Okuqukethwe
Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi ukuphila kumnyama futhi akunathemba. Umsebenzi awuhlangani, impilo yomuntu iyawa, ngisho nesimo somnotho ezweni asisibi ndawo. Umqeqeshi nesikhulumi esikhuthazayo uJohn Kim wazi izindlela ezintathu zokushintsha impilo yakho ibe ngcono.
Wake wayibona inhlanzi ibhukuda emanzini angcolile? Ubukeka ebuthuntu, akanawo amandla, futhi akanyakazi kahle amaphiko akhe, njengokungathi yizibopho zensimbi. Shintshanisa amanzi angcolile ngamanzi ahlanzekile futhi yonke into iyashintsha. Izinhlanzi zizophila, zijabule futhi zisebenze, futhi izikali zayo zizokhanya.
Imicabango nezinkolelo zethu zifana namanzi. Okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle empilweni kwakha izinkolelo ezingamanga, kwenza imicabango ibe mnyama futhi kuphuce amandla abalulekile. Siqala ukungabaza amakhono ethu, sibambeke ebudlelwaneni obungakhiqizi, futhi singavumeli amandla ethu aphelele ukuthi athuthuke.
Kodwa-ke, abantu, ngokungafani nezinhlanzi, bangashintsha "amanzi" abo ngokwabo. Abaningi baba izigqila zemicabango yabo futhi abasoli ngisho nokuthi bangakwazi ukulawula lokho abakucabangayo nendlela abacabanga ngayo. Abenzi mzamo wokushintsha indlela abacabanga ngayo ngoba besaba noma benomuzwa wokuthi abakufanelekele ukuhlala emanzini ahlanzekile.
Iqiniso liwukuthi ungakwazi ukuhlanza i-aquarium yakho. Uyavuka uhlele usuku lwakho. Mamatheka futhi ube nombono omuhle. Faka imali ebudlelwaneni obunempilo. Zizungeze nabantu abaqondile. Qaphela izikhathi zenjabulo. Dala okuthile. Ungayishintsha impilo yakho ngokushintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ngayo.
Konke kuqala ngemicabango kugcine ngayo. Okucabangayo ngawe kunquma iqiniso lakho. Lezi zindlela ezintathu zizokusiza ukuthi uhlanze «amanzi» akho.
1. Thola ukuthi hlobo luni lwamandla ogcwala ngalo, omuhle noma omubi
Uma ubuswa amandla amabi, ubambelela ebuhlotsheni obuphelelwe umusi, uhlakulele imikhuba yakho emibi nokuziphatha okungenampilo, ulale kahle, futhi uhlale uzihlola. Ukhathazeka ngezinto ezincane, udla ukudla okungenampilo, ukuxabana, ukumelana, ukuthuka, ukuthukuthela futhi ubone ukuphila njengesijeziso.
Uma ugcwele amandla amahle, uyakha, uyakha futhi utshale imali kuwe nakubantu ababalulekile kuwe. Ubeka imingcele enempilo, zilalele, khuluma ingqondo yakho ngokukhululekile nangokuzola, futhi uphuphe. Awuzihluleli wena noma abanye, awulebuli futhi awuzwa ukwesaba.
Uphila impilo esebenzayo, ubuke ukudla kwakho, uphuze amanzi amaningi, futhi awunazo izinkinga zokulala. Uyakwazi ukuthanda ngokweqiniso futhi uyakwazi ukuxolela.
2. Qaphela izinkolelo ezingamanga ezilolonga impilo yakho.
Akekho noyedwa kithi owakhula engahluphekanga. Ukuhlupheka kwakuhlukile: ngokomzimba, ngokokuziphatha, ngokobulili nangokomzwelo. Omunye ukhumbule kuze kube phakade ukuthi uvalelwe kanjani ekamelweni, othile ukhumbula uthando lwakhe lokuqala olungajabulisi, futhi othile ukhumbula ukufa kothandekayo noma ukuhlukana kwabazali bakhe. Owakubona futhi wakuzwa, kanye nendlela abanye abakuphatha ngayo, kunquma kakhulu impilo yakho futhi kwakha imibono engelona iqiniso.
Indlela ephumelelayo yokuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izinkolelo ezingamanga nezingewona iwukuzibuza ukuthi yini oyesabayo.
Izinkolelo ezingamanga: Angisoze ngajabula. Ngingumuntu ongelutho. Ngeke ngiphumelele. Angitholi lutho. Ngiyisisulu. Ngingumuntu obuthakathaka. Uma ngingacebi akekho ozongithanda. Ngingumyeni, ubaba, indodana, njll. Le micabango kanye neminye engemihle ichaza izimpilo zethu, yehlise ukuzethemba kwethu futhi ivimbe amakhono nezifiso.
Manje cabanga ukuthi impilo yakho ingaba njani ngaphandle kwale micabango. Ungathanda ukuba umngane nobani? Ubani obengamenywa ngosuku? Imuphi umsebenzi ongawukhetha? Ubungenzani ngesikhathi sakho esikhululekile?
3. Ungavumeli ukukholelwa ezinkolelweni ezingamanga. Yenza lokho abangakuvumeli ukuba ukwenze
Indlela ephumelelayo yokuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izinkolelo ezingamanga nokuthi iziphi ezingekho iwukuzibuza ukuthi yini oyesabayo nokuthi kungani.
Ufuna ukwenza ama-tattoos emzimbeni wakho wonke, ugibele isithuthuthu futhi udlale izigubhu eqenjini le-rock. Kodwa uyesaba ukucasula uyihlo, ngakho wakhetha umsebenzi we-accountant, washada nentombazane ehloniphekile futhi uphuze ubhiya phambi kwe-TV kusihlwa. Lokhu ukwenza ngoba uqiniseka ukuthi indodana enhle ayinakuba i-rocker. Lena inkolelo engamanga.
Zama ukunikeza incazelo yakho yendodana elungile. Kufanele kube yini? Futhi uzoqonda ukuthi ubuhlobo obuhle noyihlo abuhlangene nama-tattoos kanye nesithuthuthu. Manje qala ukuphila impilo yakho: xhumana kabusha nabanye abaculi, dweba umzimba bese uthenge isithuthuthu. Kungale ndlela kuphela lapho uzohlanza "amanzi" akho futhi uzizwe ukhululekile futhi ujabule.