Amaholide isikhathi esishisayo kuzo zonke izici. Ngezinye izikhathi kuba ngalezi zinsuku lapho izingxabano zikhula khona, futhi uma lokhu kwenzeka phakathi kwabazali, izingane ziyahlupheka. Ungaxoxisana kanjani nomngane womshado noma owake waba naye futhi ugcine ukuthula kwawo wonke umuntu, weluleka isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sasemtholampilo u-Azmaira Maker.
Ngokudabukisayo, amaholide namaholide kungaba yisici esengeziwe sokucindezeleka kubantwana nakubazali, ikakhulukazi uma laba bokugcina behlukanisile. Uhambo oluningi, imibuthano yomkhaya, izinkinga zezimali, umsebenzi wesikole wamaholide, nemisebenzi yasekhaya kungase kuhileleke futhi kubangele izingxabano. Uchwepheshe wezengqondo wezokwelapha kanye nochwepheshe bezingane nomndeni u-Azmaira Maker uchaza lokho okufanele kucatshangelwe ukuze wenze uBusuku Bangaphambi Kukancibijane bujabulise bobabili abazali nezingane.
UMsombuluko wokuqala ngemva kwamaholide waziwa ngokuthi “usuku lwesehlukaniso”, kanti uJanuwari waziwa ngokuthi “inyanga yesehlukaniso” e-US nase-UK. Le nyanga imakwe ngenani elirekhodiwe labashadile abafaka isehlukaniso. Ukucindezeleka yikona okufanele kusolwe ngalokhu - kusukela ngamaholide ngokwawo kanye nezinqumo okufanele uzenze nsuku zonke. Izihloko eziqalayo zingase zingalinganiseli isimiso somkhaya, zibangele izingxabano ezinkulu namagqubu, okungase kubangele imicabango yokuhlukana.
Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abazali bakhe uhlelo lokuvimbela nokunqoba ubunzima futhi banciphise izingxabano ngangokunokwenzeka. Lokhu kubalulekile kuwo wonke umndeni futhi kuzosiza ingane ukuba ichithe amaholide ngenjabulo. Uchwepheshe uncoma ukuthi banake ngokukhethekile izingane ezichitha isikhathi ngokushintshana nomama nobaba, ezimweni "zokuncintisana" kwabazali mayelana nezipho nokunaka.
Uma abazali behlukanisile, asikho isidingo sokuphoqa ingane ukuba ikhethe ukuthi ifuna ukuchitha amaholide kakhudlwana nobani.
I-Azmaira Maker inikeza isiqondiso esingasiza abantu abadala bagxile kokuhle, ekuvumelaneni, nasekuxazululeni izingxabano ezinempilo ezinganeni.
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abazali bahlukanisile noma bashadile, bangabuza izingane zabo ukuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu kubo ngesikhathi samaholide, futhi impendulo ibhalwe phansi futhi ifundwe nsuku zonke njengesikhumbuzo esibalulekile salokho abantwana abakulindele kula maholide.
- Abazali kufanele babuzane ukuthi yini ebalulekile komunye nomunye wabo kulezi zinsuku. Lezi zimpendulo kufanele zibhalwe phansi futhi ziphinde zifundwe nsuku zonke.
- Uma umama nobaba bengavumelani ngemibono yezenkolo, engokomoya noma yamasiko, kufanele bahloniphe izidingo nezifiso zomunye nomunye. Izinketho ezihlukahlukene zokugubha zifundisa izingane ukubekezelelana, inhlonipho nokwamukela ukwehlukahlukana kwempilo.
- Uma kunokungqubuzana kwabazali ngezimali, uchwepheshe uncoma ukuthi kuxoxwe ngesabelomali ngaphambi kwamaholidi ukuze kugwemeke ukuxabana ngomuso.
- Uma abazali behlukanisile, asikho isidingo sokuphoqelela ingane ukuba ikhethe ukuthi ifuna ukuchitha amaholide kakhudlwana nobani. Kubalulekile ukwenza uhlelo lokuhamba olunobulungiswa, olulula futhi olungaguquki ngesikhathi samaholide.
Amaholide angaba ubuqili ikakhulukazi uma kunombango wamandla phakathi kwabazali.
- Wonke umzali udinga ukufunda ukuthi angaba kanjani isilaleli esinozwelo nesisekelayo ukuze unciphise ukungezwani nokunciphisa amathuba okungqubuzana ngesikhathi samaholide. Umzamo wokuqonda izidingo nezifiso zomlingani, ngisho nowangaphambili, ikuvumela ukuthi uthole izixazululo ezilungele izingane kanye nabazali bobabili.
- Abazalwane nodade kufanele bahlale ndawonye ngesikhathi samaholide. Ukuxhumana phakathi kwezelamani kubaluleke kakhulu: lapho esekhulile, umfowethu noma udadewabo angaba usekelo ezimeni ezinzima. Amaholide namaholide achithwa ndawonye angumnikelo obalulekile kungcebo yezinkumbulo zabo ezivamile zasebuntwaneni.
- Uma kukhona okungahambi kahle, kubalulekile ukuthi ungabheki umuntu ozomsola. Kwesinye isikhathi izingane ziba ofakazi babazali besolana ngedivosi noma izinkinga zomndeni. Lokhu kubeka ingane ekugcineni futhi kungabangela imizwa engemihle - intukuthelo, icala nokudideka, okwenza amaholide abe yizinsuku ezingathandeki nezinzima.
- Abantu abadala bavame ukucabanga ngendlela engcono kakhulu yokuchitha amaholide. Ukungezwani komunye nomunye mayelana nezinhlelo akufanele kube isizathu sokungqubuzana okulandelayo. "Uma isiphakamiso somlingani singalimazi ingane, kodwa simane sihluke kweyakho, zama ukungamcasuli noma ukumlulaza - bheka ukuyekethisa," kusikisela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo somndeni. "Abazali kufanele balondoloze ukungathathi hlangothi futhi benze ngokubambisana nangokuzwana maqondana nezingane." Lokhu kuyovumela izingane ukuba zizwe uthando nothando kubo bobabili abazali ngisho nangemva kwesehlukaniso.
- Umshado, isehlukaniso, nokuba umzali kuyinsimu enobuqili, kodwa lapho abazali bevumelana nezimo ezengeziwe, maningi amathuba okuba izingane zikhule ngenjabulo futhi ziwajabulele ngempela amaholide.
Ngesikhathi samaholide namaholide, abazali babhekana nezimo ezinzima. Amaholide angaba nzima futhi abe buhlungu ikakhulukazi uma kubangwa amandla nokuncintisana phakathi kwabazali. Uma abazali abahlala ndawonye noma ngokuhlukana bengasebenzisa iseluleko sochwepheshe ukuze banciphise izingxabano futhi bavimbele ukungezwani ngokomzwelo, izingane ziyozijabulela ngempela izinsuku ezijabulisayo nokuthula.
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