Iholide nozakwethu ngokuvamile linikezwa incazelo ekhethekile. Kubonakala sengathi kulezi zinsuku, lapho sithola ithuba lokuzinikela komunye nomunye, sizoqeda izikhalo ezedlule futhi sinikeze umoya wothando. Iphupho liyafezeka futhi liletha ukudumala. Kungani kufanele ubhekane namaqiniso ngokwengeziwe ngamaholide, kusho umelaphi uSusan Whitbourne.
Emaphusheni ethu, iholidi ndawonye, njengasedrama yakudala, lakhiwa ngokugcinwa kukaZiqu-zintathu: indawo, isikhathi kanye nesenzo. Futhi lezi zingxenye ezintathu kufanele ziphelele.
Kodwa-ke, uma "indawo nesikhathi" esingcono kakhulu singabhukwa futhi sithengwe, khona-ke isigaba "sesenzo" (ukuthi uhambo luzoqhubeka kanjani) kunzima kakhulu ukusilawula. Ungase uqale ukuphazanyiswa imicabango ngomsebenzi noma ngokuzumayo ufune ukuba wedwa. Kusukela lapha, ukuphonsa itshe kumizwa yecala phambi komlingani.
Abacwaningi baseBreda University of Applied Sciences (Netherlands) balandelele ukuthi isimo somqondo sishintsha kanjani ngesikhathi samaholidi. Basebenzisa indlela yosuku lokwakha kabusha, bemema abahlanganyeli abangu-60, abathathe okungenani izinsuku ezinhlanu zeholide kusukela ngoJulayi kuya kuSeptemba, ukuba babhale imibono yabo njalo kusihlwa futhi baphawule igrafu yemizwa.
Ezinsukwini zokugcina zeholide, cishe sonke siba nokuwohloka kwemizwelo nokunganakwa okuncane.
Ekuqaleni kohambo, yonke imibhangqwana yazizwa ingcono futhi ijabule kunangaphambi kweholide. Kulabo abaphumule kusukela ezinsukwini ezingu-8 kuya kweziyi-13, inani eliphakeme lezinto ezijabulisayo lawela phakathi nosuku lwesithathu nesishiyagalombili, okwathi ngemva kwalokho kwaba nokwehla, futhi usuku noma ezimbili ngaphambi kokuphela kohambo, isimo sengqondo safinyelela ubuncane. . Kulezi zinsuku, abantu abaningi bazizwa becindezelekile, isigqi sempilo yeholide sayeka ukubajabulisa, futhi kwaba nezingxabano eziningi phakathi kwabo.
Imibhangqwana eyaphumula isonto lonke cishe ngokushesha yambozwa igagasi leholide elijabulisayo. Maphakathi nesonto, ukushuba kwemizwa yokuqala eyakhayo kwehle kancane, kodwa hhayi kakhulu njengoba emaqenjini athatha iholide elide.
Kuvela ukuthi uma iholidi lingapheli izinsuku ezingaphezu kweziyisikhombisa, sikwazi kangcono ukulondoloza isimo sengqondo esijabulisayo. Amaholide amade kuneviki elilodwa adala ukuwohloka kwemizwa phakathi nohambo. Nokho, kungakhathaliseki ubude bokuphumula ezinsukwini zokugcina, cishe sonke sibhekana nokuncipha kwemizwelo nokunganaki okuncane. Futhi yilezi zinkumbulo ezibeka engcupheni yokufaka ushevu kokuhlangenwe nakho kohambo, okungenani kuze kube yilapho siqala ukuzwa i-nostalgia yeholide.
Ngakho-ke, uma unomuzwa wokuthi ukhathele yikho konke, akufanele unikeze umfutho wokuqala bese uphuthuma ukupakisha ipotimende lakho noma uphuthume esikhumulweni sezindiza, uzenza sengathi ugwema isiminyaminya, nakuba empeleni ubalekela imizwa yakho. kanye nemizwa.
Ukuphila akuzilaleli izinhlelo zethu, futhi akunakwenzeka ukugodla "isonto lenjabulo"
Zilalele wena. Yini oyifunayo kakhulu? Uma udinga ukuba wedwa nawe, tshela umlingani wakho ngakho. Hamba, uphuze inkomishi yekhofi yedwa, khumbula izikhathi ezikhanyayo zezinsuku ezidlule. Kamuva, ungabelana ngalezi zinkumbulo nozakwenu.
Idayari yabo bonke ababambiqhaza ocwaningweni ibonisa ukuthi imizwa eyakhayo esiyitholayo lapho siseholidini nesithandwa idlula imizwelo engemihle. Kodwa-ke, akekho owakhuluma ngamaholide njengesikhathi esingashintsha kakhulu ubudlelwano kumbhangqwana noma ukusiza ukubheka izinto ezindala ngokubukeka okusha, okuvame ukuthembisa amabhulogi okuhamba.
Ukuphila akuzilaleli izinhlelo zethu, futhi akunakwenzeka ukugcina "isonto lenjabulo". Ukulindela ngokweqile okuhlobene neholide kungadlala ihlaya elinonya. Futhi, ngokuphambene nalokho, ngokuzivumela thina nozakwethu ukuba siphile kuyo yonke imizwa phakathi nalesi sikhathi, sizodambisa ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo ekupheleni kohambo futhi sigcine izinkumbulo ezifudumele zalo.
Mayelana nombhali: USusan Krauss Whitborn unguprofesa wezengqondo eNyuvesi yaseMassachusetts Amherst.