I-realizer iwuhlobo lomuntu oluvela encwadini eyaziwa kakhulu ka-E. Shostrom «Manipulator», okuphambene ne-Manipulator echazwe nguye (akumele kudidaniswe nomkhohlisi ngomqondo owamukelwa ngokuvamile). Bheka →
Umqondo osondelene uwubuntu obuzenzela wena, kodwa kubonakala sengathi ngamagama afanayo, le miqondo ilungisa okuqukethwe okuhluke kakhulu.
Izici eziyinhloko zama-realizers:
Izinsika lapho i-realizer "imi khona" ukwethembeka, ukuqwashisa, inkululeko nokwethemba:
1. Ukwethembeka, ubuqotho (ukuba sobala, ubuqiniso). Ukwazi ukwethembeka kunoma yimiphi imizwa, noma ngabe iyini. Babonakala ngobuqotho, ukuzwakalisa.
2. Ukuqwashisa, isithakazelo, ukugcwala kokuphila. Bazibona futhi bezwa bona nabanye kahle. Bayakwazi ukwakha umbono wabo mayelana nemisebenzi yobuciko, ngomculo kanye nakho konke ukuphila.
3. Inkululeko, ukuvuleka (ukuzenzela). Yiba nenkululeko yokuveza amakhono abo. Bangabaphathi bempilo yabo; izifundo.
4. Ukuthembela, ukholo, ukuqiniseka. Yiba nokholo olujulile kwabanye nakubo ngokwabo, njalo ulwela ukuxhumana nempilo futhi ubhekane nobunzima lapha namanje.
I-realizer ifuna okwangempela nokuhluka kuye, ubudlelwano phakathi kwama-realizers buseduze.
I-realizer ingumuntu ophelele, ngakho-ke isikhundla sakhe sokuqala ukuqaphela ukuzethemba.
I-realizer ibona impilo njengenqubo yokukhula, futhi ibona ukuhlulwa noma ukwehluleka kwakhe ngokwefilosofi, ngokuzola, njengobunzima besikhashana.
I-Actualizer iwumuntu onezici eziningi eziphikisanayo ezihambisanayo.
Ngiyethemba awungizwisisi kahle ukuthi umuntu ozenza umuntu uyisigqila esingenabo ubuthakathaka. Cabanga nje, isivuseleli singaba yisiwula, simoshe noma sibe nenkani. Kodwa akasoze ajabula njengesaka lamakhoba. Futhi nakuba ubuthakathaka buzivumela kaningi, kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo, buhlala bungumuntu othakazelisayo!
Uma uqala ukuthola amandla akho okwenza izinto ngokwakho, ungazami ukufeza ukuphelela. Bheka injabulo etholakala ngokuhlanganisa amandla akho kanye nobuthakathaka bakho.
U-Erich Fromm uthi umuntu unenkululeko yokudala, ukuklama, ukuhamba, ukuthatha izingozi. U-Fromm uchaze inkululeko njengekhono lokwenza ukukhetha.
I-realizer imahhala ngomqondo wokuthi, ngenkathi idlala umdlalo wempilo, iyazi ukuthi iyadlala. Uyaqonda ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi uyakhohlisa, futhi ngezinye izikhathi uyakhohliswa. Ngamafuphi, uyazi ngokukhohlisa.
I-realizer iyaqonda ukuthi impilo akudingekile ukuthi ibe umdlalo onzima, kunalokho ifana nokudansa. Akekho owinayo noma ohluliwe emdansweni; kuyinqubo, futhi kuyinqubo ejabulisayo. I-realizer "iyadansa" phakathi kwamakhono ayo ahlukahlukene. Kubalulekile ukujabulela inqubo yokuphila, hhayi ukufezwa kwezinjongo zokuphila.
Ngakho-ke, ukwenza abantu bangempela kubalulekile futhi akudingi umphumela kuphela, kodwa futhi nomnyakazo obheke kuwo. Bangase bajabulele inqubo “yokwenza” okuningi nangaphezu kwalokho abakwenzayo.
Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo eziningi ziqinisekile ukuthi i-realizer iyakwazi ukushintsha umsebenzi ojwayelekile ube iholide, ibe umdlalo othokozisayo. Ngoba uvuka futhi awe ngokuwohloka nokugeleza kokuphila futhi akakuthathi ngokungathí sina.
Ngokwakhe umphathi
Masiqonde imiqondo yesiqondiso sangaphakathi nesiqondiso esivela kwabanye.
Umuntu oqondiswe ngaphakathi ubuntu obune-gyroscope eyakhelwe ebuntwaneni — ikhampasi yengqondo (ifakwa futhi yethulwe ngabazali noma abantu abasondelene nengane). I-gyroscope ihlale ibhekana nezinguquko ngaphansi kwethonya leziphathimandla ezihlukahlukene. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ushintsha kanjani, umuntu olawulwa ngaphakathi udlula ekuphileni ngokuzimela futhi ulalela isiqondiso sakhe sangaphakathi kuphela.
Inani elincane lezimiso libusa umthombo wesiqondiso somuntu sangaphakathi. Lokho okutshalwe kithi ekuqaleni kwempilo kuthatha ukubukeka kwengqikithi yangaphakathi kanye nezici zomlingiswa kamuva. Siyalwamukela kakhulu lolu hlobo lokuzimela, kodwa nge-caveat eyodwa. Ukweqisa kweziqondiso zangaphakathi kuyingozi ngoba umuntu angase angabi nandaba namalungelo nemizwa yabanye abantu, bese kuba nomgwaqo owodwa kuphela - ukuba abe abakhohlisi. Uzokhohlisa abanye ngenxa yomqondo wakhe omkhulu "wokulunga".
Nokho, akubona bonke abazali abafaka i-gyroscope enjalo ezinganeni zabo. Uma abazali bengaphansi kokungabaza okungapheli - kungcono kanjani ukukhulisa ingane? - khona-ke esikhundleni se-gyroscope, le ngane izothuthukisa isimiso se-radar esinamandla. Uzolalela imibono yabanye kuphela futhi azivumelanise nezimo, azivumelanise ... Abazali bakhe abakwazanga ukumnika isignali ecacile neqondakalayo - ukuthi kufanele abe kanjani nokuthi kufanele abe kanjani. Ngakho udinga uhlelo lwe-radar ukuze athole amasignali avela emibuthanweni ebanzi kakhulu. Imingcele phakathi kwegunya lomkhaya nazo zonke ezinye iziphathimandla iyashabalala, futhi isidingo esiyinhloko somntwana onjalo ‘sokulalela’ sithathelwa indawo ukwesaba amazwi alandelanayo eziphathimandla noma ukubuka kwanoma yikuphi. Ukukhohlisa ngendlela yokujabulisa njalo kwabanye kuba yindlela yakhe eyinhloko yokuxhumana. Lapha sibona ngokucacile ukuthi umuzwa wokuqala wokwesaba waguqulwa kanjani waba uthando olunamathelayo kubo bonke.
"Bazocabangani abantu?"
"Ngitshele ukuthi yini okumele yenziwe lapha?"
“Kufanele ngithathe siphi isikhundla, huh?”
I-realizer ayincikile kancane ekumakweni, kodwa ayiweli ekwedluleleni kokuqondisa kwangaphakathi. Ubonakala enomumo okhona ozimele futhi ozisekelayo. Umuntu ozenza izinto zangempela uzivumela ukuthi aqondiswe lapho kufanele azwele ukuvunyelwa umuntu, umusa kanye nentando enhle, kodwa umthombo wezenzo zakhe uhlale uyisiqondiso sangaphakathi. Okubalulekile ukuthi inkululeko yomuntu ongokoqobo iyinto yokuqala, futhi akazange ayizuze ngokucindezelwa abanye noma ngokuhlubuka. Kubaluleke kakhulu futhi ukuthi kuphela umuntu ophila esikhathini samanje ongakhululeka, aqondiswe ngaphakathi. Khona-ke ukholelwa kakhulu ekuthembeleni kwakhe kuye ngokwakhe nasekuzivezeni kwakhe. Ngamanye amazwi, akancikile kuma-phantoms wesikhathi esidlule noma esizayo, ngeke afihle ukukhanya kwakhe, kodwa uphila ngokukhululekile, uhlangabezana nakho, uthola isipiliyoni sokuphila, egxile "lapha" kanye "manje".
Umuntu ophila esikhathini esizayo uthembele ezenzakalweni ezilindelekile. Unelisa ubuze bakhe ngamaphupho kanye nemigomo okufanele ilandelwe. Njengomthetho, uyazitika ngalezi zinhlelo zekusasa ngoba nje engakwazi ukukhokhela izindleko zamanje. Uqamba injongo yempilo ukuze athethelele ubukhona bakhe. Futhi, njengomthetho, ifinyelela umgomo ophambene, ngoba, ngokugxila esikhathini esizayo kuphela, imisa ukuthuthukiswa kwayo okwamanje futhi ithuthukise imizwa ephansi ngokwayo.
Ngendlela efanayo, umuntu ophila esikhathini esidlule akanawo amandla anele okuqina, kodwa uye waphumelela kakhulu ekusoleni abanye. Akaqondi ukuthi izinkinga zethu zikhona lapha futhi manje, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zazalelwa kuphi, nini futhi ngobani. Futhi ikhambi labo kumele lifunwe lapha futhi manje.
Isikhathi esithola ngaso ithuba lokuphila yimanje. Singakwazi futhi kufanele sikhumbule okwedlule; singakwazi futhi kumelwe sikubone kusengaphambili ikusasa. Kodwa siphila esikhathini samanje kuphela. Ngisho nalapho sikhumbula okwedlule, sikulila noma sikuhleka usulu, sikwenza esikhathini samanje. Thina, empeleni, sihambisa okwedlule esikhathini samanje, singakwenza. Kodwa akekho ongakwazi, futhi ubonge uNkulunkulu ngokuthi akakwazi, ukuya phambili noma emuva ngesikhathi.
Umkhohlisi onikela sonke isikhathi sakhe ezikhumbuzweni zesikhathi esidlule noma amaphupho angenzi lutho esikhathi esizayo akaphumi eqabulekile kulokhu kuhamba kwengqondo. Kunalokho, iphelile futhi ichitheka. Ukuziphatha kwakhe kudlulele esikhundleni sokusebenza. Njengoba uPerls esho. ukubaluleka kwethu ngeke kwenyuke uma sikhangwa izinkomba zesikhathi esidlule esinzima nezithembiso zekusasa eliqhakazile. “Akusilo iphutha lami, impilo ihambe kanje,” kububula umqili. Futhi siphendukela esikhathini esizayo: "Angenzi kahle kakhulu manje, kodwa ngizozibonakalisa!"
I-Actualizer, ngakolunye uhlangothi, inesipho esiyivelakancane nesimangalisayo sokukhipha umuzwa wenani lapha namanje. Ubiza izincazelo noma izithembiso esikhundleni sesenzo esithile ngamanga, futhi akwenzayo kuqinisa ukholo lwakhe kuye futhi kusize ukuziqinisekisa kwakhe. Ukuze uphile ngokugcwele okwamanje, akukho ukwesekwa kwangaphandle okudingekayo. Ukuthi “Sengenele manje” esikhundleni sokuthi “Nganele” noma “Ngizokwanela” kusho ukuzinikela kulo mhlaba futhi uzihlole ngokwanele. Futhi kufanele.
Ukuba sesikhathini kuwumgomo kanye nomphumela ngokwakho. Umuntu ongokoqobo unomvuzo wawo — umuzwa wokuzethemba nokuzethemba.
Ingabe ufuna ukuzwa umhlabathi onyakazayo wesikhathi samanje ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakho? Thatha isibonelo enganeni encane. Uzizwa engcono ngempela.
Izingane zibonakala ngenani eliphelele, ngaphandle kokungabaza, ukwamukela konke okwenzekayo, ngoba, ngakolunye uhlangothi, banezinkumbulo ezimbalwa kakhulu futhi bathembele kancane kakhulu esikhathini esidlule, futhi, ngakolunye uhlangothi, abasazi ukuthi bangenza kanjani. bikezela ikusasa. Ngenxa yalokho, umntwana ufana nesidalwa esingenaso isikhathi esidlule nekusasa.
Uma ungazisoli ngalutho futhi ungalindeli lutho, uma kungekho ukulindela noma ukwazisa, khona-ke angeke kube khona ukumangala noma ukudumazeka, futhi ngokuzenzakalelayo uzothuthela lapha futhi manje. Azikho izibikezelo, futhi azikho izibikezelo ezithusayo, izibikezelo, noma izibikezelo ezibulalayo.
Umqondo wami wobuntu obudala, obuphila ngaphandle kwekusasa nenkathi edlule, usekelwe kakhulu ekuthandeni izingane. Ungasho futhi lokhu: "Umuntu wokudala akanacala", okungukuthi, ukukhula, okwazi ukubona, ukusabela, ukucabanga, njengengane. Ubumsulwa bomuntu odalile akubona neze ubungane. Ufana nobumsulwa bekhehla elihlakaniphile elikwazile ukubuyisela ikhono lalo lokuba yingane.
Imbongi uKallil Gibran ikubeka ngale ndlela: "Ngiyazi ukuthi izolo liyinkumbulo yanamuhla kuphela, futhi kusasa iphupho lanamuhla."
Umenzi wangempela ungumenzi, “umenzi”, ngumuntu onjalo. Akavezi amathuba acatshangelwayo, kodwa awangempela, futhi uzama ngosizo lwemisebenzi namakhono akhe ukuze abhekane nobunzima bokuphila. Uzizwa ecebile ngoba ukuba khona kwakhe kugcwele umsebenzi oqhubekayo.
Uphendukela ngokukhululekile esikhathini esedlule ukuze athole usizo, ufuna amandla enkumbulweni futhi uvame ukunxusa ikusasa lapho efuna imigomo, kodwa uqonda kahle ukuthi kokubili kuyizenzo zamanje ...