Okuqukethwe
- 1. “Khululeka. Yehlisa umoya"
- 2. "Awuyena indoda, awuqondi lokhu"
- 3. "Ingabe uyidinga kakhulu?"
- 4. "Ngiyahamba"
- 5. “I-lasagna enhle… Kodwa umama wami uba ngcono… Mcele ukuthi akuphe iresiphi.”
- 6. “Kulungile, ngiyaqonda, ngizokwenza, sekwanele, ungangikhumbuzi”
- 7. “Umkami wokuqala wayepaka ngokucwayiza kweso, futhi wayenobungane…”
- 8. “Ingabe kuyakukhathaza kangako? angikho neze»
Sesike sabhala mayelana nemishwana engu-9 amadoda angeke akwazi ukuyimela. Futhi waze wathola ukuphawula komunye wabafundi - kungani yonke into ingaphansi kwenjabulo yabesilisa kuphela? Silungiselele impendulo elinganayo - kulokhu mayelana nabesifazane.
Kunemisho embalwa engathathi hlangothi lapho ozakwethu besabela kakhulu ngokomzwelo. Ahlukene kwabesilisa nabesifazane. Umusho othi, “Ngincamela ukuzenzela mina ngokwami” awuthandwa ngamadoda, ngoba ungabaza ikhono nobudoda babo.
Futhi kungani abesifazane bengathandi igama elithi "ukwehlisa umoya"? Ngoba iphika ukubaluleka kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo.
Yimaphi amanye amagama angalimaza ukuzigqaja kwabesifazane futhi abeke ubudlelwano engozini?
1. “Khululeka. Yehlisa umoya"
Uyakuphika ukubaluleka kwemizwa yakhe. Yonke imizwa ibalulekile, ngisho noma ikhala izinyembezi ... ngisho noma yena engazi ukuthi ukhalelani.
Ucabanga ukuthi manje, ekujuleni, ulindele ukuthi uthi, “Hhayi-ke, kuyinhlekisa ukukhala ngalembudane”? Hhayi nakancane, ulinde wena ukuthi umgone, umbize ngegama lothando futhi umlethele itiye elifudumele.
Noma, njengesinyathelo sokugcina, landela iseluleko sikamelaphi womndeni uMarcia Berger: “Lapho ecasukile, myeke akhulume futhi anqekuzise ikhanda ngesineke.”
2. "Awuyena indoda, awuqondi lokhu"
Gwema ukuvela obala mayelana nokuthi abesilisa nabesifazane bangobani, kusho uRyan Howes, udokotela wezengqondo ePasadena. Lokhu kuzodala ibanga elengeziwe nelingenasidingo ngokuphelele phakathi kwakho.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, amagama athi “awukuqondi lokhu” aqukethe esinye iseluleko sokuguqula ingxoxo ibheke ohlangothini olungadingekile.
Phela, okufunayo manje ukuveza ukudabuka nokucasuka - okungukuthi, into efanayo naleyo abeyidinga kamuva nje (bheka isigaba 1)?
Bese ungitshele nje ukuthi uphatheke kabi kanjani ngokulahlekelwa yiqembu lakho olithandayo (ukuphromotha kwalesi siqalisi, i-junk motor) ...
3. "Ingabe uyidinga kakhulu?"
Yiqiniso, kuyadingeka ukubuyela eqinisweni lezezimali. Kodwa useyisebenzisile kakade leyo mali, futhi awazi ukuthi singakanani isikhathi, umzamo, ukungabaza nokuhlaziya ngokucophelela ukuthola le nto eyodwa edolobheni elikhulu.
Noma mhlawumbe kwakuwumsindo omncane owamenza wazizwa elula...
Yebo, uyayidinga. Kwaba ngalesosikhathi. Yena ngokwakhe uyaqonda ukuthi manje akusadingeki.
Hlekani ndawonye kulokhu kuthenga futhi … nizinike isikhathi esithile kusihlwa ukuze nihlale phansi futhi nipende ndawonye zonke izindleko ezihleliwe zenyanga nezonyaka ozayo.
4. "Ngiyahamba"
Ungalithi igama elithi "isehlukaniso" uma ungahlosile ngempela ukuhlukana.
Uzakwenu wamanje cishe akafuni ukuzwa indumiso evela kothile okwedlule.
Yebo, angasho kaningi ukuthi uyahamba kunina aze akudivose, kodwa lokhu kuhluke ngokuphelele. Lena yindlela aveza ngayo imizwa yakhe, ukuthi udabukile futhi unesizungu. Ngeke abakhumbule kusasa.
Kodwa akekho olindele ukuzwa la mazwi asabekayo kuwe.
5. “I-lasagna enhle… Kodwa umama wami uba ngcono… Mcele ukuthi akuphe iresiphi.”
Ngezinye izikhathi ukuthembela kwethu emakhonweni ethu kuyavivinywa. Ukuqhathanisa nomamezala kungavusa izinkumbulo zeminye iminyakazo eminingi engenamakhono.
Ngokuvamile, kungcono ukusho kafushane, njengendoda: "I-lasagna enhle."
6. “Kulungile, ngiyaqonda, ngizokwenza, sekwanele, ungangikhumbuzi”
Kula mazwi, isihlokwana sifundeka ngokuthi “ukhathele kangakanani,” kusho uMarcia Berger. Azifanelekile ikakhulukazi uma usuvele usabele ngale ndlela futhi … akenzanga lutho. Lesi isibonelo sesisho esingenacala abesifazane abangakwazi ukusimela.
7. “Umkami wokuqala wayepaka ngokucwayiza kweso, futhi wayenobungane…”
Uzakwethu wamanje cishe akafuni ukuzwa ukunconywa kothile wesikhathi sakho esidlule. Kungcono ukungabaqhathanisi nhlobo abesifazane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bangakanani, kweluleka uMarcia Berger.
8. “Ingabe kuyakukhathaza kangako? angikho neze»
Ngamanye amazwi udweba isithombe somdondoshiya wemizwa, umuntu ongasabi izivunguvungu, uzibuze ukuthi kungani umkakho engafuni ukukulingisa.
Futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, la mazwi abonakala emcasula. Ngesizathu esifanayo siqale: ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka — lena indlela yakhe yokunakekela nobabili futhi ngokujwayelekile niphila. Mtshele ukuthi uyakwazisa kangakanani!