Abaningi bethu bafuna "konke ngasikhathi sinye." Ukuqala ukudla, qala ngekhekhe lakho olithandayo. Yenza izinto ozithandayo kuqala futhi ushiye izinto ezingajabulisi ukuze kamuva. Kubonakala kuyisifiso somuntu esivamile ngokuphelele. Nokho indlela enjalo ingasilimaza, kusho udokotela wengqondo uScott Peck.
Ngolunye usuku, iklayenti lafika lizobona udokotela wengqondo uScott Peck. Iseshini ibinikezelwe ukuhlehlisa. Ngemva kokubuza uchungechunge lwemibuzo enengqondo ukuze athole umsuka wenkinga, uPeck wabuza ngokuphazima kweso ukuthi owesifazane uyawathanda yini amakhekhe. Ephendula evuma. UPeck wabe esebuza ukuthi ujwayele ukuwadla kanjani.
Waphendula ngokuthi udla okumnandi kakhulu kuqala: ungqimba olungaphezulu lukakhilimu. Umbuzo wodokotela wezengqondo nezimpendulo zesiguli zasibonisa kahle isimo sakhe sengqondo sokusebenza. Kwavela ukuthi ekuqaleni wayehlale enza imisebenzi yakhe eyintandokazi futhi kuphela lapho engakwazi ukuziphoqa ukuba enze umsebenzi oyisicefe futhi oyisidina.
Udokotela wezengqondo uphakamise ukuthi ashintshe indlela yakhe yokusebenza: ekuqaleni kosuku ngalunye lokusebenza, sebenzisa ihora lokuqala emisebenzini engathandeki, ngoba ihora lokuhlushwa, bese kuba amahora angu-7-8 enjabulo, lingcono kunehora lenjabulo kanye ne-7- Amahora angu-8 okuhlupheka. Ngemva kokuzama indlela yokwanelisa ebambezelekile ngokwenza, ekugcineni wakwazi ukukuyeka ukuhlehlisa.
Phela, ukulinda umvuzo kuyathokozisa ngokwakho - ngakho kungani ungaweluleki?
Liyini iphuzu? Kumayelana nobuhlungu “bokuhlela” nobumnandi: qala ngokugwinya iphilisi elibabayo ukuze elimnandi libonakale limnandi nakakhulu. Vele, akufanele uthembe ukuthi lesi sifaniso sikaphayi sizokwenza ushintshe ngobusuku obubodwa. Kodwa ukuqonda ukuthi izinto zinjani, kulungile. Futhi zama ukuqala ngezinto ezinzima nezingathandeki ukuze ujabule kakhulu ngalokhu okulandelayo. Phela, ukulinda umvuzo kuyathokozisa ngokwakho - ngakho kungani ungaweluleki?
Cishe, abaningi bazovuma ukuthi lokhu kunengqondo, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukushintsha noma yini. U-Peck unencazelo yalokhu naye: “Angikwazi ukukufakazela ngokombono wesayensi okwamanje, anginayo imininingwane yokuhlola, nokho imfundo idlala indima ebalulekile.”
Ezinganeni eziningi, abazali basebenza njengeziqondiso zendlela yokuphila, okusho ukuthi uma umzali efuna ukugwema imisebenzi engathandeki futhi aqonde ngqo kwabathandekayo, ingane izolandela le ndlela yokuziphatha. Uma ukuphila kwakho kunesiphithiphithi, cishe abazali bakho babephila noma baphila ngendlela efanayo. Yebo, awukwazi ukubeka lonke icala kubo kuphela: abanye bethu bakhetha indlela yethu futhi benza yonke into ngokudelela umama nobaba. Kodwa lokhu okuhlukile kufakazela umthetho kuphela.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, konke kuncike esimweni esithile. Ngakho-ke, abantu abaningi bakhetha ukusebenza kanzima futhi bathole imfundo ephakeme, ngisho noma bengafuni ngempela ukufunda, ukuze bathole okwengeziwe futhi, ngokuvamile, baphile kangcono. Kodwa-ke, bambalwa abantu abanquma ukuqhubeka nezifundo zabo - ngokwesibonelo, ukuthola iziqu. Abaningi babekezelela ukungakhululeki ngokomzimba ngisho nobuhlungu ngesikhathi sokuqeqeshwa, kodwa akuwona wonke umuntu olungele ukubekezelela ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okungenakugwemeka lapho esebenza nodokotela wezengqondo.
Abaningi bavuma ukuya emsebenzini nsuku zonke ngoba kufanele ngandlela thize ukuze baziphilise, kodwa bambalwa abaphokophele ukuqhubeka, benze okwengeziwe, baqhamuke nezinto zabo. Abaningi benza umzamo wokwazi umuntu kangcono futhi bathole abangaba umlingani wocansi kumuntu wakhe, kodwa ukutshala ngempela ubuhlobo ... cha, kunzima kakhulu.
Kodwa, uma sithatha ngokuthi indlela enjalo ivamile futhi ingokwemvelo emvelweni yomuntu, kungani abanye bekuhlehlisa ukuzijabulisa, kuyilapho abanye befuna yonke into ngesikhathi esisodwa? Mhlawumbe laba bakamuva abaqondi ukuthi lokhu kungaholela emiphi imiphumela? Noma ingabe bazama ukuhlehlisa umvuzo, kodwa bantula ukubekezela kokuqeda abakuqalile? Noma ingabe baqalaza abanye futhi benze “njengabo bonke abanye”? Noma kumane kuzenzakalela nje?
Mhlawumbe, izimpendulo zomuntu ngamunye zizohluka. Kubonakala kwabaningi ukuthi umdlalo awufaneleki ikhandlela: udinga ukwenza umzamo omkhulu wokushintsha okuthile kuwe - kodwa ngani? Impendulo ilula: ukujabulela ukuphila isikhathi eside. Ukuze ujabulele nsuku zonke.