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Ithangi, indiza, indiza engujekamanzi ... Ingane yami ithanda ukudlala isosha ngamathoyizi ayo empi
Phakathi neminyaka emi-2 no-3, ngemva kwesigaba sokuphikisa, kwabonakala ngokuthi “cha!” »Iphindaphinda, ingane iqala ukukhombisa intshisekelo ngezikhali namathoyizi empi. Kuze kube yileso sikhathi engasenamandla phambi komuntu omdala ayemthatha njengomdondoshiya ophiwe amandla okuphila nokufa, agcine enesibindi sokuziqinisa, uzizwa enamandla. Futhi imidlalo yamaqhawe ifanekisela lokhu kudliwa kwamandla, ikakhulukazi phakathi kwabafana abancane. Esinye isizathu esivamile: izipho zezingane zivame "ubulili": izibhamu noma izinkemba zinikezwa kalula kumfana omncane kunentombazane. Ngakho-ke ukukhangwa kwakhe emidlalweni ayibona njengeyohlobo lwakhe ...
Ngale midlalo, umfana omncane uveza imizwa yakhe yobudlova bemvelo. Uthola amandla okulimaza, kodwa futhi nokuvikela. Kuphinde kube yisikhathi lapho ethola khona eyakhe ubulungu bobulili : ubalwa namadoda ngoba unomthondo. Njengezethulo ezingokomfanekiso ze-phallus, ama-sabers nama-pistols avumela umfana omncane ukuba angeze ohlangothini lwe-virility. Nokuba nguyena ovikela unina.
Indima yakho : siza ingane yakho ihlukanise phakathi kwezikhathi zokudlala ezicatshangwayo nezimo zempilo yangempela. Kungcono, ikakhulukazi, ukubanqabela ukukhomba izindawo ezibalulekile (ikhanda, i-bust) njengoba "i-villain yangempela" ingenza: emdlalweni, uma uhlose othile, kuphela emilenzeni ephansi.
Ungavimbeli ingane yakho amathoyizi nezibalo zempi
Uma umfana omncane ekhulula ulaka lwakhe ngamathoyizi akhe empi, ngeke athambekele kakhulu ekusebenziseni izibhakela enkundleni yokudlala. Ngaphandle kwalokho, uma ingafakwanga emdlalweni, ukuthambekela kwayo okunolaka kuzoba khona isikhathi eside, ngendlela ecashile: njengoba ekhula, angase alondoloze unya oluthile kwababuthaka kakhulu, esikhundleni sokubavikela nokubavikela. Ngakho-ke ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukwenqabela ingane yakho ukudlala ngamathoyizi empi ... cindezela ngokuphelele ulaka lwakhe. Ube esezifaka engozini yokungenzi lutho. Ngokuqoqwa, ngeke aphumelele ukuzivikela futhi uzothatha indima ye-scapegoat. Imizwa yakhe enolaka inomunye umsebenzi: kungenxa yabo ukuthi ingane ithatha izinselele, ingenela ukuncintisana nabanye futhi, kamuva, izodlula imincintiswano, izuze ukunqoba. Uma bevalwa umlomo kusenesikhathi, ingane izokhula yesaba ukuhlolwa, amathuba okuncintisana nabanye. Ngeke abe nokuzethemba okwenele ukuthatha indawo emfanele.
Indima yakho : ungenqabi imidlalo ebonisa udlame ngoba wesaba ukuthi uzokhula kuye umoya onobudlova nobungqongqoshe. Ngoba ngenxa yokwenqaba ukumbona ehambisa ulaka lwakhe ngokudlala lapho umuntu ezibeka engozini yokungalinganiseli ubuntu bakhe.
Siza ingane yakhe ukuthi inqobe ukuthatheka kwayo ngemidlalo enezikhali zempi
Ingabe udubula noma yini enyakazayo? Ngo-3, indlela yakhe yokudlala impi ilula. Kepha phakathi kweminyaka emi-4 neyesi-6, imidlalo yakhe, ibhalwe ngaphezulu, hlanganisa imithetho eqinile. Uyobe eseqonda, ngosizo lwakho, ukuthi ubudlova obungenanjongo abunancazelo nokuthi ukusetshenziswa kwamandla kuyinzuzo kuphela ukuvikela isizathu esifanelekile, maqondana nemithetho.
Ingabe ufuna ukubhekana namaqabane akhe? Kunezinye izindawo ngaphandle kwalezo ezinobudlova obungokomzimba. Ngemidlalo yebhodi noma izimfumbe ezilula, umfana omncane angabonisa ukuthi ungumpetha mayelana nesivinini sokuphendula, ukuhlakanipha, ubuqili noma ukuhleka. Kukuwe ukuthi umenze aqonde ukuthi ziningi izindlela zokuba uqine. Uphuma ehlomile kuphela? Mkhombise ukuthi zikhona ezinye izindlela zokuthola inhlonipho. Manje yisikhathi sokumbonisa nsuku zonke ukuthi uma ningavumelani, nixazulule izingxabano zenu ngokukhuluma. Futhi ukuthi akuyena ngempela onamandla ngokomzimba owinayo.
Indima yakho : ngokuvamile, zama ukuqonda isizathu sokuziphatha kwakhe nokuthakasela kwakhe. Aphawule naye. Zinikeze incazelo (“isimilo” esincane akulimazi) futhi uma kungenzeka, nikeza ezinye izindlela ezinobudlova obuncane, ezinhle kakhulu.