Okuqukethwe
- Abazali: Inkinga yezempilo, ikakhulukazi isikhathi sokuvalelwa, izithinte kanjani izingane ezincane?
- Eminye imikhaya iye yabhekana nezinkinga zangempela. Zinjani izingane?
- Yini izingane zethu ezizoyidinga ukuze zithole okungcono kakhulu kulokho ezidlule kukho?
- Kwabadala?
- Ingabe ikhona imindeni okube yinto eyakhayo ukuvalelwa?
Isazi sethu: Sophie Marinopoulos kuyinto isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, isazi sezengqondo, uchwepheshe wezobuntwana, umsunguli wenhlangano i-PPSP (Prévention Promotion de la Santé Psychique) kanye nezindawo zayo zokwamukela i-"Butter pasta", umbhali we "Un virus à deux tête, la famille au isikhathi se-Covid - 19" (LLL ed.).
Abazali: Inkinga yezempilo, ikakhulukazi isikhathi sokuvalelwa, izithinte kanjani izingane ezincane?
USophie Marinopoulos: Abancane bathwala kanzima kule nkinga. Okwenza ingane izinze emhlabeni amandla omuntu omdala oyinakekelayo. Nokho, lapho ukwesaba phakathi kwethu kuphenduka usizi, lokhu kuqina kwakuntula. Izingane ziye zabhekana nakho futhi zakuveza ngokomzimba. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi kuqhubeke, ezingeni elithi “Pasta elinebhotela”, sithole izingcingo eziningi ezivela kubazali abadidwe ukubonakaliswa kwezingane zabo, ezase zihlanya, zinemizwa, ukulala nokuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla. abantwana ababenenkinga yokuthola ukunakwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, phakathi nokuboshwa, umntwana ngamunye wazithola eyedwa ezweni labantu abadala, encishwa ukuba nabangane bakhe ayejwayele ukuhlangana nabo ngaphambili, enkulisa, kumzanyana, epaki noma emgwaqweni. Asikawulinganisi umthelela lokhu kuncishwa kokuxhumana okube nawo kubo, kodwa uma sazi ukuthi izingane ezibukelayo, ezilalelayo futhi ezidlana zodwa ngamehlo azo, kukude kakhulu.
Eminye imikhaya iye yabhekana nezinkinga zangempela. Zinjani izingane?
SM : Ukusho ukuthi izingane azithintekanga kungaba ukuphika ngokuphelele. Bangase baqhubeke bemamatheka, kodwa lokho akufakazeli ukuthi benza kahle! Uma umuntu omdala ephazamiseka, kuthunaza wonke umndeni, ngakho ukwanda okukhulu kwezimo zobudlova bomshado nomkhaya. Phakathi nezingcingo zethu zocingo, sasivame ukuthatha izingane ngokuqondile ku-inthanethi ukuze sizame ukuzishweleza, futhi sikhulume nabantu abadala ukuze sizame ukunqanda udlame, ukunqanda ukuthi lungachitheki. Wonke umuntu wayedinga indawo yakhe, imfihlo kancane, futhi wagcina “ngokuba ndawonye” kakhulu. Siphinde sabona amacala amaningi okuhlukana ngemva kokuvalelwa. Ukuze ubuyele esilinganisweni, inselele inkulu.
Yini izingane zethu ezizoyidinga ukuze zithole okungcono kakhulu kulokho ezidlule kukho?
SM : Namuhla kunanini ngaphambili, izingane zidinga ukuqondiswa kuzo, ukuze ziqashelwe esimweni sazo njengabantu. Badinga ukunikwa indawo edingekayo ukuze bakhule, badlale, basebenzise ubuhlakani babo, bacabangele lokho abasanda kudlula kukho. Bahlakaniphile, bathanda ukufunda, masigweme ukumosha yonke into ngokubeka phezu kwabo izimo ezingakwazi ukumelana nazo. Badinga ukubekezelelana okukhulu. Abadlule kukho kwakunodlame olukhulu: ukwenza wonke umuntu adlale ebhokisini elibhalwe phansi, angakwazi ukweqa imingcele yalo, okusho ukuhlasela ngoba kuphambene nezidingo zakhe. Kulabo abazokwenza ukubuya kwabo kokuqala, kufanele uhambe phambi kwesikole, ubabonise. Abazange babe nokuqwashisa, akukho ukulungiselela. Seqe izinyathelo, seqa lezi zikhathi ezibalulekile. Kuzodingeka siguqule indlela abangena ngayo esikoleni, sibasize bazivumelanise nezimo, sibasekele ngokusemandleni ethu, ngokubabekezelela, ngokubasekela, ngokwamukela abakushoyo ngendlela ababhekana ngayo nesimo.
Kwabadala?
SM : Izingane ezineminyaka engu-8-10 ubudala zicasulwe kakhulu yisimo sesikole. Kwadingeka baphile nokudideka phakathi kwendawo eseduze yomndeni nendawo yokufunda yesikole. Kwakunzima ukwamukela, ikakhulukazi njengoba kwakukhona isigxobo esiqinile: impumelelo yezemfundo yengane iyivector ebaluleke kakhulu ye-narcissism yabazali. Kube nokushayisana kwamakhanda, abazali balimala ngokuthi bebengakwazi njalo ukuyisa ingane yabo emsebenzini. Umsebenzi wokufundisa unzima kakhulu … Ukuze abazali bathole indawo yokusungula izinto, basungule imidlalo. Isibonelo, ngokudlala uma sizodayisela amaNgisi umuzi wethu, senza izibalo nesiNgisi… Umndeni udinga izikhala ukuze ukhululeke. Kumelwe sizivumele ukuba sizisungulele indlela yethu yokwenza izinto, yokuphila. Umndeni ngeke uvume ukuphinde uhambe ngesivinini esifanayo, uzofuna izinguquko zenqubomgomo.
Ingabe ikhona imindeni okube yinto eyakhayo ukuvalelwa?
SM : Ukuvalelwa kuye kwazuzisa abazali ngokutubeka, kodwa nabazali abasebasha: ngemva kokuzalwa, umndeni uphila ngendlela ehlangene, uziphendulela wona, udinga ubumfihlo. Umongo wahlangabezana nalezi zidingo. Lokhu kuqokomisa isidingo sokubuyekeza inhlangano yekhefu labazali, ukuze bobabili abazali babe nesikhathi sokuhlangana ndawonye eduze komntwana, ngebhamuza, ngaphandle kokucindezelwa. Kuyisidingo sangempela.