Okuqukethwe
Iholide lesikhathi eside. Ulele kusofa, uzama ukukhipha izinkathazo nezinkathazo ekhanda lakho. Kodwa akuphumi. “Phumula! Siyazikholisa. “Yizwa injabulo!” Kodwa akuphumi lutho. Kwenziwani ngakho?
Ukuze ujabule futhi ujabule - kubonakala sengathi kungaba lula futhi kube mnandi kakhulu? Kodwa kwabaningi bethu, lo msebenzi ungaphezu kwamandla ethu. Kungani?
“Abanye abantu ngokuvamile bakuthola kunzima ukuzwa injabulo ngenxa yokuhleleka kwabo kwemizwa, baba nemizwelo eyakhayo ebangeni elingaphansi kwesilinganiso,” kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uYulia Zakharova. - Abantu abaningi bavinjelwa ekujabuleni izinkolelo ezafundwa ebuntwaneni ngezwe nangabo ngokwabo - amacebo. Ngakho-ke, isibonelo, abantu abane-negativism/pessimism schema bayaqiniseka ukuthi "ngeke kuphele kahle." Bagxila ezinkingeni ezingase zibe khona, kulokho okungase konakale.”
Ngokusho kukaYulia Zakharova, uma kukhona uhlelo lokuba sengozini ngaphezu kwalokho, abantu bayaqiniseka ukuthi izinto ezimbi zingenzeka ngokuzumayo, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi: kunzima kakhulu ukuzwa injabulo ngokoqobo "emaphethelweni kwalasha".
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, labo abavame ukucindezela imizwa bayaqiniseka ukuthi ngokuvamile kuyingozi ukukhombisa imizwelo. Futhi noma yikuphi: hhayi kuphela okungalungile, kodwa futhi okuhle. Ngokusho kochwepheshe be-cognitive-behavioral, ukucabanga "komlingo" kudlala indima enkulu kule ndaba: ngokuvamile abantu bayesaba ukujabula!
Umqondo wokuthi «uma uhleka kanzima, kufanele ukhale kanzima» ubonakala unengqondo kubo.
"Ngakho-ke, ukuzama ukugwema ukungaqiniseki nezinkinga, abantu bazama ukungajabuli kangako - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani," kuqhubeka uchwepheshe. Ngakho-ke kubo kubonakala sengathi balawula okuthile, bekhokhela inkohliso yokulawula ngokuyeka injabulo yokuphila.
Ngokusho kukaYulia Zakharova, ngokuvamile lezi zinkolelo ezijulile zihlanganisa zonke izigaba zokuphila: ngezinye izikhathi izinkolelo zibonakala ngenkuthalo kwenye yemikhakha yokuphila, isibonelo, emndenini. Kodwa ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi asijabule ebudlelwaneni?
“Yebo, ubudlelwano obungagculisi bomzali nengane kanye nobudlelwano bungaba yimbangela yokucindezeleka. Futhi, umuntu akakwazi ukwehlisela umthwalo omkhulu wasendlini, ”uchwepheshe uyaqiniseka.
Ngokombono wesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emtholampilo, abantu abangakwazi ukuphumula ekuphileni kwansuku zonke bavame ukubhekana nobunzima eholidini, kanye nangezimpelasonto. "Umkhuba wokuzigcina "usesimweni esihle", ukukhathazeka nokungezwani "kuhamba" kusukela phakathi nesonto kuya eholidini," kuchaza u-Yulia Zakharova. - Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kuphela isihloko sokukhathazeka sishintsha - emva kwakho konke, eholidini kukhona into yokukhathazeka nokukhathazeka ngayo. Futhi kuseholidini lapho abantu abavame ukuqaphela khona ukuthi abakwazi ukuphumula “ngokuchofoza nje.”
Kungenzeka yini ukulwa nale mizwa futhi uzishintshele enjabulweni? “Ngeshwa, ubuchopho bethu buklanywe ngendlela yokuthi ukulwa nemizwa ngokuxakayo kuyiqinise kuphela,” kugcizelela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. "Kodwa singazama ukubaphikisa ngokuthile."
Amathiphu ochwepheshe
1. Ungazithukutheleli ngokungakwazi ukukhululeka.
Ukuzithukuthelela kwakho ngeke kusize, kodwa kuzokwandisa ukungezwani. Phatha isimo sakho ngokuqonda: awukhethanga. Zama ukuziduduza njengokungathi ududuza umngane oseduze.
2. Zama izindlela zokuphefumula ukuze ushintshe
Isibonelo, ukuphefumula kwesisu (okujulile noma kwesisu). Setha isibali sikhathi imizuzu emithathu kuya kwemine, hlala uqonde, vala amehlo akho, bese uzama ukubheka ukuphefumula kwakho. Adonse umoya ngamakhala akho, yima kancane, awukhiphe kancane ngomlomo wakho. Njengoba uphefumula, udonga lwesisu kufanele luqhubekele phambili, lawula lokhu kunyakaza ngokugcina isandla sakho esiswini sakho.
Yebo, uzophazamiseka ekucabangeni ngokuphefumula ukuya ekucabangeni ngebhizinisi nezinkinga. Lokhu kuhle! Ungazishayi, vele ubuyisele ukunaka kwakho emoyeni wakho. Ngokuzivocavoca izikhathi ezimbalwa ngosuku okungenani amasonto amathathu, uzoba nomkhuba wokuphumula nokushintsha ngalo mkhuba olula.
3. Sebenzela ezinkolelweni zakho
Lokhu kuvame ukuthatha isikhathi eside. Kodwa-ke, manje ungazama ukuzithatha ngokujulile, ucabangela ukuthi ziyiqiniso kangakanani nokuthi zihambisana kangakanani nempilo yamanje.
Ungakwazi futhi kufanele ufunde ukujabula. Beka eceleni isikhathi salokhu, zama izinto ezintsha, zama futhi uzimangaze.