Okuqukethwe
“Ngangithanda i-manipulator”
NguJulian onayo ukusika inkaba. Wabe evame ukuqhosha ngokuthi ulethe uGwendolyn emhlabeni. Ngalolo suku wakhala okomuntu ozwelayo futhi ongenangozi. Nokho emva kwalokho wasenza sesabe. Indodakazi yami ineminyaka engu-11 namuhla, kodwa kuthathe a i-judicial marathon ukuze sifinyelele inkululeko yethu. Ekuqaleni komlando wethu, Ngeke ngisho ukuthi yonke into yayibomvana phakathi kwami noJulian. Ngamthola exakile lapho ezithatha engenasizotha kumculi-umprofethi noma eziqhathanisa noBob Dylan, lapho ecula ngokungajwayelekile futhi ngaphandle kwempumelelo enkulu. Ukolweni Ngisemithandweni walo mculi onesigqi esibi, futhi ngaze ngaxhasa uthando lwakhe lomculo ngokukhokhela indlu yethu nokusebenzela ababili, ngabe sengikhulelwa. Ngabe sengiyithola bayanda bagudluke, kodwa ngenqaba ukumkholelwa ngokuphelele amantongomane. Ngizokhumbula impilo yami yonke ngalolo suku lapho, enezinyanga eziyisishiyagalombili ngikhulelwe, ngamjikijela ikepisi lewuli ehlombe njengoba elalele ingoma ayesanda kuyiqopha ngama-headphones ... Intukuthelo yakhe, ukuthuka kwakhe, nobudlova bakhe ngaleso sikhathi, ngokumelene nami, owakhosela ekamelweni lethu, igazi lami lisabanda. Ngamjikijela kakhulu lelo bhishi ezwa ubuhlungu obumangalisayo! Wacela uxolo! Ngithuke ngibe nesibindi sokumtshela ukuthi wayesehlanya nokuthi kwadingeka afune ukwelashwa. Ngabe ngenze kangcono ukubaleka.
Wayengeke akumele ukuthi ngikanye nendodakazi yami
Lapho indodakazi yethu izalwa, izinto sezishintshile kwaba kubi kakhulu. UJulian wayefuna ukuba indodakazi yakhe kuphela ethakaselekayo, futhi yena ayizange isekele isibopho semvelo ngokwedlulele lokho kwahlanganisa mina naye, okwaphumela esifutheni somona. Ngokwesibonelo, ukuncelisa ibele kwakungabekezeleleki kuye. Kwenzekile susa uGwendolyn kimi futhi umgcine esitudiyo sakhe sokuqopha, naphezu kokukhala kwakhe yindlala. Futhi njengoba wayengakwazi ukuzondla yena, wancamela ukumncisha. Wayengixosha njalo ebhavini ukuze athathe indawo yami nomncane. Izingxabano zaba ziningi futhi zaba nobudlova ikakhulukazi.
Ngakho ngikwenzile wanquma ukungihlukanisa evela kuye. Ngobunye ubusuku, wangiphusha, ikhanda lami lashaya ngamandla odongeni. Ngifake isikhalazo udlame lwasekhaya. UJulian waboshwa kodwa ngaphambi nje kokuba abe nesikhathi chitha indlu yethu nokungibekela izinkomba ezingethusayo engazi ukuthi ukugcinwa kwakhe kwakungeke kuhlale ukuphila kwakhe konke. “Uzozisola,” kumemezela inothi elibhalwe ngesandla. Ukuhlukana kwakubi kakhulu: uma ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakhe kwakuyimpumuzo kimi, siphathise indodakazi yethu kuye lapho eliphethe kwaba lokuhlushwa.
Lapho uGwendolyn eneminyaka engu-3 ubudala, ngafunda emehlweni akhe ayethukile ukuthi lowo ayembiza ngokuthi “Kubi baba” waba, njengoba wangitshela, wamthinta. Ngafaka isikhalazo futhi ummeli kaJulian wasishintsha ngokushesha leso simo, engibeka icala nge-PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome). ngahlulelwa icala lokuqhatha ingane yami noyise, ukuyilawula. Kuyimfashini yobaba e-United States, nabaningi ngokwengeziwe eFrance, ukuzivikela ngale ndlela lapho umama elahla ubudlova babababa. Le syndrome mbumbulu, engaziwa yi-WHO, injalo isikhali sabaphambukile. Indodakazi yami yayihayiza njalo uma ijola noyise, yayicasha ngaphansi kombhede wayo, ingavumi ukuthi ngiyigqokise.
Eguqula isimo, evumela ukubambezeleka kwethu, uJulian wangimangalela ngokuphuka ubuchopho bakhe, nokuthi nginguye isithiyo ebuhlotsheni babo. Wabe esehlangana no-Alicha. Benginethemba lokuthi ukuba khona kwalo wesifazane kuzomphazamisa kulokhu kuthakasela ingane yakhe. Lapho ngizama ngokwengeziwe ukuvikela uGwendolyn, kulapho ngangizifaka engozini yokulahlekelwa ilungelo lokuhlala naye. Kumele kushiwo ukuthi uJulian wayenesiphiwo sokuthakasela ama-narcissistic perverts. Wayekwazi ukuveza imizwa yakhe, azichaze ngomoya ophansi we-Olympian, ngaphandle kokuvumela lutho lubonise intukuthelo eyayimbonakala ngaso ngokushesha lapho sibhekene ubuso nobuso.
Ngezwa ukuthi impilo yendodakazi yami isengozini
Okwamanje, UGwendolyn wayekhala, ezondwa yilo mamazala omusha owayembona njengomfanekiso wami, ngakho-ke imbangi yakudala. Njengoba esontekile njengoJulian, u-Alicha wayefuna thatha amandla phezu kwendodakazi yami, ngimgunde ngingabuzanga mbono wami, ngimgeze efika nje kubo ukuze amkhiphele amakha ami engiwacabangayo. Ngolunye usuku, ngasikisela kumlamuli ukuthi uGwendolyn ube nomakhalekhukhwini ukuze amqinisekise. Ubaba wakhe wadazuluka wathi lapho eneminyaka engu-7 kungalimaza isitho sakhe sangasese! Umxazululi akatholanga lutho angakhononda ngalo. Indodakazi yami yayifika ekhaya ngezinye izikhathi uziphopho, namanje izinyembezi, ngokuphelelwa yithemba. Kwathi ngolunye usuku uGwendolyn wangitshela ukuthi wayekhona elungele ukugxuma efasiteleni angabuyeli kuyise. Ngaya eFrance noGwendolyn ngamaholide ehlobo, lapho ngamyisa khona ukuze ayobonana nodokotela wezengqondo owathi, exwayiswe amazwi kaGwendolyn, wenza isitatimende. bika kumshushisi kusuka ku-Quimper. Lona wacela ukuba sihlale endaweni yesiFulentshi ngesikhathi sophenyo. UJulian wangisola ngokuthumba amazwe ngamazwe ngaphansi kweNgqungquthela Yezici Zomphakathi Zokuthunjwa Kwezingane Zamazwe Ngamazwe. Ngagcina ukuphumelela ngibonga usizo lommeli omangalisayo. UGwendolyn usindisiwe futhi uJulian akasasesabi. Sihlala ndawonye ejabule futhi enokuthula, e-Brittany lapho sivame ukulalela ukushaywa kwamagagasi okuqinisekisayo. Kodwa a ukulwa okungenamusa lokho kwakumele kuhanjiswe ukuze sigcine sizwe ukukhala kwengane yami. ”
Ingxoxo kaJessica Bussaume
Thola ubufakazi bukaCaroline Bréhat ku-"Mauvais Père", ed. Izinkundla.