Ukuncenga imizwa kwakha izimo zengqondo nezindinganiso ezifanele. Lokhu kumele kubhekwe. ukuthi, nakuba kuphumelela, ukuheha imizwa yengane kusebenzela abaningi, kodwa hhayi bonke, izingane. Izingane ezinzima kakhulu nezihlakaniphe kakhulu zikhumbula imigomo yazo, futhi ukuheha imizwa akuzishintshi. Kulezi zimo, ukuncenga imizwa kufanele kwengezwe ngezinye izindlela zokufundisa.
Ukuncenga imizwa yengane ngokuvamile kuyisu labesifazane. Izinketho ezivamile zikhanga uzwela (“Bheka ukuthi udadewenu ukhale kanjani ngenxa yakho!” noma “Ngicela ungamthukuthelisi umama”), ukuphazamiseka ezintweni ezingafunwa (“Bheka ukuthi iyinyoni enjani!) Nokukhangwa ngabafiselekayo, njengoba kanye nokwenziwa kwezinqumo ngesisekelo semizwa ingane eyibonisa kubazali (imodeli Yokukhanya Kwethrafikhi).
Bheka, udadewenu omncane uyakhala!
Okumangaza abantu abadala, ikakhulukazi omama, lesi sikhalo ngokuvamile asisebenzi nhlobo ezinganeni ezincane. Nokho, uma izingane zithukuthela isikhathi eside ezimweni ezinjalo, ngokushesha noma kamuva ziyaqonda ukuthi abantu abadala bafunani kubo, futhi baqale ukuveza ukuphenduka. Nokho, izingane zithanda ukukopisha abantu abadala, futhi uma umama evame ukucasuka, izingane ziqala ukuphinda lokhu ngemva kwakhe. Kunzima ukukubiza ngozwelo lwangempela, kodwa umgwaqo uyalungiswa. Uzwela lwangempela lwenzeka ezinganeni ngaphambi kweminyaka eyisikhombisa, futhi lapha konke kungumuntu ngamunye. Uma izingane zithandeka kakhulu kulokhu, kodwa azilahlwanga kulokhu nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Ngicela ungathukutheli mama!
Lapho ingane ingalaleli, umama uqala ukucasuka futhi abonise ukuthi mubi kangakanani ekuziphatheni okunjalo kwengane. Lo modeli uvame kakhulu, futhi uvame ukwenziwa phakathi kwabesifazane. Imiphumela yakhe? Icala, uthando nokulalela kwakheka ngempumelelo ezinganeni ezincane, ikakhulukazi amantombazane. Izingane ezindala, ikakhulukazi abafana, ziba zimbi nakakhulu kulokhu, ziyacasuka noma zingabi nandaba nemizwa kamama wazo.
Bhekani inyoni engaka!
Ingane ibheka izinto eziningi ezikhangayo ezizungezile, eziphazamisa okungadingekile. Akalidli iphalishi - sizokunikeza i-apula. Akafuni ukwenza izivivinyo ekuseni, sizonikeza ukuyobhukuda nabangani. Ukubhukuda akuzange kuhambe kahle — ake sizame ukuthakasela umdlalo omuhle wethenisi. Isebenza kahle nezingane ezincane. Lapho izingane sezikhulile, maningi amathuba okuthi zingafeyili. Njengomthetho, le ndlela iphetha ngephethini yokugwazisa.
Kulo modeli, abazali ezenzweni zabo baqondiswa imizwa nokusabela kwengane. Imizwa nezenzo zengane ziyimibala yerobhothi lomzali. Lapho umntwana esabela kahle ezenzweni zabazali, ejabulela izenzo zabazali, lokhu kuwukukhanya okuluhlaza kubo, isibonakaliso kubazali: “Phambili! Wenza konke kahle." Uma ingane igcwalisa izicelo zabazali ngokunqikaza, ikhohlwa, ihlwitha, lokhu kuphuzi kubazali, umbala oyisixwayiso: “Qaphela, qaphela, kubonakala sengathi kukhona okungalungile! Cabanga ngaphambi kokuthi usho noma wenze! Uma ingane ibhikisha, lo mbala obomvu kubazali, uphawu: “Yeka !!! Yiqhwa! Akusona igxathu eliya phambili kule ndlela! Khumbula ukuthi wephule kuphi nokuthi yini, yilungise ngokushesha nangendlela ehambisana nemvelo!
Imodeli iyimpikiswano. Izinzuzo zalo modeli ukuzwela impendulo, ukungalungi ukuthi kulula ukuwela ngaphansi kwethonya lengane. Ingane iqala ukulawula abazali, ibonise ukusabela kwayo okukodwa noma okunye ...
U-Yuri Kosagovsky. Ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwami
Ngakubona lokhu lapho ngibona ukuthi ukungincenga kukamama ekucabangeni kwami akuzange kube namphumela kimi. "Intshisekelo yezinto ezibonakalayo" lapho bonke abantu kanye nabanye abantu bekhanga ngaso sonke isikhathi - osomnotho ... izazi zefilosofi ... osopolitiki nababonisi abazange bathinte futhi. Nganikezwa amadola angu-5 ngaye amahlanu - kodwa lolu hlelo aluzange lusebenze.
Kwangithinta kuphela ukububula kukamama nezindaba ezazingihlaba umxhwele.
Kuze kube manje, ngizenza samuntu kancane namaqhawe ezincwadi engangizifunda ngiseyingane (zinomphumela ongokomzwelo nohlala njalo kimi).
Izingxabano zikamama zokuthi ngizoba umqaphi uma ngingafundanga kahle azizange zingithinte, kodwa ukububula kwakhe kwangiphatha kabi.
Ngolunye usuku, ehlezi esitulweni, wabubula futhi wathi: “Oh, isandulela sika-Rachmaninoff ku-C sharp encane…—yini into?” - futhi ngachitha iminyaka engu-10 e-conservatory esikhundleni sesihlanu (!) Ngizama ukuqonda - kuyini?
Ngalokhu, amaphupho aphinde athinte ukufinyeleleka kwethu futhi asiqondise futhi asikhuthaze ukuthi senze, noma okuphambene nalokho, siqaphele ukwenza lapho kungenasidingo.
Kwakuwukuphefumula kwakhe okukodwa okwangenza ngadlala amahora angu-11 ngosuku epiyano iminyaka engu-10, kodwa akazange angivumele ngiye esikoleni somculo nasekolishi, kodwa akazange angivumele ukuba ngikhulume nothisha esikoleni somculo. Nguye owangenza ngazitholela ngokwami eminyakeni eyi-10 - uyini umculo nopiyano?
Nguye owaphoqa uphrojusa ukuthi avele endaweni yami futhi nguyena owaphoqa umdidiyeli ukuthi angihudulele eParis Conservatory lapho ngadlala khona ikhonsathi yami yopiyano ngokwesicelo sabo futhi ngashiya isakhiwo njengesihlonipho. ilungu le-Paris Conservatory — nakuba ngingakuthathi kalula futhi hhayi "ukuqeqeshwa" okuncane, ngaphandle kwentshiseko nothando lomculo.
Futhi kwaba ukububula kukamama okwenza othile wangimemela kwi-International Festival futhi ngicula khona - mina ngokwami angiyi ndawo.
Yilokhu imizwa eyikho kanye nendlela emthinta ngayo umuntu, futhi iyini imiphumela yezenzo zabanye abantu. Kuhle nje futhi kusebenza ngempumelelo. Ukusebenza kahle” kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Konke okusebenza ngempumelelo nokuziphendukela kwemvelo kwakudingeka ekuthuthukisweni komuntu ukuze aphile.