Okuqukethwe
Izinsuku ezimbi zenzeka kuwo wonke umuntu, kodwa kusemandleni ethu ukuziguqula zibe ezinhle. Umqeqeshi uBlake Powell ukhuluma ngezindlela zokukusiza ukuthi ubone okuhle nokuhle esimweni esingesihle neze.
Ushayela uya emsebenzini futhi imoto yakho iphuka kungazelelwe. Uzama ukungaphelelwa yinhliziyo futhi uzole, kodwa akusizi. Lena akuyona inkinga yokuqala yosuku: ulale ngokweqile futhi awuzange uphuze ikhofi. Uma ufika ehhovisi, awukwazi ukunquma ukuthi uzothatha liphi ibhizinisi.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usuku luqala kanjani, ukuba matasa nokuba nohlelo olucacile lokubhekana nesimo kuzosiza ukulungisa izinto.
1. Khetha isimo sengqondo esihle
Lapho sicabanga ngobubi kuphela, ingqondo iyaguquguquka. Sizizwa sikhungathekile futhi asikwazi ukwenza noma yini ewusizo. Zama ukubheka izinkinga ngelinye iso: lokhu isipiliyoni esizokusiza ugweme amaphutha esikhathini esizayo.
2. Ungalindi ukuthi kwenzeke okuthile okuhle.
UShakespeare wathi: “Okulindelekile kuyimbangela yobuhlungu enhliziyweni.” Uma silindele okuthile kodwa kungenzeki, sizizwa siphoxekile, ukuthi sibe nebhadi. Umzuzu nomzuzu kukhona okwenzekayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini esiyilindele, amacebo kanye nezinhloso zethu. Lapho siqaphela ngokushesha lokhu, kulapho siqala khona ukwazisa injabulo.
3. Zibuze: “Ngifike kanjani lapha?”
Ingabe kukhona okuzuzile, noma mhlawumbe okuthile okuhle kusanda kwenzeka? Cabanga ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka: ngokusebenza kanzima, inhlanhla, noma ukuqondana? Uma wazi ukuthi yini ekulethe esimweni sakho samanje, ungaqonda ukuthi yini okufanele yenziwe ukufeza izinhloso zakho.
4. Naka imininingwane
Ngokugxila ezintweni ezincane kanye nezinyathelo ezincane, ngeke nje usheshise indlela eya emgomweni, kodwa futhi ukwenze kujabulise futhi kuthakazelise. Uma umatasa kangangokuthi awukwazi ukuyeka ukuphefumula iphunga lama roses, khona-ke ngolunye usuku kuyofika isikhashana lapho ubheka emuva futhi uzibuze: «Kungani bengigijima ngaso sonke isikhathi esikhundleni sokujabulela ukuphila?
5. Yenza okuhle nsuku zonke
Imbongi nesazi sefilosofi uRalph Waldo Emerson wabhala, “Injabulo ifana namakha angenakuthelwa phezu kwabanye futhi hhayi iconsi phezu kwakho. Kwenze umkhuba ukwenza into enhle nsuku zonke.
6. Yamukela imizwa yakho, kuhlanganise nengalungile.
Akufanele ube namahloni ngentukuthelo noma ukudabuka kwakho futhi uzame ukukuziba. Zama ukuziqonda, ukwamukela kanye nokuhlangabezana nazo. Ukwamukela uhla oluphelele lwemizwa kusiza ukuba nombono omuhle ngempilo.
7. Bonisa uzwela
Ukuzwelana kuyisihluthulelo sokuqondana, kuyasiza ukwakha nokugcina ubudlelwano nabantu abahlukile kithi futhi bangagcini ngobuhle kuphela. Umxhumanisi wezamabhizinisi uStephen Covey ukholelwa ukuthi wonke umuntu unemibono yakhe siqu, ngenxa yokuthi sibona umhlaba ngendlela ethile, sinquma ukuthi yini enhle noma embi, yini esiyithandayo nesingayifuni, nokuthi yini okufanele sigxile kuyo.
Uma othile ezama ukwephula i-paradigm yethu, sizwa ubuhlungu. Kodwa esikhundleni sokucasuka, ukucasuka nokuzama ukubuyisela emuva, udinga ukuzama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani umuntu eziphatha ngale ndlela hhayi ngenye indlela. Zibuze: kungani enza lokhu? Yini abhekana nayo nsuku zonke? Ngingazizwa kanjani uma impilo yami ifana neyakhe? Uzwela lukusiza ukuthi uqonde umhlaba kangcono futhi uhlobane nawo kahle.
Umthombo: Khetha Ubuchopho.