Okuqukethwe
Amadoda avuthiwe ngokuvamile aqala ubuhlobo nabesifazane abancane kakhulu kunabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi labo, njengomthetho, selishadile kakade ... Intatheli eye yabhekana nesipiliyoni sokukhashelwa kanye nesehlukaniso esilandelayo inikeza amadoda izeluleko ezintathu.
Amanoveli anjalo, lapho emdala kakhulu kunaye, ngokuvamile amanxantathu othando, lapho kukhona nabafazi. Ngakho-ke, amanga nokukhaphela kukhona abangane abavamile bobudlelwane nowesifazane lapho indoda inomehluko weminyaka.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uHugo Schweitzer sithi: “Izizathu ezenza amadoda abe nesithakazelo kwabesifazane abasebasha ngokuvamile azihlobene nobulili, kodwa zibangelwa isifiso esijulile sokuqinisekisa ubudoda babo nempilo yabo yangaphakathi. “Lokhu akusho ukuthi abesifazane abalingana nabo abathandeki kangako, ngoba nje abakwazi ukukholisa indoda ebuthakathaka, eseguga ukuthi isagcwele amandla. Ukwenza lokhu esimweni sabanye abantu abaye bawela umngcele wobusha, owesifazane osemusha ovundile kuphela ongahlanganisa amathuba amasha okuphila futhi aqinisekise ukuthi, njengeminyaka engamashumi amabili edlule, basenokuningi okuzayo.
Angiyena udokotela wengqondo noma i-gerontologist, ngingowesifazane owahlukanisa ngemuva kokuthola ukuthi umyeni wakhe wayengikhohlisa nentombazane encane. Ngabhekana nobuhlungu nokungalali ebusuku futhi ngathatha isinqumo sokuqeda ubuhlobo bami nomuntu engangimthanda.
Sekudlule iminyaka engaphezu kwemihlanu kusukela lapho. Ubuhlobo bomyeni nenkosikazi yakhe abuzange buphumelele. Futhi nakuba umkhaya wethu ungakalulami, sihlala sithintana futhi ngiyazi ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe okuningi. Abanye engibaziyo baye badlula kokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo, futhi nami ngingabelana ngalokho engikuphawulile.
Ngakho-ke, uma uyindoda futhi ubhekene nokukhetha, nanka amathiphu amathathu.
Ithiphu #1 — yenza isinqumo
Yebo, yenza isinqumo! Ngempela, ukukhuluma ngokungananazi, uthathwe yinoveli, ushiye umkakho enakekela izingane, ikhaya nabazali asebekhulile kudala. Kuzothembeka kakhulu uma uthatha isinqumo sokugcina bese uhamba.
Ngeke adinge ukuba anakekele impilo yakho, athethelele isimo sakho sengqondo esibi nokuziphatha kwakho, okufaneleka kakhulu osemusha ohlubukayo. Hlala nensizwa ethandekayo ubone ukuthi izokhathazeka kuze kube nini ngomfutho wakho wegazi ophezulu.
Ithiphu #2 — Unganaki imibono yabanye abantu
Ngenkathi ucabanga ukuthi abangani bakho banomona ngawe, uyabakhombisa ubunzima bakho nobuthakathaka bakho. Intombi entsha enesitifiketi sokuzalwa esifana nonyaka owaphothula esikoleni noma ekolishi ikhombisa ukungavikeleki kwakho kanye nesifiso sokungena emanzini afanayo kabili. Ngakho bazokhuluma ngawe ngemuva kwamehlo akho.
Ithiphu #3 - Ungazibeki Icala
Ngezikhathi ezithile uzohlushwa umuzwa wecala futhi uzozama ukuthola umuzwa wokuzihlonipha phambi kwalabo ababethembe izinqumo zakho ngaphambili - izingane zakho. Kungase kube kahle ukuthi ngeke uhlangane nokuqonda, futhi iphuzu akukhona ukuthi unkosikazi wangaphambili ubabeka ngokumelene nawe.
Cishe izingane zisakuthanda, kodwa ngenxa yalokho azibekezeleleki ukuhlala nomuzwa wokulahlekelwa inhlonipho ngoyise, ogunya lakhe lalibaluleke kakhulu kuzo.
“Kufana nemoto entsha efiswayo, umuzwa wobusha udlula ngokushesha,” omunye engimaziyo wavuma kimi, naye owadlula ebunzimeni bomndeni kanye nangaphakathi, azama ukuyelapha ngencwadi yenoveli kodwa wahluleka. Manje sengiyaqonda ukuthi uma, ngomzamo, ngishintsha okuthile osekuphelelwe isikhathi “emshinini wami wokuphila” kunokuthenga omusha, mhlawumbe ngingalungisa okuningi.”
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ezimweni ezinjalo ezihlala zidlala nomuntu omdala, ngokuvamile akukho lutho olungenziwa.