Abesifazane bavuma izono zabo zomama: izindaba zangempela

Abesifazane bavuma izono zabo zomama: izindaba zangempela

Wonke umuntu unelungelo lokuthola umbono wakhe. Noma iphikisana nesimo esamukelwe ngokujwayelekile. Sinqume ukulalela labo mama abangasabi ukuvuma: bakwenzile futhi benza lokho emphakathini wabantu besifazane “ohloniphekile” onamahloni okusho ngokuzwakalayo.

U-Anna, oneminyaka engu-38: uphikelele esigabeni sokubeletha

Ngangizobeletha indodana endala kimi. Kwakwesabisa kakhulu, kodwa odokotela baqinisekisa ukuthi konke kuzohamba kahle. Azikho izifo zokuthuthuka, ngiphilile emtholampilo. Ayikho inkomba ye-COP.

Kusesibhedlela kuphela yonke into yonakala. Umsebenzi obuthakathaka womsebenzi, cishe usuku lokuncipha. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, ukubeletha okuphuthumayo. Kube impumuzo nje! Futhi ukubuyiselwa kwakubonakala kimi kuyimbudane enjalo emva kwalokho engangibhekane nakho ngaleso sikhathi.

Ngemuva kweminyaka eyisithupha, wakhulelwa futhi. Udokotela wathi isibazi sihleleke kahle, ungazala ngokwakho. Wayengenaso ngisho nesikhathi sokuqeda le nkulumo, ngangivele ngimemeza ngithi: "Akunjalo!"

Isikhathi sonke sokukhulelwa, bangibuka njengabasangene ekubonisaneni. Bancenga, bachaza, ngisho nokusabisa. Bathi ingane izogula, futhi ngokujwayelekile ngizobe sengicindezelekile. Mina ngokwami ​​ngizozisola ngesinqumo sami, kepha kuzobe sekwephuze kakhulu.

Esibhedlela sabakhulelwe, banginqaba ngokuphelele: bathi, uzozibeletha. Iphendukele kwenye. Kwase kuthi kowesithathu, owezentengiselwano - ngafika lapho nommeli wezokwelapha. Ngeke ngingene emininingwaneni, kepha ekugcineni ngiwufinyelele umgomo wami. Futhi angizisoli nakancane. Esikhundleni sokwesaba ukuphambana, ukulungiselela ngomoya ophansi lo msebenzi. Ngicabanga ukuthi enganeni umama ongethuki ungcono kunowesifazane obelethayo ngokwesaba okukhulu. Futhi sengikulungele ukubeletha owesithathu, ngisho nowesine. Kepha hhayi uwedwa.

Ngale ndlela, umyeni wami wasisekela isinqumo sami. Kepha abangane abaningi abakuqondanga. Kunalabo asebelahliwe - laba sebengamantombazane angaphambili. Ngisho nomama wasithatha isinqumo sami hhayi ngokushesha. Izinyo lokuqala lomncane laphuma ngemuva kwesikhashana kunaleli elidala, wahamba ngemuva kwenyanga - "lokhu kungenxa yokuthi u-cearean, uzozibeletha, ngeke asalele emuva ekukhuleni." Kuyamangaza ukuthi akhohlwe kanjani ngalezi zikhathi ukuthi umdala naye akazalwanga yena.

UKsenia, oneminyaka engama-35: wenqaba ukuncelisa

UPolina uyingane yami yesithathu. Indodakazi endala ibanga lesi-8, indodana ephakathi iya esikoleni ngonyaka. Sinohlelo oluqinile kakhulu: imibuthano, izigaba, ukuqeqeshwa. Anginaso nje isikhathi sokuba “yipulazi lobisi”. Ukuthwala ingane yakho ngendwayimane ukuze uyondle ngesikhathi kumane kuwubuwula.

Yebo, ngangikwazi ukupompa ngishiyele ubisi ekhaya kuPaulie. Kepha bengivele nginokuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle kumdala. Esifubeni sakhe, akazange akhuluphale - ubisi lwalusobala, cishe lungamanzi. Futhi-ke ingane yafafazwa ngoqweqwe lokungezwani nezinto ezithile. Ngazama ukukhulisa okuqukethwe okunamafutha obisi, ngangidla ngokuqinile - ngithululela ingane kukho konke. Futhi ukuncelisa kwethu sekuphelile.

Futhi mayelana nemizwa: ngiyaxolisa, kwakungemnandi kimi ngokomzimba. Ngabekezelela ngenxa yendodakazi yami, wonke umuntu wathi: udinga ukondla, udinga ukuzama. Wadla umcamelo ngamazinyo akhe ngesikhathi sokuphakelwa, kwaba umuzwa omubi kabi. Futhi yeka impumuzo okwaba yiyo lapho sishintshela enhlanganisweni.

Nginendodana yami, nginqume ukuzama futhi, kepha bekunganele isonto nohhafu. Ngize ngacela uPolina esibhedlela ukuthi angangibeki esifubeni sami. Kufanele ngabe ukubonile ukusabela kwalabo abaseduze kwakho. Kwakunomuntu owayeqeqeshwa egumbini lokubelethisa owabuza ngokuhleba okukhulu: “Ngabe uzomyeka?”

Manje sengikuthola kuhlekisa ngenxa yalokho kungabi namasu. Ngalowo mzuzu bekuyinhlamba. Kungani abantu benginqumela ukuthi ngincelise ibele noma cha? Nganikela ngempilo kule ngane, nginelungelo lokunquma ukuthi yini elungele yona nami. Kungani wonke umuntu abheke njengesibopho sakhe ukungenza ngizizwe nginecala?

Ziningi izinto engingazilalelanga - zombili ngokungabi bikho kokuxhumana okungokomzwelo nendodakazi yami, kanye nomphakathi wabathengi. Noma kunjalo (empeleni, hhayi) - kuthinta mina naye kuphela. Angiphikisani nokuthi ukuncelisa ibele kubalulekile, kuyadingeka futhi kuyinto eza kuqala. Kepha ngenzelwe ukuzikhethela ngaphandle kwesidingo sokwenza izaba.

U-Alina, oneminyaka engama-28: ulwa nentando yeningi kwezemfundo

Kuyangicasula lokhu kuthambekela: bathi, udinga ukukhuluma nezingane ngokulingana. Cha bayizingane. Ngingumuntu omdala. Icashazi. Ngathi - bezwile futhi balalela. Futhi uma bengalalelanga futhi bengalaleli, nginelungelo lokujezisa. Inkululeko yokucabanga nothando lwenkululeko inkulu, kepha hhayi eminyakeni engama-6-7 ubudala. Futhi angidingi ukululeka ukuthi ngifunde iZitser, Petranovskaya, Murashova noma omunye umuntu. Ngiyazi ukuthi babhala ngani. Angivumelani nje nabo.

Ngingumama omubi. Ngiyakwazi ukumemeza, ngikwazi ukuphonsa ukudla kudoti, ngisuse isilawuli kude se-TV kanye nenduku yokudlala ebhokisini le-set-top. Ngiyakwazi ukukhala ngenxa yombhalo wami wesandla nokungazimiseli ukwenza umsebenzi wami wesikole. Ngiyakwazi ukucasuka futhi ngizibe. Lokhu akusho ukuthi angiyithandi ingane. Kimi, ngokuphambene nalokho, ngimthanda kakhulu kangangokuba kuyangicasula ukuthi uziphatha kabi kakhulu kunalokho ayikho ngempela.

Ngakhuliswa ngokweqile. Cha, azange bangishaye, abaze bangifaka nasekhoneni. Lapho umama eshaye ithawula - bekungukuphela kokubekezela, bengizulazula ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakhe ekhishini, futhi ucishe wangiphendulela ibhodwe lamanzi abilayo (ngasendleleni, manje bazomsola kuqala kunakho konke - akazange ayibheke nhlobo ingane). Kodwa angizange ngizame nokuphikisana namazwi abazali bami. Phakamisa ikhala lakho kusukela ekudleni kwasemini - mahhala kuze kube kusihlwa, umama akanaso isikhathi sokuphekela izitsha ezi-15 ezahlukahlukene. Ukujeziswa kusho ukujeziswa. Futhi hhayi ekhoneni imizuzu emithathu, bese wonke umuntu ekuhawukela, kodwa inyanga ngaphandle kwe-TV noma okuthile okukhulu. Futhi ngasikhathi sinye, angicabangi ukuthi bengingathandwa.

Yini manje? Ukuziphatha okungalungile kubhekwa njengokukhuluma kwengane, futhi ukuphikisana nabazali kuthathwa njengokuveza umbono womuntu. Izingane zanamuhla zonakele zaze zaphela. "Bayathandwa" ngomqondo omubi kakhulu wegama. Uhlobo lwezinkaba zomhlaba. Abazi igama elithi “wena” negama elithi “cha.” Ingane ekhala isendleleni eya enkulisa ivusa ukuqonda okuningi kunabazali abazama kanzima ukuyithulisa. Onke la mavidiyo akwi-Intanethi: “Umama ubambe ingane ngesandla wayihudulela esitobhini sebhasi! Isono!" Kwesinye isikhathi kubonakala kimi ukuthi kule vidiyo - mina. Futhi yini enye okufanele uyenze uma udinga ukuba sehhovisi likadokotela ngemizuzu engama-20, futhi unesifiso sokubuyela ekhaya ngomshini wokubhala? Zonke lezi seluleko ezinoshukela ezingahlangene nakancane neqiniso: "Ingane inamalungelo afana nawe." Uxolo, ngabe kukhona ofuna ukukusho mayelana nemisebenzi yakhe?

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