I-Psychology

Kubonakala sengathi impumelelo nokuzethemba kuxhumene ngendlela engenakuhlukaniswa. Kodwa akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngokuvamile ukuzenyeza kuba yisizathu esenza umuntu azisebenzele futhi afinyelele imigomo emisha kakhulu. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Jamie Daniel wembula ukuthi yini ethinta ukuzethemba.

Izinkinga zokuzethemba nokuzethemba azibi yisithiyo empumelelweni. Kunalokho, kubantu abaningi abaphumelelayo, ukuzethemba okuphansi kuye kwanikeza ugqozi “lokunqoba izindawo eziphakeme.”

Ngokuvamile kithi kubonakala sengathi abantu abadumile abahlushwa ukuzethemba okuphansi. Eqinisweni, osaziwayo abaningi, osomabhizinisi abaphumelelayo, abasubathi kanye nosopolitiki bahlushwa yilokhu - noma bake bahlushwa yikho. Uma ubheka impumelelo yabo, imali eningi kanye nodumo, kulula ukucabanga ukuthi lokhu kungafezwa kuphela ngokuzethemba.

Lokhu akunjalo ngempela. Yebo, laba bantu bayaphikelela, basebenza kanzima futhi banomdlandla. Babenobuhlakani obanele, ithalente namakhono adingekayo ukuze bafinyelele phezulu. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, abaningi babo esikhathini esidlule babehlushwa ukungabaza, ukungalondeki, umuzwa wokungabalulekile kwabo siqu. Abaningi bakhule kanzima. Ukungabaza nokungaqiniseki kwadlala indima enkulu endleleni yabo eya empumelelweni.

Osaziwayo abajwayelene nezinto ezinjalo bahlanganisa u-Oprah Winfrey, uJohn Lennon, uHillary Swank, uRussell Brand noMarilyn Monroe. UMonroe wayevame ukuhamba ezindaweni ngezindawo lapho esemncane futhi ehlala nemindeni ehlukene, futhi abazali bakhe babenezinkinga zengqondo. Konke lokhu akuzange kumvimbe ekwenzeni umsebenzi odidayo wokuba imodeli nomlingisikazi.

Izinganekwane ezi-5 zokuzethemba ezisiza abangazithembi ukuthi baphumelele

Izinkinga zokuzethemba zingaba umthombo onamandla wesikhuthazo. Umuntu uhlale ezama ukubonisa ukuthi ubalulekile. Uyaqiniseka ukuthi ukubaluleka komuntu kunqunywa impumelelo yakhe futhi, cishe, ukholelwa ezinganekwaneni ezinhlanu eziphathelene nokuzethemba nomuzwa wokuthi umuntu ubalulekile. Nazi:

1. Ilungelo lokuzihlonipha kufanele lizuzwe. Inani lakho linqunywa yilokho okwenzayo, futhi kuzodingeka usebenze kanzima ukuze uthole ilungelo lokuzihlonipha. Uma usebenza kancane futhi uzuza kancane, awunalutho ongazazisa ngalo.

2. Ukuzihlonipha kuncike ezenzakalweni zangaphandle. Umthombo wawo amamaki amahle, amadiploma, ukukhula komsebenzi, ukudunyiswa, ukuhlonishwa, imiklomelo, izikhundla eziphakeme, njll. Ujaha impumelelo ukuze wanelise isidingo sakho sokuzihlonipha.

3. Singazihlonipha futhi sizihloniphe kuphela uma singcono kunabanye. Uhlala uqhudelana nabanye futhi ulwela ukufika ngaphambi kwabo. Kunzima ukuthi uthokozele impumelelo yabanye abantu, ngoba uhlezi udinga isinyathelo esisodwa phambili.

4. Ilungelo lokuzihlonipha kufanele lihlale lifakazelwa. Lapho injabulo yempumelelo yokugcina iqala ukufiphala, ukungaqiniseki kwangaphakathi kuyabuya. Udinga ukuqashelwa njalo ngandlela thize ukuze ufakazele ukubaluleka kwakho. Uphishekela impumelelo ngokungapheli ngoba unesiqiniseko sokuthi awenele uwedwa.

5. Ukuze uzihloniphe udinga abanye bakuthande. Uthando, ukuvunyelwa, ukwazisa abanye kukwenza uzizwe ubalulekile.

Nakuba ukuzethemba okuphansi kungase kubangele impumelelo, kunenani okufanele ulikhokhele. Lapho uhlushwa yizinkinga zokuzethemba, kulula ukungena ekukhathazekeni nasekucindezelekeni. Uma konke kubonakala kuhamba kahle empilweni yakho, kodwa inhliziyo yakho inzima, kubalulekile ukuqaphela amaqiniso ambalwa alula.

1. Asikho isidingo sokubonisa ukubaluleka kwakho kanye nelungelo lokuhlonipha. Sonke siyigugu futhi sifanele ukuhlonishwa kusukela ekuzalweni kwethu.

2. Imicimbi yangaphandle, ukunqoba nokuhlulwa akukhulisi noma kwehlise inani lethu.

3. Ukuziqhathanisa nabanye kuwukuchitha isikhathi nomzamo. Awudingi ukufakazela ukubaluleka kwakho, ngakho ukuqhathanisa akusho lutho.

4. Usuvele umuhle ngokwanele. Bebodwa. Lapha futhi manje.

5. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo singakusiza. Ngezinye izikhathi kungase kudingeke usizo lochwepheshe ukuze kuxazululwe izinkinga zokuzethemba.

Impumelelo ayixazululi izinkinga ngokuzethemba nokuzethemba

Kwesinye isikhathi okubangela ubunzima obuningi kuvele kube usizo ngendlela ebingalindelekile. Isifiso sokufinyelela imigomo, impumelelo siyancomeka. Nokho, ungazami ukukala ukubaluleka kwakho njengomuntu ngalokhu. Ukuze uphile ngenjabulo nangenjabulo, kubalulekile ukufunda ukuzazisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyiphi impumelelo.

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