sothando oludla konke nokuvikeleka. Futhi lapho silahlekelwa yilo muzwa, siqala ukufuna ozongena esikhundleni sawo. Okuthengeka kakhulu wukudla. Uma sifunda ukuzinika uthando ngendlela ehlukile, uma sibona isidingo sethu sangempela futhi singasanelisa ngokuqondile, ngeke kudingeke ukuthi silwe nokukhuluphala ngokweqile - ngeke nje sibe khona. ”