Yini ebangela ukuhlaselwa kovalo kungazelelwe? Ukwesaba okungenangqondo kuvelaphi? Ngezinye izikhathi ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele kubonakala ngale ndlela. Ngenhlanhla, iyelapheka. Into esemqoka ukuqaphela izimpawu ngesikhathi.
U-Elena wahlaselwa wuvalo olunzima. Ukuhlasela kuthathe imizuzwana embalwa kuya kwesigamu sehora. Bavuka ngokungalindelekile futhi bengazinzile nhlobo. Lokhu kwamvimbela ukuba aphile ngokugcwele, asebenze futhi axhumane. Wayenamahloni ngaye. Ngokuvamile, u-Elena waqala ukubalekela abantu futhi washiya izinto azithandayo.
Ukuhlaselwa kovalo kwaqala ebusheni. Lapho eneminyaka engu-30, u-Elena akakwazanga ukubambelela kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinyanga ezimbalwa, umshado wawuseduze nokuwa, cishe kwakungekho abangane abasele.
Odokotela bamthole ukuthi unesifo sobuntu obungajwayelekile. U-Elena ubengabonakali nhlobo njengesiguli esinalesi sifo. Wayenesifo esicashile.
Nazi izimpawu ezimbalwa ze-borderline disorder ngendlela ecashile:
1. Isifiso sokugcina ubudlelwano ngazo zonke izindleko. U-Elena wayengeke amshiye umyeni wakhe, naphezu kwezinkinga zomshado. Kusukela ebuntwaneni, wazizwa elahliwe abazali bakhe futhi, ebusheni bakhe, wathandana nendoda ashada nayo.
2. Ubudlelwano obungazinzile nobushubile emoyeni emndenini. Lokhu kwabonakala ngokuyinhloko ebuhlotsheni nomama. Wathuka futhi walulaza u-Elena. Indodakazi yayeka ukuxhumana nonina ngemva kwenye i-SMS enenhlamba, kwathi ngemva kwamasonto amabili, kwaba sengathi akwenzekanga lutho, yahamba nayo ezitolo. U-Elena ucindezele ukucasuka nokucasuka.
3. Imibono esontekile ngawe. Lapho u-Elena esemncane, unina wamthumela ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuba ahlanganyele emiqhudelwaneni yonobuhle. Izenzakalo ezinjalo zakha imibono engemihle ngomzimba womuntu siqu. U-Elena wanquma ukuthi uma ebukeka ekhangayo, kwakungeke kudingeke abhekane nemizwelo nemizwa. Ngenxa yalokhu, wacindezela intukuthelo, usizi, amahloni, umuzwa wecala nokudabuka iminyaka eminingi.
4. Ukuthatheka nokuzibhubhisa. U-Elena akazange aphike ukuthi wayesebenzisa kabi utshwala nezidakamizwa. Wayethambekele ekusebenziseni imali engalawuleki, ukuzenzakalisa, edla ngokweqile. Imikhuba emibi yayilandelana. Uma ekwazile ukuyeka ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa ze-psychotropic, ngokushesha waqala ukusebenzisa imali ngokungalawuleki. Ngemva kokunqoba umkhuba wokukama isikhumba sakhe, waqala "ukubamba" ukucindezeleka. Izindlela zokuzilimaza zazilokhu zishintsha njalo.
5. Ukuzama ukuzibulala njalo. Ekuboneni kokuqala, u-Elena wayengenazo izinhloso zokuzibulala, waphika imicabango enjalo. Nokho, wayedla izidakamizwa. Ukuthambekela kwakhe kwesikhathi eside kokuzilimaza nokuziphatha okuyingozi kwakunamandla kangangokuthi izenzo ezinjalo zingabizwa nangokuthi imizamo yokuzibulala ecashile.
6. Ukukhathazeka okukhulu, ukucindezeleka noma ukucasuka. Eseyingane, u-Elena wafundiswa ukuthi imizwelo engathandeki - ukukhathazeka, ukucasuka, ukukhathazeka - kufanele ibe namahloni. Njengoba ayengavunyelwe ukubonisa imizwa enjalo obala, wayeyifihla. Ngenxa yalokho, kwaphakama ukwesaba, futhi lapho umuntu esekhulile, kwenezelwa izinkinga zokugaya ukudla.
7. Ukuzizwa ungelutho kwangaphakathi. Ngisho nalapho izinto zimhambela kahle u-Elena, wayezizwa enganelisekile. Waqala ukonakalisa imizwelo yabanye, enganakile ezama ukuveza umuzwa wokungabi nalutho kwangaphakathi. Nokho, lokhu kwabhekana nokuphikiswa okuqinile komyeni wakhe nezinye izihlobo kangangokuthi wakhetha ukumane ayifihlele wonke umuntu imizwa yakhe.
8. Ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo. U-Elena wathi cishe akalokothi athukuthele. Eqinisweni, wafundiswa kusukela ebuntwaneni ukuthi intukuthelo akufanele iboniswe. Intukuthelo yanqwabelana phakathi neminyaka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kwaba nokuqubuka okungalindelekile. Ngemva kokuzizwa enamahloni, waphinde wasebenzisa ukuzilimaza, ukudla ngokweqile noma utshwala.
9. Imicabango edidekile. Inqubo yokuhlolwa ngudokotela yabangela u-Elena ukwesaba kangangokuthi walahla yonke into izikhathi eziningana wabe eseqala futhi. Wayenemicabango ehambisana ne-paranoia. Wayesaba ukusabela kwezihlobo, ukulahlwa kwabanye. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke - ukuthi wonke umuntu uzomshiya.
10. Izimpawu zokuhlukana. Ngezinye izikhathi u-Elena wayebonakala "ephuma eqinisweni", kubonakala sengathi wayezibuka eceleni. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kwenzeka ngokushesha ngaphambi kokuhlasela kwe-panic futhi ngokushesha ngemva kwalokho. Ngaphambi kokuya kudokotela, u-Elena akazange atshele muntu ngalokhu, wayesaba ukuthi uzobhekwa njengongajwayelekile.
Kokubili i-overt and covert personality disorder iyalapheka. I-Psychotherapy isiza iziguli eziningi: ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwe-dialectical, ukwelashwa kwe-schema, imfundo yengqondo. Lapho u-Elena eqaphela ukuthi kwakwenzekani kuye ngempela, ukwesaba kwaphela, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukwelashwa kwengqondo kwamsiza ukuba afunde ukubhekana kangcono nokuhlangenwe nakho okungokomzwelo.
Mayelana nombhali: UKristin Hammond uyisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esilulekayo.