Ngokombono wezokwelapha zaseShayina, ukukhathazeka kuwukunyakaza okuyisici kakhulu samandla we-qi: ukuphakama kwawo okungalawuleki kuya phezulu. Indlela yokuncenga umzimba wakho ukuthi ungaphenduli ngale ndlela ezimweni ezihlukene, kusho uchwepheshe wezokwelapha waseShayina u-Anna Vladimirova.
Noma yimuphi umzwelo ubonakala ngomzimba: ukube besingenawo, bekungeke kube khona okuhlangenwe nakho, ikakhulukazi, ukukhathazeka. Ezingeni lezinto eziphilayo, okuhlangenwe nakho okucindezelayo kubonakala ngokukhululwa kweqoqo elithile lamahomoni, ukufinyela kwemisipha nezinye izici. Imithi yamaShayina, esekelwe kumqondo we "qi" (amandla), ichaza ukuqhuma kwemizwelo ngekhwalithi yokunyakaza kwayo.
Ngisho noma ungakholelwa ukuthi umzimba wethu usebenza ngamandla emvelo, izivivinyo ezingezansi zizokusiza wehlise izinga lokukhathazeka kwakho.
UKUKHATHAZEKA NOMA UKULINDELA
Yini ebangela ukukhathazeka? Isizathu sokwenzeka kwayo singase sibe isenzakalo esizayo: esiyingozi, esinesizotha, esabisayo. Kodwa kungase kungabi nasizathu! Yebo, yebo, uma umuntu othambekele ekubeni nenkinga yokukhathazeka eba namandla futhi ezama ukuhlaziya imbangela yenjabulo yakhe, ezikhathini eziningi kakhulu kuyoba ukukhathazeka ngengozi engelona iqiniso, ecatshangelwayo: “Kuthiwani uma kwenzeka okuthile okubi?”
Ukuba sesimweni sokukhathazeka, akulula kakhulu ukubona isimo se-ephemeral sembangela yenjabulo, ngakho-ke lolu hlobo lokukhathazeka ludlala isikhathi eside kakhulu.
Zama ukuthola ukulindela ngemuva kwemaski yenjabulo futhi uzomangala ngokujabulisayo.
Ngakho-ke, cabangela inketho yokuqala: uma ukukhathazeka kuvela ngenxa yokuthi umcimbi othile ukulindele. Ngokwesibonelo, abesifazane asebezoteta ngokuvamile babika ukuthi bakhathazeke kakhulu.
Ngihlale ngitshela abangani bami abeqa umngcele we-trimester yesithathu yokukhulelwa: ukukhathazeka nokulindela kunezimpande ezifanayo. Ukukhathazeka kukhula ngokumelene nesizinda sokulindela okuthile okubi, nokulindela - ngokuphambene nalokho, kodwa uma uzilalela wena, ungaqonda ukuthi lezi ziyimizwa yomndeni.
Sivame ukudida omunye nomunye. Usuzohlangana nengane yakho? Lesi isenzakalo esijabulisayo, kodwa zama ukuthola ukulindela ngemuva kwemaski yenjabulo futhi uzomangala ngokujabulisayo.
INDLELA YOKUWEHLISA AMANDLA
Uma inketho echazwe ngenhla ingasizi, noma uma kungenakwenzeka ukuthola isizathu esiqondakalayo, "esinzima" sokukhathazeka, ngiphakamisa ukuzivocavoca okulula okuzosiza ukubuyisela ukulinganisela ngokomzwelo namandla.
Kungani kubalulekile ukulwela lokhu kulinganisela? Ngokumelene nokwasemuva kokubhekana nemizwa enamandla, ecacile, silahlekelwa inani elikhulu lamandla. Akumangalisi ukuthi bathi: "Hleka kakhulu - izinyembezi" - ngisho nemizwa eyakhayo ingasiphuca amandla futhi isifake ekunganakeni nasekusweleni amandla.
Ngakho-ke, ukukhathazeka kuthatha amandla futhi kubangele okuhlangenwe nakho okusha. Ukuze ugqashule kulo mbuthano ononya, udinga ukuqala ngokubuyisela ukulingana ngokomzwelo. Lokhu kuzokwenza kube nokwenzeka ukuqongelela amandla, okusho ukubuyisela impilo nokubuyisela ukoma kokuphila. Ngikholwe, kwenzeka ngokushesha okukhulu. Into esemqoka ukuqala nokuhamba ngokuhlelekile, isinyathelo ngesinyathelo.
Ukuzinaka, ukuvivinya umzimba okulula kanye nesifiso sokubuyisela ibhalansi engokomzwelo kuyamangalisa.
Kuma-alamu okuqala, naka isimo sakho, qaphela futhi ukhumbule ukuthi ukukhathazeka kusho ukukhuphula amandla phezulu. Ngakho-ke, ukuze umise ukuhlasela, udinga ukwehlisa amandla, uqondise phansi. Kulula ukusho - kodwa ungakwenza kanjani?
Amandla alandela ukunaka kwethu, futhi indlela elula yokuqondisa ukunaka kwento ethile - ngokwesibonelo, ezandleni. Hlala uqonde, uqondise umhlane wakho, khulula amahlombe akho futhi wehlise umhlane. Gcoba izindololwane zakho emaceleni, gcina izintende zakho zisezingeni lamehlo. Vala amehlo akho futhi, ukwehlisa izandla zakho kusukela ekhanda lakho kuya esiswini sakho esingaphansi, ulandele ngokwengqondo lokhu kunyakaza. Cabanga ukuthi unciphisa kanjani amandla ngezandla zakho, ukuqoqa phansi kwesisu.
Yenza lo msebenzi imizuzu engu-1-3, uthulise umoya wakho, ulandele ukunyakaza kwezandla zakho ngokunaka. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uthole ngokushesha ukuthula kwengqondo.
Ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwami kokusebenza nabantu abajwayele ukuhlaselwa ukwesaba (futhi lokhu akukona nje ukukhathazeka - lokhu "ukukhathazeka okukhulu"), ngingasho ukuthi ukunaka wena, ukuzivocavoca okulula kanye nesifiso sokubuyisela ukulinganisela ngokomzwelo kusebenza izimangaliso.