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Idatha yonyaka ngamacala odlame lwasekhaya

Sithanda ukucabanga ngomkhaya wethu njengendawo ephephile, lapho singahlala khona siphephela ekucindezelekeni nasekusindisweni kwezwe lethu elimatasatasa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini esisongela ngaphandle kwekhaya, sithemba ukuthola isivikelo nokusekelwa othandweni lwalabo esinobuhlobo obuseduze kakhulu nabo. Ngokungangabazeki engomeni eyodwa endala yesiFulentshi kunamagama anjengalawa: “Kukuphi lapho ongazizwa ungcono khona kunasesifubeni somkhaya wakho siqu!” Nokho, kubantu abaningi, isifiso sokuthola ukuthula komkhaya sibonakala singenakwenzeka, njengoba abathandekayo babo bewumthombo wosongo kunokwethenjelwa nokulondeka. Bona →

Incazelo yamacala odlame lwasekhaya

Sibonga kakhulu kubasebenzi bezenhlalakahle nodokotela, isizwe sethu saqala ukukhathazeka ngokukhuphuka kobudlova basekhaya emindenini yaseMelika phakathi neminyaka yama-60 nasekuqaleni kwe-70s. Akumangazi ukuthi, ngenxa yezici zemibono yochwepheshe yalaba chwepheshe, imizamo yabo yokuqala yokuhlaziya izimbangela zokushaywa kwenkosikazi nengane yabonakala ekwakhiweni kwengqondo noma kwezokwelapha okugxile kumuntu othile, kanye nezifundo zokuqala zalesi simo. zazihloselwe ukuthola ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo zomuntu siqu ezinomthelela ekuphathweni kwakhe ngonya koshade naye kanye/noma izingane. Bona →

Izinto ezingase zibangele ukusetshenziswa kobudlova basekhaya

Ngizozama ukulungisa indlela entsha yokubhekana nenkinga yodlame lwasekhaya, ngigxile ezimeni ezehlukene ezingase zandise noma zehlise amathuba okuthi abantu abahlala endlini eyodwa bahlukumeze bodwa. Ngokombono wami, ulaka aluvamile ukusho isenzo esenziwe ngokunganaki. Ukuzwisa ingane ubuhlungu ngamabomu akufani nokwehluleka ukuyinakekela kahle; isihluku nobudedengu bubangelwa yizizathu ezahlukene. Bona →

Izixhumanisi zemiphumela yocwaningo

Izazi eziningi zomkhaya waseMelika ziyaqiniseka ukuthi umbono womphakathi ngamadoda njengenhloko yomkhaya ungesinye sezizathu eziyinhloko zokusetshenziswa kobudlova kwabafazi. Namuhla, izinkolelo zentando yeningi zivame kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili, futhi inani elikhulayo lamadoda lithi owesifazane kufanele ahlanganyele ngokulinganayo ekuthathweni kwezinqumo zomndeni. Ngisho noma lokhu kuyiqiniso, njengoba uStraus noJelles bephawula, abayeni «abaningi uma bengebaningi» baqiniseka ezinhliziyweni zabo ukuthi kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi babe nezwi lokugcina ezinqumweni zomkhaya ngenxa nje yokuthi bangamadoda. Bona →

Izinkambiso azizona izimfuneko ezanele zodlame

Imikhuba nokwehluka komphakathi ekusebenziseni amandla ngokungangabazeki kunomthelela ekusetshenzisweni kodlame lwasekhaya. Kodwa-ke, ezimweni eziningi, ukuziphatha okunolaka komuntu kubaluleke kakhulu kunezinkambiso zomphakathi ezimemezela isikhundla esiphezulu sendoda endlini. Ngokwazo, imithetho yokuziphatha ayikwazi ukuchaza ngokwanele ingcebo yolwazi olusha mayelana nokuziphatha okunolaka emndenini okutholwe ngenxa yocwaningo. Bona →

Isizinda somndeni nokuthambekela komuntu siqu

Cishe bonke abacwaningi bezinkinga zomkhaya baye baphawula isici esisodwa samalungu ayo athambekele ekubonakalisweni kobudlova: abaningi balaba bantu nabo babeyizisulu zobudlova ebuntwaneni. Eqinisweni, ukunakwa kososayensi kuye kwadonselwa kulesi sici kaningi kangangokuthi esikhathini sethu sekuyisikhathi eside ukukhuluma ngokubonakaliswa kobudlova, noma, ngamanye amazwi, mayelana nokudluliselwa kokuthambekela kobudlova kusukela esizukulwaneni kuya kwesinye. isizukulwane. Udlame luzala ubudlova, ngakho bayaphikisana nalaba bacwaningi bezinkinga zomndeni. Abantu abaye bahlukunyezwa beseyizingane ngokuvamile bahlakulela ukuthambekela kobudlova. Bona →

Ukuchayeka ebudloveni ebuntwaneni kunomthelela ekubonakaleni kobudlova lapho usumdala

Abantu abavame ukubona izigcawu zodlame baye bangabi nandaba nokuziphatha okunolaka. Ikhono labo lokucindezela ulaka lwangaphakathi lingase libe buthaka ngenxa yokuntula ukuqonda ukuthi akwamukelekile ukuhlasela abanye abantu ngenxa yezithakazelo zabo. Ngakho, abafana, lapho bebona abantu abadala belwa, bafunda ukuthi bangakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo ngokuhlasela omunye umuntu. Bona →

Umthelela wengcindezi nokusabela okungekuhle ngokomzwelo ekusetshenzisweni kodlame lwasekhaya

Izigameko eziningi zobudlova esizibonayo eduze kwethu ziwukusabela okungokomzwelo esimweni esingagculisi sezindaba. Abantu abazizwa bengajabule ngenxa yezizathu ezithile bangase babe nokucasuka okukhulu futhi babonise ukuthambekela kolaka. Izimo eziningi (kodwa hhayi zonke) lapho indoda isebenzisa ubudlova kumkayo kanye nezingane futhi / noma ihlaselwa umkakhe ingase iqale ngokufutheka okungokomzwelo okubangelwa imizwa engemihle yomyeni noma yomfazi mayelana nento yokuhlukunyezwa isikhathi sokubonakaliswa kwayo. Kodwa-ke, ngiphinde ngaveza ukuthi umbono omubi oholela odlameni uvame ukwenzeka ngokubambezeleka kwesikhathi. Okuhlukile kubonwa kuphela ezimweni lapho umuntu enezinhloso ezinkulu ezinolaka, futhi imikhawulo yakhe yangaphakathi ekusebenziseni amandla ibuthakathaka. Bona →

Izici zokungqubuzana ezingaba yizisusa zodlame

Ngokuvamile, isifiso sokwenza isenzo sobudlova siqiniswa ukuvela kwezimo ezintsha eziphazamisayo noma ukuvela kwezinto ezikhumbuza izikhathi ezimbi esikhathini esidlule eziholela ekuveleni kwezinhloso ezinonya. Lo msebenzi ungenziwa ngengxabano noma ukungqubuzana okungalindelekile. Ikakhulukazi, amadoda nabafazi abaningi babika indlela bona noma abalingani babo bomshado ababonisa ngayo ukunganeliseki, behlukunyezwa ngokubelesela noma ukuthukwa obala, ngaleyo ndlela bebangela ukusabela kobudlova. Bona →

Isifinyezo

Imiphumela yocwaningo ikhombisile ukuthi isimo sezindaba emphakathini wonkana nasempilweni yomuntu ngamunye, uhlobo lobudlelwano bomndeni ngisho nezici zesimo esithile, konke uma kuhlangene kungaba nomthelela emathubeni okuthi omunye womndeni. amalungu omndeni azosebenzisa ubudlova komunye. Bona →

Isahluko 9

Izimo okubulala ngaphansi kwazo. Ukuthambekela komuntu siqu. umthelela emphakathini. Ukusebenzisana kukhomishini yodlame. Bona →