I-Psychology

Zingaki izenzo ezinkulu ezingakenziwa, izincwadi ezingabhalwanga, izingoma azikaculwa. Futhi konke ngoba umdali, okulowo nalowo kithi, ngokuqinisekile uzobhekana "nomnyango we-bureaucracy yangaphakathi". Kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMaria Tikhonova. Kule kholamu, ulandisa indaba kaDavid, udokotela omuhle kakhulu owachitha iminyaka engu-47 kuphela ehlola impilo yakhe, kodwa akakwazanga ukunquma ukuqala ukuphila.

Umnyango wehhovisi langaphakathi. Kumuntu ngamunye, lesi simiso sikhula phakathi neminyaka: ebuntwaneni, basichazela indlela yokwenza izinto eziyisisekelo ngendlela efanele. Esikoleni, bafundisa ukuthi mangaki amaseli okudingeka uwahlehle ngaphambi kokuqala komugqa omusha, imiphi imicabango elungile, engalungile.

Ngikhumbula isigameko: Ngineminyaka engu-5 ubudala futhi ngikhohliwe ukugqoka isiketi. Ngekhanda noma ngemilenze? Empeleni, akunandaba ukuthi - ngizoyigqoka kanjani futhi kunjalo ... Kodwa ngaba manqikanqika, futhi umuzwa wokwethuka ukhuphuka ngaphakathi kimi - ngesaba kakhulu ukwenza okuthile okungalungile ...

Ukwesaba okufanayo kokwenza okuthile okungalungile kubonakala kuklayenti lami.

UDavid uneminyaka engu-47. Udokotela onekhono ofunde zonke izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi emkhakheni wezokwelapha ongacacile - i-endocrinology, uDavid akakwazi ukuba "udokotela ofanele" nganoma iyiphi indlela. Iminyaka engu-47 yokuphila kwakhe, ubelokhu elungiselela isinyathelo esifanele. Ilinganisa, yenza ukuhlaziya okuqhathanisayo, ifunde izincwadi zesayensi yezengqondo, ifilosofi. Kuzo, uthola imibono ehluke ngokuphelele, futhi lokhu kumholela esimweni sokukhathazeka esingabekezeleleki.

Eminyakeni engu-47 yokuphila kwakhe, ulungiselela isinyathelo esifanele

Namuhla sinomhlangano ongajwayelekile kakhulu. Imfihlo iba sobala ngendlela engavamile kakhulu.

- David, ngifunde ukuthi welashwa nomunye umhlaziyi ngaphandle kwami. Ngiyavuma ukuthi lokhu kwangimangaza kakhulu, kubonakala kubalulekile kimina ukuxoxa ngalesi simo ngaphakathi kohlaka lokwelapha kwethu, - ngiqala ingxoxo.

Bese kuvela uhlobo oluthile lwenkohliso yengqondo-optical: indoda emelene nami incipha kabili, iba mncane ngokumelene nesizinda sosofa okhulayo. Izindlebe, ebezingazinakile ngaphambilini, zivele zishwabane zivutha amalangabi. Umfana ophambene naye uneminyaka eyisishiyagalombili ubudala, akasekho.

Naphezu kokuxhumana okuhle nomelaphi wakhe, naphezu kwenqubekelaphambili esobala, usangabaza ukuthi lokhu kuyisinqumo esifanele futhi uqala ukwelashwa nami, ingasaphathwa eyokuthi angiyena yedwa umelaphi, oqamba amanga emibuzweni engivame ukuyibuza emhlanganweni wokuqala.

Umelaphi onekhono kufanele angathathi hlangothi futhi amukele, kodwa kulokhu, lezi zimfanelo ziyangishiya: kimina ukuba manqikanqika kukaDavid kubonakala kuyicala.

- David, kubonakala kuwe ukuthi uN akayena umelaphi okahle. Nami futhi. Futhi noma yimuphi omunye umelaphi ngeke abe muhle ngokwanele. Kodwa lokhu akukona ngathi, okwedlule, okwamanje, ikusasa, abelaphi bokucabanga. Kumayelana nawe.

Uthi angilungile?

- Ucabanga ukuthi kunjalo?

- Kubukeka sengathi ...

“Hhayi-ke, angicabangi kanjalo. Ngicabanga ukuthi ungudokotela omangalisayo olangazelela ukwelapha kwangempela, ominyene ngaphansi kwezimo zelabhorethri yemithi. Ungitshela lokhu kuyo yonke imihlangano.

- Kepha anginalo ulwazi ekusebenzeni komtholampilo…

— Ngesaba ukuthi ucwaningo luzoqala ekuqaleni kwalo ... Nguwena kuphela ocabanga ukuthi kusesekuseni kakhulu kuwe.

Kodwa kuyiqiniso ngempela.

“Ngiyesaba okuwukuphela kwento oqinisekile ngayo kule mpilo ukungavikeleki kwakho.

UClever David akasakwazi ukuliziba iqiniso lokuthi inkinga yokungenzeki kokuzikhethela imane ithatha impilo yakhe. Kuyiguqula ibe ukukhetha, ukulungiselela, ukufudumala.

“Ngingakweseka kulo mbutho owufisayo. Ngingasisekela isinqumo sokuhlala elabhorethri futhi ngibheke isikhathi esifanele. Lesi isinqumo sakho kuphela, umsebenzi wami ukukusiza ukuthi ubone zonke izinqubo zokuvikela ezibambezela ukunyakaza. Futhi ukuya noma cha, akukhona kimi ukunquma.

UDavid, kunjalo, udinga ukucabanga. Nokho, indawo yami yangaphakathi yayikhanyiswe ngezibani zokusesha namahubo okunqoba. Ephuma ehhovisi, uDavid wavula umnyango ngesenzo esisha ngokuphelele. Ngihlikihla izintende zami: “Iqhwa liphukile, madoda ejaji. Iqhwa liphukile!

Ukungenzeki kokuzikhethela kumncisha impilo yakhe futhi kuguqule kube yisinqumo uqobo.

Sinikele imihlangano embalwa eyalandela ukuze sisebenze nengxenye ethile yobudala yokuphila kukaDavid, kwase kwenzeka izehlakalo ezimbalwa ezibalulekile.

Okokuqala, lapho eneminyaka engu-8 ubudala, ugogo wakhe washona ngenxa yephutha lezokwelapha.

Okwesibili, wayengumfana ongumJuda endaweni yabasebenzi base-USSR ngeminyaka yama-70s. Kwakudingeka ahambisane nemithetho nezinqubo ezingaphezu kweminye.

Ngokusobala, la maqiniso avela kumlando kaDavida abeka isisekelo esinamandla "somnyango wakhe wokuphatha kwangaphakathi."

UDavide akaboni kulezo zenzakalo zihlotshaniswa nobunzima abhekene nabo ngaleso sikhathi. Ufuna nje manje, lapho ubuzwe bakhe buyiphuzu elihle kudokotela, ukuthi abe nesibindi futhi ekugcineni aphile impilo yangempela.

KuDavid, isixazululo esivumelana ngokumangalisayo satholakala: wangena esikhundleni somsizi kadokotela emtholampilo wangasese. Kwakuwumcimbi owawudalwe ezulwini: UDavid, owayegcwele ulwazi nesifiso sokusiza abantu, nodokotela osemusha owayenesifiso sokuvelela owahlanganyela ngokujabula ezinhlelweni ze-TV futhi wabhala izincwadi, ephathisa uDavide wonke lo mkhuba.

UDavida wawabona amaphutha kanye lokungaphumeleli komholi wakhe, lokhu kwamkhuthaza ukuthi abe lesibindi kulokho ayekwenza. Isiguli sami saphumputha imithetho emisha, evumelana nezimo futhi sathola ukumamatheka okukhangayo okukhangayo, lapho kwase kufundwe ubuntu obuhluke ngokuphelele, obuzinzile.

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Kukhona iqiniso elinikeza amaphiko kulabo abakulungele: nganoma yisiphi isikhathi unolwazi olwanele nolwazi lokuthatha isinyathelo esilandelayo.

Labo abakhumbula emlandweni wabo izinyathelo eziholela emaphutheni, ubuhlungu kanye nokudumazeka bazophikisana nami. Ukwamukela lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho njengokubalulekile futhi okuyigugu empilweni yakho kuyindlela eya enkululekweni.

Kuyophikiswa kimi ukuthi kunezenzakalo ezinyantisayo ekuphileni ezingenakuba yisenzakalo esiyigugu. Yebo, ngempela, esikhathini esingengakanani esidlule, kwakukhona ukwesaba nobumnyama obuningi emlandweni wezwe. Omunye wobaba abakhulu kunabo bonke be-psychology, uViktor Frankl, wadabula into embi kakhulu - ikamu lokuhlushwa, futhi akazange abe nje umsebe wokukhanya kuye, kodwa kuze kube yilolu suku unikeza incazelo kuwo wonke umuntu ofunda izincwadi zakhe.

Kuwo wonke umuntu ofunda le migqa, kukhona olungele ukuphila kwangempela, okujabulisayo. Futhi ngokushesha noma kamuva, umnyango we-bureaucracy wangaphakathi uzobeka "isitembu" esidingekayo, mhlawumbe namuhla. Futhi namanje.


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