Okuqukethwe
Ingabe sihluke kakhulu kulokhu, noma ingabe lo mehluko usekude? Ochwepheshe bethu, izazi zocansi u-Alain Eril kanye no-Mireille Bonyerbal baxoxa ngenye inkolelo mayelana nobulili.
U-Alain Eril, isazi se-psychoanalyst, isazi sezocansi:
Lokhu kuyiqiniso futhi kungamanga. Kunjalo, uma sibheka indoda yasentshonalanga yendabuko, kukhona isimilo sobudoda. Umphakathi wezinzalamizi wakhulisa abafana lapho umthondo ufanekisela amandla wesilisa namandla. Konke ukunaka kwakugxile kuye—okulimaza wonke umzimba. Ngokuvamile, lapho umlingani ephulula ezinye izingxenye zomzimba wendoda, kuyamcasula.
Kodwa manje sibona ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kwenzeka kwabanye abantu besikhathi sethu.
Isibonelo, kukhona imibhangqwana ehlanganisa ukubhucungwa kwezingxenye ezihlukahlukene zomzimba emkhubeni wabo oseduze, ngenxa yokuthi indoda inethuba lokubuka imvelo yakhe ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele, ngaphandle kokubandlulula.
Izindonga zezindlu zangasese zomphakathi zivame ukuhlotshiswa ngokuvala ipipi, kodwa umzimba womuntu wesifazane uvame ukudwetshwa ngokuphelele.
Ngokungafani namadoda anjalo, ababa, ngomqondo ongokomfanekiso, abesifazana, abanye, ngokuphambene nalokho, babonisa ukubuyela ezimweni zengqondo ezingaphezu kwamadoda, ku-machismo, okubonisa ukwesaba kwabo okungazi lutho.
U-Mireille Bonierbal, udokotela wezifo zengqondo, udokotela wezocansi:
Uma ubheka izithombe ezihlobisa iminyango yamakheshi nezindonga zezindlu zangasese zomphakathi, uyabona ukuthi esikhundleni sowesilisa, kuvame ukuvala ipipi elilodwa kuphela, kodwa umzimba womuntu wesifazane uvame ukudonswa ngokuphelele. ! Lokhu ngokusobala akukhona ukuqondana.
Owesifazane uthanda ukuphululwa yonke indawo, ngoba umzimba wakhe wonke uyakwazi ukujabula - mhlawumbe ngenxa yokuthi owesifazane usheshe abone ukuthi umzimba wakhe uyithuluzi lokuyenga.