Okuqukethwe
Ekuqaleni kwezinyanga ezingu-24 zendodana yakhe u-Almire, uSarah, 33, waphawula ukushintsha kwesimo sengqondo enganeni yakhe ayenobuhlobo obuseduze nayo kuze kube yileso sikhathi. Nokho ehlakaniphe kakhulu futhi ezolile, waqala ukuthukuthela nokungiphikisa. Wathi cha ukugeza, ukulala, itiye ntambama. Ukuphila kwethu kwansuku zonke kwakugcwele izinkinga, ”kubhala umama osemncane. Inkathi ebizwa ngokufanelekile ngokuthi “Iminyaka emibili Esabekayo”, ngakho-ke! Ngoba yilokho abakhuluma isiNgisi abakubiza ngokuthi lesi sikhathi sokuphikiswa, esivame kakhulu ezinganeni ezincane, ezenzeka cishe eminyakeni emibili.
Uma le “nkinga yeminyaka emibili” ithunaza umzali, futhi kunzima enganeni ekubambeni ukukhungatheka kwayo, kuyinto evamile. “Phakathi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 nezingu-24, singena esigabeni sokushintsha kusuka enganeni kuya kwesacathula. Ibizwa ngokuthi i-Terrible Two, ”kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uSuzanne Vallières encwadini yakhe. Amathiphu we-Psychic wezingane ezisuka ku-0 kuye ku-3 ubudala (Les éditions de L'Homme).
Kungani ingane inzima ikakhulukazi kule minyaka?
Lapho eneminyaka engu-2 ubudala, ingane iqonda kancane kancane ukuthi "I". Uqala ukufana nokuthi ungumuntu ophelele. Lesi siqephu siphawula ukuqala kokuqinisekiswa kwakhe kanye nobuyena. “Angiphilanga kabi kulesi sikhathi, kuvuma uSarah. Ngezwa sengathi indodana yami iyashelela iseyingane. Wayecela ukuzimela kithina, kodwa okuxakayo ukuthi wayemncane kakhulu ukuthi angakwazi ukuzinakekela njengomuntu omdala. Ukukhungatheka nokucasuka kwakuvamile ngasohlangothini lwethu kokubili nakwelakhe. ”
Ku-Suzanne Vallières, lesi sifiso "sokwenza yedwa" sivumelekile futhi kufanele sikhuthazwe. “Kulesi sikhathi empilweni yabo bathola ikhono labo lokwenza imisebenzi ethile bebodwa. Umuzwa wokuzimela enganeni ozoyinika isifiso sokufunda futhi ikhombise ngokuziqhenya ukuthi iyakwazi. “
Uhlobo lwenkinga yokuqala yobusha oludingekayo ekukhuleni okuhle kwengane, okufaka izinzwa zabazali ekuhlolweni. “Sihlukumezeke phakathi kwenjabulo yokubabona bezuza ukuzimela kanye nokukhathala kwengqondo ukubona imisebenzi yansuku zonke ithatha isikhathi esiningi, kuchaza umama osemncane. Ukuhlala uzolile lapho ubhekene nokusho ukuthi “cha” ngokuphindaphindiwe nokwenqaba ukubambisana ngemva komsebenzi wosuku kwakungelula ngaso sonke isikhathi. “
Inkinga yeminyaka emibili: ukungakwazi ukulawula imizwa yomuntu
Kule minyaka, ingane isesigabeni sokufunda imizwa yayo. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi soshintsho, ubuchopho bosana abukavuthwa ngokwanele ngokomzwelo ukuze bukwazi ukubhekana nokukhungatheka. Ukungavuthwa okuchaza ikakhulukazi intukuthelo nokushintshashintsha kwemizwa okuvame ukuhlotshaniswa ngokungalungile nakho imiphefumulo.
Lapho zibhekene nosizi, amahloni, intukuthelo noma ukukhungatheka, izingane ezincane zingase zizizwe zikhungathekile futhi zingazi ukuthi zingabhekana kanjani nalokho ezikuzwayo. “Ezimeni ezinzima, ngangivame ukumnika ingilazi yamanzi ukuze amsize ehlise umoya futhi aphazamise ukunaka kwakhe kancane. Lapho nginomuzwa wokuthi uyamukela, ngiyamsiza ukuba asho lokho akuzwayo. Ngaphandle kokumlulaza noma ukumlulaza, ngiyamchazela ukuthi ngiyakuqonda ukuziphatha kwakhe, kodwa zikhona ezinye izindlela zokusabela. ”
Indlela yokuphelezela ingane yakho ngesikhathi "sesigaba esingekho"?
Nakuba it is hhayi Kunconywa ukuba ajezise ingane yale minyaka ezama ukugomela, indlela yokugcina uhlaka nemingcele, edingekayo ekuthuthukiseni ingane yakho encane? USarah kanye nomngane wakhe bazihlomise ngesineke ukuze babhekane nezinkinga zika-Almire ngomusa. “Sizame izindlela eziningi zokumshweleza. Bekungasho lutho ngaso sonke isikhathi, sazama okuningi futhi saphumputha indlela yethu, sizama ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze singaziboni sinecala noma ukusicindezela, imininingwane yowesifazane osemusha. Lapho ngizizwa ngikhathele ukubamba, ngangidlulisela induku koshade naye futhi ngokuphambene nalokho. ”
Emsebenzini wakhe "Amathiphu engqondo wezingane ezineminyaka engu-0 kuya ku-3 ”, uSuzanne Vallières ubala amathiphu amaningana okuphelezela ingane yakhe:
- Ungamjezisi omncane wakho
- Chaza futhi ubeke imikhawulo ngokusekelwe kulokho okuthathwa njengokungaxoxiswana njengokugeza, ukudla, noma isikhathi sokulala
- Esimeni esibucayi, ngenelela ngokuqinile ngenkathi usalokhu uxoxisana nokuqonda
- Qaphela ukuthi ungayideleli ingane yakho
- Siza ingane yakho kuphela lapho ikucela
- Thuthukisa imizamo kanye nemisebenzi efinyelelwe
- Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuba yenze izinqumo ezilula zansuku zonke, njengokukhetha izingubo zokugqoka
- Vikela ingane yakho ngokuchaza uhlelo losuku nemisebenzi ezayo
- Khumbula ukuthi ingane isencane futhi kuvamile ukuthi ibuyele ekuziphatheni kwengane ngezikhathi ezithile.
Ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kancane kancane
Ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa ze-Terrible Two, uSarah wathola ukuthi ukuziphatha kuka-Almire kwakushintsha kancane kancane endleleni efanele. “Lapho sineminyaka emi-3, indodana yethu yayibambisana kakhulu futhi ithukuthele kancane. Siyaziqhenya futhi siyajabula ukubona ubuntu bakhe bumila ngokunembe kakhulu nsuku zonke. ”
Uma uzwa ukuthi ingane yakho isezinhlungwini zangempela noma ukuthi isimo siyaqhubeka ngaphandle kwezimpawu zokuthuthuka, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo singakusiza futhi sikweluleke ngokuziphatha okufanele ukuthathe, kuyilapho sisiza ingane yakho encane ukuba iveze lokho ekuzwayo.