Siyajabula ukunamukela, bafundi abathandekayo besayithi! Namuhla sizocubungula ukuthi yini eyakha uhlobo lobuntu olujabulisayo kusukela ekuhlukanisweni kwezimpawu zokugcizelela umlingiswa ngokusho kukaLeonhard.
Siphinde sifunda amandla akhe nobuthakathaka bakhe ukuze siqonde kangcono ukuthi singaxhumana kanjani naye futhi sakhe ubudlelwano ukuze banelise izinhlangothi zombili.
Isici esiyinhloko
Uhlobo lomuntu olujabulisayo alunangqondo, alukwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha nokusabela kwabo.
Wenza izinqumo ngaso leso sikhathi, ngaphandle kokuzama ukuhlolisisa izinzuzo nezingozi, ukuze acabange ngokucophelela ngemiphumela engase ibe khona yokukhetha kwakhe. Okusho ukuthi, wenza futhi aphile, ethembele kuphela emizweni engokwemvelo.
Uma kubhekwa ukuxhamazela, umuntu onjalo akazi ukuthi abekezelele kanjani, abuyisane nokuthile, alindele. Uma ufuna okuthile, khona-ke isifiso kufanele sifezeke ngokuphuthumayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izimo.
Isibonelo, phakathi nobusuku, uzophumula efuna isitolo lapho ungathenga khona uhlobo oluthile luka-ayisikhilimu.
Ukucabanga kuhamba kancane kunezinye izinhlobo. Okusho ukuthi, uma umuntu oyedwa ekwazi ukuhlanganisa ulwazi ngokushesha, khona-ke lolu hlobo kuzodingeka luchaze izikhathi eziningana, lulungise ngisho namaqiniso asobala.
Banaka kakhulu ukubukeka kwabo, bangena emidlalweni futhi ngokuvamile bathuthuke kahle ngokomzimba. Ukugomela, okunenjongo, yingakho cishe njalo befinyelela imigomo yabo, ngaphandle uma, yiqiniso, benza iphutha elibulalayo ngephutha ngokulandela izifiso zabo.
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Ngokwemvelo, ukungaziphathi okunjalo kuyimbangela yezingxabano nabanye abantu. Ebudlelwaneni obuseduze, uyakwazi ukubangela ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka okukhulu, akhulume amazwi alimazayo emizwelweni. Usho okufika kuqala emqondweni, yingakho evamise ukuba namahloni futhi azizwe enecala ngokuziphatha kwakhe.
Emsebenzini, kancane, ugijimela ukubhala incwadi yokwesula. Yikuphi abaphathi abavame ukusayina, okubaphoqa ukuthi balulame befuna inkampani entsha, ibhizinisi elivuma ukumqasha.
Ozakwethu abazimisele kakhulu kuye, okuyinto eqondakalayo. Phela, kufanele babhekane nokuqubuka kolaka, futhi ngenxa yalokhu abakhokhelwa imali eyengeziwe.
Noma iyiphi into encane ingabangela ukucasuka, khona-ke abazange bambheke ngaleyo ndlela, khona-ke ngokuzumayo waqaphela ukuthi umholo awuhambisani naye, noma iziphathimandla zavela ukuthi azilungile ngendlela esingathanda ngayo.
Emkhayeni, ukuzithiba kuvame ukuholela ekuhlaselweni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili buni. Ngisho nomuntu wesifazane uyakwazi ukujikijela indoda yakhe izibhakela uma esehluliwe.
Engaqapheli ukuthi usethuthuke kangcono ngokomzimba, futhi akafaki impilo yakhe engozini kuphela, kodwa futhi nempilo yakhe uma, elandela isibonelo sakhe, esebenzisa amandla.
Futhi, ngaphambi kokushada, kubalulekile ngabalingani besikhathi esizayo ukuba bacabange ngokucophelela ukuthi bakulungele yini ukubekezelela nokuthethelela ukukhashelwa. Ngemuva kwakho konke, njengoba ukhumbula, abantu abajabulisayo abathinteki emibonweni yabo, ngakho-ke, lapho bezwa isifiso sobulili, bazozama ngokushesha ukukubona.
Futhi ngenxa yokuphila okuxekethile kobulili, izifo ezihlukahlukene ze-venereal zenzeka, izingane ezingekho emthethweni zivela.
Detstvo
Izingane ezijabule zivame ukukhala isikhathi eside, zincisha abazali ukubekezela. Bangakwazi ukusebenza amahora amaningi, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abantu abadala bazama kanjani ukubaduduza, behlise umoya noma bababuyisele phakathi, yonke imizamo iyohluleka.
Lapho bephakathi kontanga, balwela amandla, bathanda ukuzwa ukuthi abanye bayesaba futhi balalele iziqondiso zabo. Bahlukumeza labo ababuthaka kakhudlwana, bahlukumeza izilwane futhi ngokunyenya benze amaqhinga angcolile.
Ingane enjalo ayidabuki njengengane, ayivamile ukubonakala idlala futhi ihleka ngokunganaki.
Uzazisa futhi avikele izinto zakhe siqu kangangokuthi akavumeli abanye ukuba bazibambe ngezandla zabo ukuze bazibheke.
Noma yimuphi umzamo wokuthatha ithoyizi nanoma iyiphi enye into ngaphandle kokubuza uzothathwa ngobutha. Okusho ukuthi, uzovutha ngokushesha futhi ahlasele "umenzi" ngokuthuka nezibhakela, efuna ukuvikela impahla yakhe.
Ngokuvamile intsha ibalekela ikhaya, yenqaba ukuya esikoleni, yeqa amakilasi. Bangakwazi ukungena efulethini lomuntu, bashaye othile, kodwa ngokuvamile bayafunwa ngoba baye kwelinye idolobha beyofuna uhambo.
Kwanele nje ukukholelwa indaba mayelana nokuthi inhle kangakanani lapho futhi kuyoba nesifiso esingenakuvinjelwa sokubona yonke into ngamehlo akho. Futhi, njengoba ukhumbula, abantu abajabule abakwazi ukuphendula ngezenzo zabo, kanye nokulindela izenzakalo.
Ngakho-ke, izingane zigijima ngaphandle kwemali yokugibela izintaba ukuya edolobheni lamaphupho azo, zingaqondi nhlobo ukuthi lolu hambo lungaholela kuphi.
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Impulsivity iletha lolu hlobo lokugcizelelwa komlingiswa ekwakhekeni kwezidakamizwa, okungukuthi, ukuncika. Ngokuyisisekelo, abantu abanjalo "bawela" ebudaleni.
Isibonelo, ukungqubuzana kuye kwaphakama, futhi intukuthelo isifinyelele eqophelweni elidlulele, okwenza ufune ukuzola futhi ululame ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Bese kuba nesifiso sokuphuza ngokushesha okuthile okunamandla ukuze udakwe futhi uphumule. Futhi, uma kubhekwa iqiniso lokuthi ukuqubuka kobudlova kwenzeka kaningi, khona-ke isandla sifinyelela ebhodleleni ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Unembeza awuthuthuki kahle ngoba imizwa nemizwa ithatha izintambo. Kungani kanye nezinga eliphezulu lobugebengu phakathi kwabameleli balolu hlobo lomlingiswa. Benza izinto eziwubuwula. Ake sithi kukhona abakubonayo base beyifuna, kodwa uma ingekho imali yokuthenga, ngaphandle kokungabaza, bayomane bayintshontshe.
Konke lokhu okushiwo ngenhla kuwumphumela wokungakwazi ukuzibamba. Esimeni esizolile, abantu abanjalo abenzi ubugebengu, abazuli futhi bayakwazi ukunakekela abathandekayo.
Okungukuthi, ngeke kushiwo ukuthi banonya futhi baziphatha kabi, abaqondi nje ukuthi izenzo ezithile zingaholela kuphi. Ngakho-ke, bazisola ngobuqotho ngezenzo zabo, uma umphakathi ubalahla futhi ubajezisa.
Phela, ngaleso sikhathi abazange bafisele okubi kwabanye, ngokungafani namahlongandlebe eqiniso, aphucwe uzwela nomusa kwezinye izimo.
Izincomo
- Njengoba kunikezwe ukugxila emizweni engokwemvelo nasezifisweni, kufanele ufunde ukwehlisa ijubane uwedwa, ulalele lokho ingqondo "ekugqugquzelayo". Zinike isikhathi esiningi kunokuvamile ukuze wenze isinqumo. Khumbula umugqa ka-Scarlett O'Hara, "Ngeke ngicabange ngakho namuhla. Ngizocabanga ngakho kusasa»? Ngakho-ke, mthathe njengesibonelo futhi wehlise ijubane ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ufuna ukuthatha isinyathelo ngaphandle kokuba nesikhathi sokucabanga ngemiphumela engase ibe khona.
- Bheka isihloko sendlela yokuthuthukisa uhlobo lokucabanga lokuhlaziya. Lokhu kuzokusiza ezimweni ezinzima ukuxhuma ikhanda lakho, hhayi nje imizwa yakho.
- Zijwayeze izindlela zokuzindla nokuphefumula ukuze usize ukulawula ukucindezeleka. Ezikhathini lapho ukhathazekile, uzokwazi ukusebenzisa amasu, ngenxa yokuthi ukuzola kuzofika ngokushesha kakhulu kunalokho ojwayele ukukwenza. Futhi lokhu kuzokusindisa ezenzweni eziningi ezingahlelelwe kanye nezimo ezingathandeki.
Ukugcwaliswa
Futhi yilokho kuphela okwanamuhla, bafundi abathandekayo! Sincoma ukuthi uzijwayeze nge-accentuation yomlingiswa ngamunye okhona, lokhu kuzokusiza emsebenzini wakho nasempilweni yomndeni. Ungakwazi ukuqala, isibonelo, nge-athikili ekhuluma ngabantu ababonisayo. Futhi ubhalisele izibuyekezo zesayithi, ukuze wazi ngokushicilelwe okusha.
Ukuze uzihlole ukuthi ingabe ungummeleli wohlobo lokubonisa, thatha isivivinyo se-inthanethi, esikulesi sixhumanisi.
Zinakekele futhi ujabule!
Indaba ilungiswe isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, i-Gestalt Therapist, uZhuravina Alina