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Uke waqaphela ukuthi ukuthola ukulingana phakathi komndeni, isikhathi sakho kanye nomsebenzi kuphuca amandla nokholo kuwe? Ikakhulukazi abesifazane bahlushwa yilokhu, ngoba, ngokombono ovamile, kuwumsebenzi wabo “ukuguqula” izindima ezihlukene. Lapho ufaka isicelo somsebenzi, akusoze kwafika kunoma ubani ukuba abuze indoda ukuthi ikwazi kanjani ukwakha umsebenzi ophumelelayo futhi inikele isikhathi ezinganeni, noma ukuthi ukuqala konyaka wesikole kuzomvimbela yini ukuba aqedele umsebenzi ngesikhathi. Abesifazane kufanele baphendule imibuzo enjalo nsuku zonke.
Sonke, kungakhathaliseki ubulili, sifuna ukuqashelwa, isimo senhlalo, ithuba lokuthuthukisa, kuyilapho singalahlekelwa ukuxhumana nabathandekayo nokuhlanganyela ekuphileni kwezingane zethu. Ngokocwaningo olwenziwa ngu-Egon Zehnde, u-74% wabantu unentshisekelo ezikhundleni zokuphatha, kodwa leli phesenti lehla laya ku-57% kwabesifazane abaneminyaka yobudala. Futhi esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko inkinga yokulinganisela phakathi komsebenzi nomndeni.
Uma siqonda "ibhalansi" njengesilinganiso sezingxenye ezilinganayo zesikhathi namandla esiwanikeza emsebenzini nokuphila komuntu siqu, khona-ke isifiso sokuthola lokhu kulingana singasiqhubezela ekhoneni. Ukuphishekela ithemba elingamanga, isifiso esinamandla sokufinyelela ukulinganisela, ukufuna ngokweqile okusiqeda amandla. Isici esisha sengezwa ezingeni elivele likhona lengcindezi - ukungakwazi ukubhekana kahle nayo yonke imithwalo yemfanelo.
Ukubuzwa kombuzo - ukuthola ukulingana phakathi kwezinto ezimbili - kusiphoqa ukuba sikhethe "noma-noma", njengokungathi umsebenzi awuyona ingxenye yokuphila, njengabangane, izinto zokuzilibazisa, izingane kanye nomndeni. Noma ingabe umsebenzi uyinto enzima kangangokuthi kunzima ukulinganisa nokuphila komuntu siqu okujabulisayo? Ibhalansi iwuhlobo lwe-idealization, ukusesha kwe-stasis, lapho kungekho muntu futhi kungekho lutho olunyakazayo, yonke into iba yiqhwa futhi izoba iphelele phakade. Eqinisweni, ukuthola ukulinganisela akuyona into engaphezu kokulwela ukuphila ukuphila okwanelisayo.
Zama ukucabanga ngokulinganisela njengesifiso sokugcwaliseka kuzo zombili izici ngaphandle kokuzisola nomuzwa wecala.
Kuthiwani uma, esikhundleni sokulinganisa "okungalingani", zama ukwakha isu elihlangene lokusebenza nokuphila komuntu siqu? Umbono okhiqiza kakhulu womuntu njengesistimu yonke, ngokungafani nendlela ye-dualistic, ehlukanisa "izingxenye" eziphikisanayo ezinezifiso ezahlukene. Phela, umsebenzi, umuntu siqu, kanye nomndeni kuyizingxenye zempilo eyodwa, banezikhathi ezimangalisayo nezinto ezisidonsela phansi.
Kuthiwani uma sisebenzisa isu elilodwa kuzo zombili lezi zindawo: yenza okuthandayo futhi ukujabulele, uzama ukubhekana nemisebenzi engathandeki ngokuphumelelayo futhi uqondise ubuchwepheshe bakho lapho bubaluleke khona ngempela? Zama ukucabanga ngokulinganisela njengesifiso sokugcwaliseka kuzo zombili izici ngaphandle kokuzisola noma umuzwa wecala. Lokhu kuzokunika umuzwa wokugcwaliseka, ukugcwaliseka nokulinganisela.
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1. ISU LOKWAKHA
Esikhundleni sesu lokwenqaba elidala umuzwa wokushoda futhi lisiphuce ukwaneliseka, sebenzisa isu lokwakha. Esikhundleni sokucabanga ngeqiniso lokuthi awusebenzi kahle ngesikhathi usekhaya futhi uzisole ngokungabi nesikhathi esanele nezingane zakho ngenkathi uhleli ezingxoxweni ehhovisi, kufanele wakhe impilo eyanelisayo ngokuqaphela.
Leli su futhi linencazelo yokuphila. Izinhlelo ezimbili zezinzwa ezihlukene, ezizwelayo kanye ne-parasympathetic, ngokulandelanayo, zinesibopho sokuphendula ukucindezeleka nokuphumula emzimbeni wethu. Imfihlo ukuthi bobabili kufanele basebenze ngendlela efanayo. Okusho ukuthi, inani lokuphumula kufanele lilingane nenani lokucindezeleka.
Khetha futhi uzilolonge njalo imisebenzi oziphumulele: ukuhamba ngebhayisikili noma ukuhamba ngezinyawo, ukuvivinya umzimba, ukuxhumana nezingane kanye nabathandekayo, ukuzinakekela, ukuzilibazisa. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzozwa ukuthi "isistimu yokuphumula" isiqalile ukunqoba impendulo yokucindezeleka.
Okunye ukuhlela impelasonto nakho kungasiza, lapho uhlelela usuku ngendlela “ehlehlayo,” ubeka phambili imisebenzi ejabulisayo esikhundleni sokuyenza njengensalela ngemva kwezinto “ezidingekayo”.
2. UKWEHLULWA KWEZINDLULEKO
Umsebenzi ungaba yithuba elihle lokuchazela izingane kanye nabathandekayo izinzuzo ozilethayo, izizathu zokuthi kungani wenza umsebenzi wezobuchwepheshe, futhi, ekugcineni, indima yakho, ezohambisana nesithombe sasekhaya. Ungasibukeli phansi isikhathi osichithe emsebenzini - kunalokho, bheka imisebenzi yakho njengomnikelo obalulekile futhi usebenzise leli thuba ukufundisa izindinganiso zakho enganeni yakho.
Kunombono wokuthi owesifazane othanda umsebenzi wenza izingane zakhe zingajabuli. Imiphumela yocwaningo olwenziwa phakathi kwabantu abayikhulu emazweni angu-100 iyawuphikisa lo mbono. Izingane zomama abasebenzayo zijabulile njengalezo onina bebehlala ekhaya ngokugcwele.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunomthelela omuhle: amadodakazi amadala komama abasebenzayo kungenzeka ukuthi asebenze ngokuzimela, athathe izikhundla zobuholi futhi athole amaholo aphezulu. Amadodana komama abasebenzayo ajabulela ubudlelwano bobulili obulinganayo kanye nokwabiwa kwemithwalo yemfanelo emndenini. Kukhumbule lokhu lapho ubhekene nenkolelo yokuthi umama osebenzayo uphuthelwa okuthile okubalulekile enganeni yakhe.
3.IMPILO ENGAWO "UTHANDO"
Uma ufuna ibhalansi, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yini ngempela ekunikeza ugqozi emsebenzini. Ngemithwalo yemfanelo efanayo, abanye banikezwa amandla ngethuba lokuzibekela inselelo futhi bafeze okungenakwenzeka, abanye bakhuthazwa yithuba lokutshala isikhathi ekuqeqesheni abasebenzi, abanye bashukunyiswa inqubo yokudala, kanti abanye bayakujabulela ukuxoxisana namakhasimende.
Hlaziya othanda ukukwenza, ukuthi yini ekunika amandla, ikunikeza umuzwa wenjabulo nokugeleza, bese ukukhulisa. Ungazama ukuphila okungenani inyanga kwezinye izigaba: esikhundleni sokuthi "umsebenzi" ojwayelekile kanye "nomndeni", uhlukanise impilo yakho ibe "othandekayo" futhi "ongathandwa".
Kungaba ubuwula ukusho ukuthi kufanele senze esikuthandayo kuphela. Nokho, ukuzibuka nokuqokomisa lokho esithanda ukukwenza (emsebenzini noma ekuphileni komkhaya), bese sandisa isilinganiso sesithandwa sethu kuzo zombili izici, kuyosenza sizizwe singcono. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abangani bethu, izihlobo, esisebenza nabo bazokwazi ukuzuza ekubonakalisweni kwethu okuhle kakhulu.
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Uma ungakwazi ukwakha impilo yakho phezu kwalezi zimiso, weluka indwangu engokoqobo «ngokusebenzisa» ezindaweni ezahlukene futhi wenze isikhungo lokho okuthanda ngempela, kuyokulethela ukwaneliseka nenjabulo.
Ungashintshi yonke into ngesikhathi esisodwa - kulula kakhulu ukubhekana nokwehluleka futhi ushiye yonke into njengoba injalo. Qala kancane. Uma usebenza amahora angu-60 ngeviki, ungazami ukuzifaka ohlakeni lwamahora angu-40 ngokushesha. Uma ungakaze udle isidlo sakusihlwa nomndeni wakho, ungaziphoqeleli ukwenza kanjalo nsuku zonke.
Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala futhi unamathele ezimisweni ezintsha ngazo zonke izindleko. Ukuhlakanipha kwaseShayina kuzokusiza ukuthi uqale: “Kunezikhathi ezimbili ezinhle zokuqala esisha: esokuqala sasiyiminyaka engu-20 edlule, esesibili sikhona manje.”