Okuqukethwe
Sidla isidlo sasekuseni, siyisa izingane enkulisa noma sizibone ziye esikoleni, siye emsebenzini, sibone bonke ozakwethu abafanayo lapho ... Usuku Lwezilwane Ezincane, hhayi okunye! Kungani siba imilutha yendlela yokwenza? Futhi indlela yokuphunyuka kuyo uma ikhathele?
Indaba yentatheli ebanjwe oqotsheni ngemuva kokuqopha iholidi edolobheni lesifundazwe saseMelika yenza umxhwele kakhulu kubabukeli emhlabeni jikelele.
I-Groundhog Day yakhululwa eminyakeni engu-27 edlule. Futhi kusukela lapho, igama layo seliphenduke igama lezehlakalo eziphindaphinda kaningi ezimpilweni zethu.
Umkhuba ohlukile
ULydia oneminyaka engu-43 uthi: “Mina nomama savumelana ukuvakasha ngamaSonto, futhi ngazi kusengaphambili ukuthi uzophinde akhulume ngempumelelo amadodakazi abangane bakhe nabantu ayejwayelene nabo. – Yini ukuphendula kulokhu, akucaci! “Ngiyaxolisa ukuthi angizange ngibe indodakazi ekufanele”? Ukulinda le ngxoxo ngaso sonke isikhathi kungiphazamisa emoyeni kusukela ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku.
Kodwa abanye bayaphinda ngiyacela: “Lapho nginquma ukuvivinya umzimba, ngaba nesisindo esingu-120 kg,” kusho u-Igor oneminyaka engu-28. - Ngangazi ukuthi ngeke ngikwazi ukuzilolonga isikhathi eside, futhi ngavuma nami ukuthi ngizokwenza izivivinyo ezingaphansi kwemizuzu engu-15, kodwa nsuku zonke, ngaphandle kokukhetha. Sekudlule izinyanga eziyisithupha, manje sengino-95 kg. Ngiphumelele: Ngizizwa ngingcono futhi ngiyaziqhenya ngokuthi ngifeze icebo lami.
Kubonakala sengathi i-monotony yezenzo ayikwenzi uhlale unesithukuthezi?
“Uma kuwukukhetha kwethu, khona-ke ukuphindaphinda kunikeza umuzwa wokulawula,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMaria Khudyakova. "Isinyathelo ngesinyathelo, sibheke emgomweni, futhi noma isinyathelo ngasinye sifana nesedlule, sibona umehluko oqinisekisa inqubekelaphambili."
Uphawu lokuzihlukumeza igama elithi “kufanele” kanye nombono wokuthi umuntu kumelwe abe nesineke
Siya emsebenzini, sihlangane nabangane, siya eholidini...
«I все это дает ощущение стабильности и возможность прогнозировать, — продолжает психоаналитик. — Представим противоположное: постоянно меняющиеся условия — это сильный стресс».
Ungazi ukuthi kuzokwenzekani ngomzuzu olandelayo, izenzo zethu zizoholela muphi umphumela ... Kuyathakazelisa ukubuka izigigaba ezinjalo kumamuvi, kodwa akekho ongafuna ukukuzwa ngokweqiniso! Kodwa, njengasendabeni kaLydia, le nqubo ayibekezeleleki, ibangela ukudangala nesithukuthezi.
“Kulokhu, isithukuthezi siwuphawu lobudlova obumelene nawe: Ngenza lokho engingakuthandi, kodwa ngizibheka njengesibopho sokukwenza, futhi ngingazi njalo ngisho nokuthi kungani ngempela,” kuchaza u-Evgeny Tumilo, umelaphi wamaGestalt. Ngakho-ke kwesinye isikhathi siyaziphoqa ukuthi sikhuthale emsebenzini, sihloniphe omakhelwane, sithande abazali ...
Bekezela-ukuwa othandweni?
Uphawu lokuzihlukumeza igama elithi “kufanele” nomqondo wokuthi umuntu kufanele awubekezelele. “Isidingo siwukuthi “ngiyakufuna,” kuqhuba umelaphi wamaGestalt. “Umama ufuna ukukhuluma nami, umphakathi udinga ngisebenze.” Indlela yokuphuma kulokhu?
Kukhona indlela efile. U-Evgeniy Tumilo uthi: “Abantu abaningi bazama ukuziphoqa ukuba bathande lokho abangakuthandi ngempela, ngokwesibonelo, ukuwasha phansi. - Futhi lokhu, yiqiniso, akuphumeleli: kunzima ukuthandana nokunyakaza okuhlekisayo kwe-rag emanzi endaweni engakhululekile! Kodwa ungasiqonda isidingo salokho.”
Зачем мне чистый пол? Чтобы удовлетворить чувство прекрасного, избежать стыда перед нагрянувшими гостями или… Поняв свою потребность, я могу сознательние ди значимой цели или, может быть, передоверить это дело специалистам из клининговой компании…
Ifuna indlela yokuphuma
UDmitry oneminyaka engu-34 uthi: “Lapho ngiqala ukuvakashela umngane wami wasekolishi, ngenxa yokuphoxeka ngavele ngamtshela ukuthi ngiyamthanda u-anyanisi obilisiwe. “Futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi kusukela lapho, ngiye ngaphathwa ngokucophelela ngo-anyanisi obilisiwe, engingakwazi ngempela ukumelana nawo!” Futhi muva nje ngigcine ngiqunge isibindi sami futhi ngasivuma.
Indaba iyahlekisa, kodwa ubunzima bungokoqobo kakhulu: noma sazi esikufunayo, kungaba nzima ngathi ukuyimemezela kwabanye. Phela, sizifaka engozini yokwephula lokho abakulindele kanye nesithembiso sethu esingashiwongo sokuhlala ngendlela abajwayele ukusibona ngayo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuzizwa singanelisekile ngokwenzekayo, asazi njalo ukuthi yini esingayibuyisela esikhundleni sayo.
“Uma ngingafuni ukubiza umama wami, khona-ke ngifunani: hlobo luni lobudlelwano olwamukelekayo kimi? Uma ngingafuni ukuhlala emsebenzini, ngifuna ukuzibona kanjani mina? Zibuze imibuzo uze uthole impendulo,” kusikisela u-Evgeny Tumilo.
Mhlawumbe lokhu kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza: ukujwayela ukuphotha ngokuphindaphinda, ukuhileleka ochungechungeni lwezenzo nezehlakalo ezibonakala kudingekile kithi, asizitholi ngokushesha thina kanye nezifiso zethu kuzo. Lokhu kudinga ukubekezela nokuzimisela ukuzihlola. Akukona nje ukuqondana ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi siba nesilingo sokumane silahle yonke into.
Iqhawe lika-Bill Murray ovela ku-Groundhog Day liphinde ladla amaswidi kanye nabaqoqi bempahla. Yiqiniso, wayazi ukuthi “ngeke kwenzeke lutho” kuye ngenxa yalokhu. Kodwa ngisho nokwesaba ukujeziswa noma imiphumela emibi akusivimbi ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ihubo lokubhubhisa
“Ukweqisa umkhuba kungaholela ekulahlekelweni umdlandla wokuphila, futhi ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, uphelelwe ithemba nokucindezeleka,” kuphawula uMaria Khudyakova. I-antipode yokubekezela umuzwa othi "Yilokho, ngikwanele!". Kwesinye isikhathi kumele uzivumele ube mubi ukuze wehluke.
Umqondo wokubhujiswa uxhumene nomqondo wenkululeko. Inkululeko iqala ukuba nesisindo. Intukuthelo, nakuba ekuphileni kwansuku zonke siyibheka njengomzwelo omubi, iyasiza: ivumela ukuba siqonde ukuthi sibi, futhi ihlanganisa amandla ukuze senze okuhle kithi. “Uma sibhekene necala lokucasuka, ukuchaphaza kwayo kufana ne-orgasm, kuwukuphuma emzimbeni nasengqondweni,” kuchaza u-Evgeniy Tumilo.
Uma intukuthelo iqondiswa, khona-ke inkinga iyaxazululeka noma ingaxazululwa. Uma kungenjalo ekhelini, ngeke kunqunywe ngokuqinisekile. Uma ngixabene nomphathi wami, ngithethise umkami, ngeke sishintshe isimo emsebenzini futhi kuzonqwabelana.
Ngokuhlubuka kulele indlela yokukhululwa ezinkambisweni, ezimisweni, emithethweni ebekiwe
Ukuqeda isithukuthezi akubangelwa ukuvukela. Kodwa ngokuhlubuka kulele indlela yokukhululwa ezinkambisweni, ezimisweni, emithethweni ebekiwe - lezi zimo zengqondo zinamandla kunezinsiza zomuntu. Ngakho-ke, ukuvukela kuvela njengohlobo lwamandla angaphezu kwamandla ukuze kwakhiwe amathuba amakhulu okunqoba.
Umphakathi ubeka ingcindezi enamandla phezu kwethu (evezwa ngezidingo ezisobala nezingashiwongo zalokho okufanele sibe yikho kanye nalokho okufanele sikwenze), futhi ukuze sikunqobe, sidinga amandla amaningi.
“Lokhu kufana nendlela osemusha akhululwa ngayo kubazali bakhe ngokuhlubuka,” kuqhubeka umelaphi wamaGestalt. "Kwezinye izimo, ukukhululwa emphakathini kwenzeka ngendlela efanayo futhi kunencazelo ephikisana nomphakathi."
Uhlobo lokuvukela ezinkambisweni ezibekiwe lungabuye lube ukuhoxa - ekubeni nesizungu, ukuzihlukanisa, ukuzincisha injabulo. Kodwa ukuphila okuphelele komuntu kungenzeka kuphela ekukhulumisaneni nabanye, ngakho silwela ukuhlanganisa izifiso zethu ekuphileni komphakathi.
Ukomela ukwenza kahle
Iqhawe lefilimu liphume ekudlalweni kabusha lapho linosuku oluhle. Futhi sinesithakazelo inganekwane lapho nsuku zonke ungaphila ngokuphelele. Noma akuwona wonke umuntu, kodwa okungenani oyedwa.
Kodwa kukhona indida esakhiweni: nakuba ikhalenda lihlala linenombolo efanayo, okwesibili kwaphakade kaFebhuwari, futhi isimo siyafana, intatheli yenza into entsha nsuku zonke. Uma senza into efanayo, siphetha ngento efanayo. Mhlawumbe uma siqala ukuzama okunye, singase sibone imiphumela ehlukile.
Izinguquko ezinkulu zingase zibonakale zingaphephile kithi, kodwa “thina ngokwethu singabaphathi abaphezulu bezimpilo zethu futhi singakhetha ukuthi senzeni,” kugcizelela uMaria Khudyakova, “futhi siphinde sikhethe izinga loshintsho. Asikwazi ngisho nokuqhubekela phambili kubo, kodwa zama kuqala "ukuthola umehluko" ezenzakalweni eziyisidina, njengasezithombeni zemilingo zobuntwana. Mhlawumbe uzobona umehluko futhi uzizwe ukuthi ufuna ukuya ngakuphi.
Thatha futhi uzivumelanise
Kodwa kuthiwani uma isimiso esingathandeki singakhathaleli thina kuphela, kodwa futhi nabanye, njengoba kwenzeka kuLidiya nonina?
“Yonke into ehlangene nabanye ingase ingqubuzane, futhi ukungqubuzana kungase kungaxazululeki,” kuxwayisa u-Evgeny Tumilo. “Akubona bonke abakwazi ukuzwana. Futhi lapha umqondo wokungabi namandla komuntu ungaba ukuphulukisa.
Izingane, njengomthetho, azinamandla okufundisa kabusha abazali bazo. Kulokhu, kunengqondo ukubeka umbuzo ngendlela ehlukile: indlela yokuzivumelanisa nesimo esingemnandi. Ungabekezeleli, ukuhlupheka, kodwa uzivumelanise ngokudala.
“Ngokwesibonelo, ungashintsha uhlelo futhi ushaye ucingo hhayi kanye ngesonto, kodwa kanye ngenyanga,” kusho umelaphi wamaGestalt. Futhi kungaba wusizo ukwazi ukuthi yini isidingo somunye ngemuva kokuziphatha esingakuthandi.
Ungabuza ngakho noma udale eyakho i-hypothesis bese uyivivinya. Mhlawumbe umama osekhulile ukhathazekile futhi ufuna ukuqinisekiswa, noma uyangabaza ukuthi wayengumzali omuhle futhi ufuna ukuqashelwa. Ngokuqonda lokhu, singakha ukuxhumana ngendlela ehlukile.
Akukhona mayelana nokwenza isinqumo esisodwa sempilo futhi unamathele kuso noma ngabe kuthiwani, kodwa ngokuzivumela ukuthi ubone ukuphikisana (ngaphakathi nangaphandle) futhi uthole izindlela zokukuxazulula.
Ukwehluleka ku-matrix?
Umuzwa odlulayo wokuthi okwenzeka kithi kuyaphindaphinda ungase ube nezizathu ezingokomzimba kuphela. U-Evgenia oneminyaka engu-28 uthi: “Ngafika eTyumen, lapho ngangingakaze ngiye khona ngaphambili, futhi ngamangala lapho ngithola ukuthi ngangazi ukuthi iyiphi indlu engase ibe khona. “Kamuva ngakhumbula ukuthi ngibone le migwaqo ephusheni!”
Lo muzwa, ojwayelekile kwabaningi bethu, ubizwa ngokuthi “deja vu” (déjà vu - isiFulentshi “sesivele sibonwa”): njengokungathi besesivele sizithole sikulesi simo ngaphambili. Kuze kube muva nje, bekukholelwa ukuthi i-deja vu ayikwazi ukubangelwa ngokwenziwa.
Kodwa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Akira O'Connor waseNyuvesi yase-St. Andrews (UK) kanye nethimba lakhe bakwazile ukubangela i-deja vu kumavolontiya.1: bakhonjiswe uhlu lwamagama njengokuthi “umbhede”, “umcamelo”, “ubusuku”, “imibono”. Ukwakha umuzwa we-déjà vu, ithimba lika-O'Connor liqale labuza ukuthi ingabe uhlu luhlanganisa namagama aqala ngohlamvu “s”. Abahlanganyeli baphendule ngokuthi cha.
Kodwa lapho kamuva bebuzwa ukuthi ngabe balizwile yini igama elithi “ukulala”, bakwazi ukukhumbula ukuthi babengalizwanga, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, leli gama lalibonakala lijwayelekile. “Babike isenzakalo esiyinqaba nge-déjà vu,” kusho u-O'Connor. Ithimba lakhe lenze izikena ze-MRI zobuchopho bamavolontiya angu-21 ngenkathi ehlangabezana nalokhu okubangelwa i-déjà vu. Umuntu angalindela ukuthi izindawo zobuchopho ezihilelekile ezinkumbulo, njenge-hippocampus, zizosebenza.
Kodwa cha: amalobe angaphambili obuchopho anesibopho sokwenza izinqumo ayesebenza. U-O'Connor ucabanga ukuthi ama-lobe angaphambili mhlawumbe ahlola izinkumbulo futhi athumele amasignali uma kukhona uhlobo oluthile lwephutha lenkumbulo - ukungqubuzana phakathi kwesike sabhekana nakho kanye nesicabanga ukuthi siye sabhekana nakho. Ngesikhathi se-deja vu, kukhona ukuxazululwa kwezingxabano ebuchosheni.
У дежавю есть антипод: жамевю (jamais vu - фр. "никогда не виденное") Исследования показывают, что ощущение дежавю хотя бы раз в жизни испытывает до 97 % человек. Жамевю встречается гораздо реже.
1 Ukuphenya indima yendlela yokuhlola emibikweni ye-déjà vu kanye nezimo ze-tip-of-the-tongue phakathi nokuhlolwa okujwayelekile kokuqashelwa. 21 Apr 2016, PLoS One.