Okuqukethwe
Amafilimu ayeyizibuko futhi ahlala eyisibuko "sezifo" zomphakathi kanye nohlobo lomhlahlandlela wabantu abasebenza ebuhlotsheni. Ngokusekelwe ekuziphatheni kozakwethu abasesikrinini, sifunda ukwakha inkhulumomphendvulwano nozakwethu, futhi ngezinye izikhathi senza ngokuphambene nama-protagonists ukuze sizuze inhlalakahle yomuntu siqu: isibonelo, siyenqaba i-Gosha evamile (owaziwa nangokuthi uGoga). , owaziwa ngokuthi uZhora) ngokwesaba ukuzithola sisogibeni olukhohlisayo. Yini ongayifunda kubalingiswa bamahlaya amasha othando “(HHAYI) indoda ephelele”?
Ungavumeli indaba emnandi ngomhlaba wesikhathi esizayo, lapho abafana namantombazane be-cybernetic bethulwa ngenani elibanzi ngentengo ethengekayo noma ngesikweletu, ikudukise. Ababhali besikrini wasebenzisa ukuqagela kwekusasa njengesingathekiso sokuphelela. Futhi-ke ubumnandi buqala: ukukhethwa kwe-heroine esimweni esinikeziwe. Ingabe isipiliyoni sakhe singasetshenziswa empilweni yomuntu siqu yowesifazane wesimanje ngokombono we-psychology yobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu?
1. Ukuvukela umbuso
Ku-Sveta (wadlalwa nguYulia Aleksandrova efilimu), ukwethembeka kwendoda kungenye yezisekelo zobudlelwane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukhashelwa kwesoka kuba yimbangela yetulo. Isinqumo kuphela sokuqeda ubuhlobo "buthule futhi ngokuthula" asiveli kumlingisi oyinhloko, kodwa "imbuka" ngokwakhe, njengoba eqaphela ukuthi ukukhashelwa kuzophindwa izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa. Kamuva, lapho iqhawekazi lithola irobhothi lisesimweni esingaqondakali, liphula iphethini lokuziphatha futhi lidedele ulaka, lihlose imbangi yalo. Irobhothi liyakuthola – futhi kuhle ukuthi endaweni yonke “(HAYI) indoda efanelekile” amalungelo e-biomechanisms awavikelekile ngokwanele, ngaphandle kwalokho icala belizophelela enkantolo.
UMkhandlu. Noma yikuphi ukungqubuzana akufanele kufinyelele ezingeni lokuhlaselwa, nakuba ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukuzibamba. Ukuguqula intukuthelo engokwemvelo ibe yisenzo sobudlova inqwaba yabantu abangavuthiwe abanezinga eliphansi lozwelo. Lawula izinga lakho lolaka ngokuzindla, izivivinyo zokuphefumula kanye nezemidlalo, futhi uma kunesidingo, funa usizo kuchwepheshe.
2. Vimbela imizwelo ephilayo
Ezingxoxweni nabangane nakuma-monologue angaphakathi, siyachaza ama-epithets amahle kuphela. Usebenza kanzima, uyanakekela futhi umnene. Yilokhu kanye esiyikho isithandwa sika-Sveta – irobhothi … Nokho, leli qhawekazi alithandanga nhlobo ngenxa yesimo esihle, kodwa ngenxa … yobuthakathaka. Iphutha lobuchwepheshe lamnika imizwa yomuntu: ukwesaba, ukuthambekela kokudangala. Ingabe uqinisile?
UMkhandlu. Vumela umlingani wakho kanye nawe ukuthi nizwe uhla olugcwele lwemizwa eyenza impilo yakho iphelele. Lokhu akukhona ngezingxabano kanye nemidlalo eyingozi ngenxa ye-adrenaline ehlanzekile, kodwa mayelana nelungelo lobuthakathaka, injabulo yengane, izinyembezi, ukukhathala, ukuhlehla kwesikhashana kuwe. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi yikhono lokuthola imizwa eyenza umuntu "aphile".
3. Isiyingi esinonya se-Neurotic
Esinye sezicelo ezivame kakhulu kubelaphi sihlobene nephethini yobudlelwane ephindaphindayo. Kungani bonke abalingani bangaphambili behlazisa, behlambalaza, bekhohlisa - futhi umfana omusha ngokushesha ngemva kwesikhathi se-candy-bouquet siqala ukuthukuthela? Inkinga ingaxazululwa kuphela ngomzamo onamandla kakhulu wentando noma ngokusebenzisana nochwepheshe. Into enzima kakhulu wukuphinda ukholelwe kuwena futhi wethembe indoda, ikakhulukazi uma isipiliyoni sangaphambilini sihlasimulisa umzimba – njengoSveta.
Iqhawekazi lethu, selidlulile ochungechungeni lokuphoxeka kohlobo olufanayo, lathola amandla okuthanda futhi. Kodwa lokhu akulona uthando oluyimpumputhe, kodwa lunengqondo kakhulu.
UMkhandlu. Uma ukhetha amadoda ohlobo oluthile, zilungiselele "i-rake" elidala, elinyathelwe kahle: ama-neuroses amabili ahlangana, ahlala isikhathi eside, kodwa ngokudabukisayo. Kunzima ukubiza lolu thando, i-codependency igama elifaneleka kakhulu. Indlela yokuhlehlisa isimo? Okokuqala, gqamisa ukufana kwe-ex yakho futhi ugweme abantu abafanayo, bese ulalela imizwa yakho. Induduzo nokuthula kuzovela kuphela eduze kwalabo abafanelwe ukunakwa kwakho.
4. Ungalokothi ubeke eceleni kuze kube kusasa...
Umsindo ovusa inkanuko weqhawe lefilimu "(HHAYI) indoda efanelekile" usuvele "unezimpiko": "Ungalokothi uhlehlise kusasa lowo ongalala naye namuhla." Kuzwakala kunengqondo, kodwa uSveta akazange ajahe. Futhi wenza okufanele!
UMkhandlu. Ukuzikhethela kuhlale kungokwakho, kodwa udinga ukuqaphela ukuthi ekuphileni ndawonye, ukwethembana nokuhloniphana kuphakeme kakhulu kunobulili. Ngakho-ke, okokulala akusona isono sokuhlehlisa kancane uze umazi kangcono umlingani wakho. Umkhuba owusizo, ikakhulukazi uma unezinhlelo ezijulile ngale ndoda.
Indaba yothando ehlekisayo, yothando futhi ngezinye izikhathi ehlekisayo yowesifazane nerobhothi elibukekayo "(HAYI) indoda ephelele" . Ungaphuthelwa ithuba lokubona ngamehlo akho ukuthi ubuhlobo (hhayi) obuphelele nendoda (hhayi) ephelele buzoholela kubo.