Ulimi Lomzimba Vs IQ — 8 Izinzuzo

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo senhlalakahle u-Amy Cuddy waba sengozini yemoto lapho eneminyaka engu-19 ubudala. Ukulimala ebuchosheni kwabangela ukuba i-IQ yakhe yehle ngamaphuzu angu-30. Ngaphambi kwenhlekelele, umfundi onethalente angafanisa ubuhlakani bomuntu ohlakaniphile, futhi ngemva kwengozi, ukusebenza kwakhe kwehle kwafinyelela ezingeni eliphakathi.

Le ngozi yaba yinhlekelele entombazaneni eyayihlela ukunikela impilo yayo kwezesayensi, futhi yayenza yazizwa ingenakuzisiza futhi ingalondekile. Naphezu kokulimala kobuchopho, wayesaphothula ekolishi futhi waze waphothula esikoleni ePrinceton.

Lokhu kwabonakala ikakhulukazi phakathi nezingxoxo ezinzima, izethulo, noma ngalezo zikhathi lapho kudingekile ukuvikela umbono womuntu. Ukutholwa kwaholela u-Amy Cuddy ukuthi afunde ulimi lomzimba kanye nomthelela wako ekuzethembeni ngakho-ke impumelelo.

Izinto ezinkulu azitholile zisemkhakheni wolimi lomzimba oluhle. Yini? Kuwulimi lomzimba oluhlanganisa ukubheka amehlo, ukuhlanganyela ngokugcwele engxoxweni, amakhono okulalela, ukuthinta okunenjongo okugcizelela umlayezo ozama ukuwudlulisa.

Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abantu abasebenzisa ulimi lomzimba «oluhle» kanye nokuma «okuqinile» kunamathuba amaningi okunqoba abantu, bakholisa kakhulu, futhi banobuhlakani obuphezulu bemizwa. Nazi izizathu eziyisishiyagalombili zokuthi kungani ulimi oluhle lomzimba lungcono kuwe kunobuhlakani obuphezulu.

1. Kushintsha ubuntu bakho

U-Amy Cuddy wazithola elungisa kahle ulimi lwakhe lomzimba (emqondisa umhlane, ephakamisa isilevu, eqondisa amahlombe akhe), okwamnika ukuzethemba futhi kwamphakamisa. Ngakho ulimi lomzimba luthinta amahomoni ethu. Siyazi ukuthi ingqondo yethu ishintsha umzimba wethu, kodwa kuvela ukuthi okuphambene nakho kuyiqiniso - umzimba ushintsha ingqondo yethu nobuntu bethu.

2. Yandisa amazinga e-testosterone

Le hormone ikhiqizwa kithi ngesikhathi semidlalo, phakathi nemincintiswano nokugembula. Kodwa i-testosterone ibalulekile okungaphezu nje kwezemidlalo. Akukhathalekile ukuthi ungowesilisa noma ungowesifazane, kukhulisa ukuzethemba futhi kwenza abanye abantu bakubuke ngamanye amehlo — njengomuntu othembekile nozethembayo ngomphumela omuhle womsebenzi wakhe. Ulimi lomzimba oluhle lunyusa amazinga e-testosterone ngama-20%.

3. Yehlisa amazinga e-cortisol

I-Cortisol i-hormone yokucindezeleka ephazamisa ukukhiqiza kwakho futhi idale imiphumela engemihle yezempilo yesikhathi eside. Ukunciphisa amazinga e-cortisol kunciphisa ukucindezeleka futhi kukuvumela ukuba ucabange ngokucacile, wenze izinqumo ngokushesha, ikakhulukazi ezimweni ezinzima. Phela, kungcono kakhulu ukuba nomphathi ongazithembi nje kuphela, kodwa futhi ezolile, kunomuntu omemeza futhi aphule. Ulimi lomzimba oluhle lwehlisa amazinga e-cortisol egazini ngama-25%.

4. Idala Inhlanganisela Enamandla

Abantu abanethonya bavame ukuba nolaka, ukuzethemba, nethemba. Bacabanga ngempela ukuthi banganqoba futhi bafake ubungozi kaningi. Kunomehluko omningi phakathi kwabantu abanamandla nababuthaka. Kodwa umehluko omkhulu wokuphila kulawa mahomoni amabili: i-testosterone, i-hormone yobuholi, ne-cortisol, i-hormone yokucindezeleka. Abesilisa ababusayo be-alpha esigabeni se-primate banamazinga aphezulu e-testosterone namazinga aphansi e-cortisol.

Le nhlanganisela idala ukuzethemba nokucaca kwengqondo okulungele ukusebenza ngaphansi kweminqamulajuqu eqinile, ukwenza izinqumo ezinzima, nokukwazi ukuphatha inani elikhulu lomsebenzi. Kodwa uma unesethi ehlukile yamahomoni, ungasebenzisa ulimi oluhle lomzimba ukuze uguqule izinto ezingenzeki ngokwemvelo. Ukuma okunamandla kuzoshintsha amazinga e-hormone futhi kukusize uphumule ngaphambi kokuhlolwa noma umhlangano obalulekile.

5. Kwenza ukhange nakakhulu

Kokunye ukuhlola kweNyuvesi yaseTufts, abafundi baboniswa amavidiyo angenamsindo. Lezi kwakuyizingxoxo phakathi kodokotela neziguli. Ngokubheka nje indlela odokotela abasebenzisa ngayo umzimba, abafundi bakwazi ukuqagela ukuthi yiziphi izimo isiguli kamuva samangalela udokotela, okungukuthi, sasizibona njengesisulu sokwelashwa okungalungile.

Isimo somzimba sithinta indlela abanye abakubona ngayo futhi kungase kubaluleke kakhulu kunephimbo lakho noma ngisho nalokho okushoyo. Ukwazi ukuthi uyisebenzisa kanjani ngendlela efanele kwenza abantu bakwethembe kakhulu. Uma uzizwa uqiniseka, uthatha amandla athile. Kodwa ngokwenza sengathi uyazethemba, uwazwa ngempela amandla.

6. Idlulisa ikhono

Ucwaningo lwe-Princeton luthole ukuthi kuthatha ividiyo eyodwa kuphela yamakhandidethi ephalamende noma i-gubernatorial ukubikezela ngokunembile ukuthi yimuphi ozowina ukhetho. Nakuba lokhu kungase kungakuthinti ukukhetha kwakho, kukhombisa ukuthi umbono wekhono uncike kakhulu olimini lomzimba.

Ulimi lomzimba luyithuluzi elinamandla ezingxoxweni (ngisho nalezo ezingokoqobo). Futhi akungabazeki ukuthi idlala indima enkulu ekhonweni lakho lokukholisa abanye ngendlela yakho yokucabanga, okuhlanganisa phakathi nengqungquthela yevidiyo.

7. Ithuthukisa ubuhlakani bemizwa

Ikhono lokukhuluma ngokuphumelelayo liwumgogodla wokuthuthukiswa kobuhlakani bemizwa. Ngokufunda ukuma okuqinile, ungathuthukisa i-EQ yakho futhi ulinganise lokho kuthuthukiswa ngokuhlolwa. Kodwa iphuzu labo akukhona ukuzenza umuntu onekhono futhi ohlakaniphile phakathi nesikhathi senhlolokhono, kodwa ukwenza kube yingxenye yobuntu bakho.

Kufana nokumomotheka — ngisho noma uziphoqelele ukuthi umoyizele, isimo sengqondo sisaphakama. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kwanele ukuthatha ukuma okuqinile imizuzu emibili ngosuku noma imizuzu emibili ngaphambi kwesimo esicindezelayo. Shuna ubuchopho bakho ukuze uthole intuthuko engcono kakhulu.

8. Ihlanganisa konke

Sivame ukucabanga ngomzimba njengomphumela wemizwa yethu, imizwa, imizwa. Lokhu kuyiqiniso, kodwa okuphambene nakho kuyiqiniso: kushintsha isimo sethu sengqondo, imizwelo futhi kulolonge ubuntu bethu.