Ukulahlekelwa okukhulu nokubi kakhulu ukushona kwengane yakho. Kuwubuhlungu obungenakuchazwa ngamazwi, obungeke kwabiwe noma bumane bukhohlwe. Ukuze kunqobe lokhu, kufanele kuthathwe izinyathelo ezifanele, ngaphandle kwalokho umuntu angase angakwazi ukumelana nosizi lwakhe. Lezi zinto ezalabo abaye babhekana neshwa noma labo abathandekayo babo abalahlekelwe.
Isimo
Umuntu oye walahlekelwa kumelwe akhumbule ukuthi unelungelo layo yonke imizwa nemizwelo yakhe. Unyaka wokuqala ngemva kwesigameko, uzobe engathi akasekho. Lokhu kungahlanganisa ukushintshashintsha kwentukuthelo, umuzwa wecala, ukuphika nokwesaba, konke okuvamile ngemva kokushonelwa othandekayo. Njengoba isikhathi sihamba, ukukhohlwa kuyoqala ukufiphala, futhi uyobuyela eqinisweni. Abazali abaningi bathi unyaka wesibili unzima kakhulu, kodwa empeleni ubuchopho budala lobu buthuntu ukuze buvikele umuntu ekuhlanyeni, ukususwa okuphelele enkumbulo yokulahlekelwa kwethu. Uyesaba ukuthi sizokhohlwa, ngakho usigcina lesi simo ngangokunokwenzeka.
Khumbula ukuthi usizi luhlala isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka. Wonke umuntu ungumuntu nje. Kunokufana okuningi ezinqubweni bonke abazali abadlula kuzo, kodwa konke kwenzeka ngendlela ehlukile komunye nomunye. Konke umuntu angakwenza ukuzinakekela.
Ukuze usinde enhlekeleleni, kumelwe uqaphele ukuthi usizi kumelwe lube lobugovu. Umuntu obhekene nokulahlekelwa kudingeka azicabange futhi azinakekele, ngoba ekuqaleni ngeke akwazi ukunakekela izihlobo nabangane ngokuziphatha.
Umuntu akahlanyi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wenzani futhi noma uziphatha kanjani. Ukhala ngokushonelwa othandekayo.
Okufanele ukwenze nokuthi uziphathe kanjani
– Uma kungenzeka, kungcono ukushiya umsebenzi kusenesikhathi noma uthathe iholidi. Kodwa-ke, nalapha, kufanele uthembele kuwena, ngoba kungumsebenzi osindisa abazali abathile kanye nabantu abaye babhekana nosizi.
Ukulala kubaluleke kakhulu ngoba kusiza ukulwa nengcindezi.
– Umuntu obhekene nosizi udinga ukudla aphuze ukuze athole amandla.
– Utshwala nezidakamizwa kufanele kugwenywe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kulinga kangakanani. Lezi zinto zithinta kabi isimiso sezinzwa futhi zandisa ukucindezeleka.
Akekho onelungelo lokutshela umuntu ukuthi kufanele asabele kanjani. Nguye kuphela owaziyo okuhlezi ekujuleni kwakhe.
“Kulungile ukuthatha ikhefu osizini, ukumamatheka, ukuhleka futhi ujabulele impilo. Lokhu akusho ukuthi umuntu uyakhohlwa ngokulahlekelwa kwakhe - akunakwenzeka.
Kuye kwafakazelwa ngokwesayensi ukuthi ukulahlekelwa kwalokhu bukhulu kufana nokuhlukumezeka okukhulu kwengqondo.
Kubalulekile ukuzibekela imingcele enempilo. Umuntu kufanele abe nesikhathi nendawo yokulila. Kulungile ukuzehlukanisa nomphakathi futhi ukwenze wedwa. Into eyinhloko ukuthi akazihoxisi ngokuphelele kuye.
Udinga ukuthola ukwesekwa. Umndeni nabangane, amaqembu asekelayo aku-inthanethi noma, okuhle kunakho konke, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Siyaphinda, siyaphinda ukuthi umuntu oke wabhekana nosizi akahlanyi, ukuya kudokotela wengqondo kuwumkhuba ojwayelekile ongamsiza. Kukhona futhi usiza inkolo, isisa.
Khumbula ukuthi akekho ongaluqonda ngempela usizi lomuntu oshonelwe. Kodwa abantu esibathandayo kufanele bazi ukuthi bangasiza kanjani. Izihlobo kumele ziqonde ukuthi umuntu useshintshe unomphela, futhi kumele zamukele lolu sizi. Kubalulekile ukwazisa abantu ukuthi ababodwa.
Ithonya lemidiya
Ngeke sibhale ngezibonelo ezithile, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kaningi abezindaba bangafaka ukwethuka okukhulu nokuhlangana kwabantu ababhekene nosizi. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi okuningi okubhalwe ngabezindaba futhi kushuthwe ngumabonakude kudala ukwethuka, ukudideka nezinye izinto. Ngeshwa, abantu abangahlangene nezombusazwe noma abezindaba ngeke bakwazi ukwazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi yiluphi ulwazi oluyiqiniso. Yiba ocabangelayo.
Sikhuluma nawo wonke umuntu ngokuphelele. Ongakwenza nje wukuyofuna ukuchukuluza kwabezindaba. Sicela ungasakazi ulwazi olungaqinisekisiwe ngokwakho futhi ungakholelwa kulokho okungafakazelwanga. Nalapha futhi, ngeke sazi ukuthi izinto zenzeka kanjani ngempela.
Zinakekele wena kanye nabathandekayo bakho.