Babelana ngezimfanelo nezici ezifanayo. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Lynn Azpeisha unikeza ukujwayelana nohlu lwalezi zici futhi uqonde uma sinazo.
Umbuzo wokuqala abantu abadala abanesiphiwo abangibuza wona lapho befika ekuqeqesheni noma ekuphathweni kwengqondo uthi, "Wazi kanjani ukuthi nginesiphiwo?"
Okokuqala, ngiyachaza ukuthi ngiyayibona nje, futhi ngikhulume ngokukuqaphela kwami. Bese—ngoba ngiyazi ukuthi abantu abadala abanesiphiwo badinga ukuzicabangela bona izinto—ngibanikeza uhlu lwezici, ngibacele ukuthi balifunde futhi bacabangele ukuthi bayazibona yini kulezi zincazelo. Bese siqala ukusebenza.
Ziningi izinhlu ezinjalo, kodwa ngilwenze lolu ngokukhethekile ukuze ngithole impendulo ephelele embuzweni oyinhloko, ovula umnyango wendlela entsha ngokuphelele yokuzibona nokuqonda wena kanye nomhlaba wonke: ingabe ungumuntu onesiphiwo?
Funda lolu hlu bese unquma ukuthi unazo yini lezi zici.
Ngakho, abantu abadala abanesiphiwo:
1. Ngokwengqondo ehlukile kwabanye. Ukucabanga kwabo kungokwembulunga yonke, kucwengisiswe, banekhono lokufinyelela iziphetho ezijwayelekile futhi babone ukusebenzisana okuyinkimbinkimbi emhlabeni obazungezile.
2. Bahlukaniswa ngekhono elengeziwe lokubona ubuhle, bezwa ngokujulile ukunotha kwemibala yomhlaba futhi babone ukuvumelana ebudlelwaneni babantu, imvelo, kanye nezincwadi.
Khetha amahlaya acashile, ukubhuqa, ukudlala amagama. Amahlaya abantu abanesiphiwo awavamile ukuqondwa yizilaleli.
3. Thanda ukushintshisana ngemibono nabanye abantu abadala abanesiphiwo. Abantu abaningi bathanda izingxoxo zobuhlakani ezishisayo.
4. Yiba nesidingo sangaphakathi sokuphila ngokuvumelana nalokho abakulindele. Bazizwa benecala lapho behluleka ukufeza imigomo yabo.
5. Banomqondo okhethekile wokuhlekisa: bakhetha amahlaya acashile, ukubhuqa, amagama ahlabayo. Amahlaya abantu abanesiphiwo awavamile ukuqondwa yizilaleli.
6. Ivamise ukuba nemizwa enamandla. Kunzima kubo ukuqonda ukuziphatha okungaguquki nokungaboni kahle kwabanye. Ubuwula, ukungazenzisi kanye nengozi yezenzo eziningi kusobala kubo.
7. Angakwazi ukubikezela imiphumela yezenzo, aqonde ubudlelwano bembangela nomphumela, futhi alindele izinkinga ezingase ziphakame.
8. Kunzima ukunquma ngebhizinisi eliyingozi, ngoba baqaphela kakhulu ubungozi. Ngokuvamile, badinga isikhathi esengeziwe sokwenza isinqumo.
9. Bavame ukusungula izindlela zabo zokwazi nokuqonda iqiniso, okungaholela ekuxabaneni nalabo abangazisebenzisi lezi zindlela noma abangaziqondi.
10. Babhekana nokukhathazeka, umuzwa wokunganeliseki ngabo ngokwabo, balwela ukwanelisa izidingo zabo siqu.
Banendilinga yabangane ewumngcingo, kodwa lobu budlelwano busho lukhulu kubo.
11. Banobunzima bokugxila entweni eyodwa: banamakhono amaningi kakhulu ezindaweni ezahlukene, futhi yonke indawo bafuna ukuphumelela.
12. Ngokuvamile uhlangabezana nokucindezela okukhulu kwamandla okudala. Ithalente liwukushayela, ingcindezi, isidingo sokwenza okuthile. Ikhuthaza intuthuko ezindizeni zobuhlakani, zokudala nezomzimba. Isizathu isidingo sokuqonda ukuthi umhlaba wethu usebenza kanjani futhi udale owakho.
13. Badinga isikhathi sokulungisa impilo yabo yangaphakathi futhi baziqonde. Ukucacisa imicabango nemizwa akuyona inqubo esheshayo, kudinga ukucabangela okucabangelayo, ukuba wedwa kanye nethuba lokuphupha.
14. Baphathwa kangcono yilabo abathanda izinto ezifanayo.
15. Banendilinga yabangane ewumngcingo, kodwa lobu budlelwano busho lukhulu kubo.
16. Bonisa ukucabanga okuzimele, ungagcini ngokulalela izinqumo zabantu abaphakeme. Bangena ngokuphelele emphakathini amalungu awo abamba iqhaza empilweni yomphakathi ngokulingana, futhi aphilisana kahle nalabo abamukela isikhundla sabo kanye nezinto ezintsha.
17. Babambelele emithethweni eqinile yokuziphatha, basebenzise amathalente abo, ugqozi nolwazi lwabo ukwenza umhlaba ube yindawo engcono.
18. Ukuqonda ubudlelwano obuyinkimbinkimbi phakathi kwezehlakalo ezihlukahlukene zomhlaba futhi bakwazi ukunikeza izixazululo eziyinkimbinkimbi ezilinganayo esikhundleni sezinyathelo zesikhashana ezicatshangelwe kabi.