Bangomama futhi bakhubazekile

UFlorence, umama kaThéo, oneminyaka engu-9 ubudala: “Ukuba ngumama kwakusobala, kodwa ngangazi ukuthi ukuphila kwansuku zonke kwakuzodinga amacebiso…”

“Kwakudinga uthando olukhulu, ukukhuthazela okuhle ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo ukuze umzimba wami ontekenteke ukwazi ukusekela ukukhulelwa. Kwakudingeka futhi isilinganiso esihle sokuphatha kahle, ukuze kunqobe izinkulumo ezihlambalazayo ngezinye izikhathi zabantu ongabazi noma ochwepheshe bezempilo. Ekugcineni, ngakwamukela ukuhlaziywa okude kwezakhi zofuzo kanye nokubhekwa ngokucophelela kwezokwelapha, ukuze ngifinyelele into enhle kakhulu emhlabeni: ukunikeza ukuphila. Kwakungeyona into engenakwenzeka futhi engeyona ingozi. Nokho, kwakuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kowesifazane onjengami. Nginesifo samathambo engilazi. Nginakho konke ukunyakaza nokuzwa kwami, kodwa imilenze yami ibingaphuka uma kufanele isekele isisindo somzimba wami. Ngakho-ke ngisebenzisa isihlalo sabakhubazekile futhi ngishayela imoto eguquliwe. Isifiso sokuba ngumama nokuqala umndeni sasinamandla kakhulu kunobuphi ubunzima.

U-Théo wazalwa, emuhle, eyingcebo engacabanga ngayo ekukhaleni kwakhe kokuqala. Njengoba ngenqabile ukulaliswa kwezinzwa okuvamile, ngazuza ku-anesthesia yomgogodla okuthi, esimweni sami naphezu kobuchule bochwepheshe, ingasebenzi kahle. Ngangindikindiki ohlangothini olulodwa. Lokhu kuhlupheka kwanxeshezelwa ngokuhlangana noTheo kanye nenjabulo yami yokuba ngumama. Umama naye oziqhenya kakhulu ngokukwazi ukumncelisa emzimbeni owasabela kahle! Nganakekela u-Theo ngokuthuthukisa ubuhlakani obuningi kanye nokubambana phakathi kwethu. Esemncane ngamgqokisa isihlilingi, kwathi lapho ehlala phansi, ngambopha ngebhande, ngathi ngisezindiza! Okukhudlwana, wayibiza ngokuthi “imoto eshintshayo”, imoto yami eguquliwe ifakwe ingalo enyakazayo…

Manje u-Théo uneminyaka engu-9 ubudala. Uyathandeka, unelukuluku lokwazi, uhlakaniphile, uyahaha, unozwelo. Ngiyathanda ukumbona egijima ehleka. Ngiyayithanda indlela angibheka ngayo. Namuhla, usengumfowethu futhi. Ngaphinda futhi, nginendoda enhle, ngathola ithuba lokubeletha intombazanyana. I-adventure entsha iqala emndenini wethu ohlangene futhi obumbene. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngo-2010, ngasungula inhlangano ye-Handiparentalité *, ngokubambisana nesikhungo i-Papillon de Bordeaux, ukuze sisize abanye abazali abanokukhubazeka kwezimoto nezinzwa. Phakathi nokukhulelwa kwami ​​kokuqala, ngezinye izikhathi ngangizizwa ngingenamandla ngenxa yokuntula ulwazi noma ukwabelana. Bengifuna ukukulungisa esikalini sami.

Inhlangano yethu, ngokumelene nesizinda sokuqwashisa ngokukhubazeka, isebenza kanye nemikhankaso yokwazisa, anikele ngamasevisi amaningi futhi asekele abazali abakhubazekile. Kulo lonke elase-France, omama bethu abadluliswayo bazenza batholakalele ukulalela, ukwazisa, ukuqinisekisa, ukuphakamisa amabhuleki ekukhubazekeni nokuqondisa abantu lapho kudingeka. Singomama kungenjalo, kodwa omama ngaphezu kwakho konke! “

* Inhlangano ye-Handiparentalité yazisa futhi yeseke abazali abakhubazekile. Iphinde inikeze imalimboleko yezinto ezisetshenziswayo.

UJessica, unina kaMelyna, onezinyanga eziyishumi: “Kancane kancane, ngazibeka njengomama.”

“Ngakhulelwa ngemva kwenyanga... Ukuba ngumama kwakuyindima yempilo yami naphezu kokukhubazeka kwami! Ngokushesha kakhulu, kwadingeka ngiphumule futhi ngilinganisele ukunyakaza kwami. Ngaphuphunyelwa yisisu kuqala. Ngangingabaza kakhulu. Kwathi ngemva kwezinyanga ezingu-18, ngakhulelwa futhi. Naphezu kokukhathazeka, ngazizwa ngilungile ekhanda lami nasemzimbeni wami.

Emasontweni ambalwa okuqala ngemva kokubeletha kwakunzima. Ngenxa yokuntula ukuzethemba. Ngaphathisa okuningi, ngangiyisibukeli. Ngenxa yokuhlinzwa nokukhubazeka kwengalo yami, angikwazanga ukuyisa indodakazi yami ewodini lababeletha lapho ikhala. Ngambona ekhala ayikho into engangingayenza ngaphandle kokumbheka.

Kancane kancane, ngazibeka njengomama. Yebo, nginemingcele. Angizenzi izinto ngokushesha. Ngithatha "izithukuthuku" eziningi nsuku zonke lapho ngishintsha uMelyna. Uma enyakaza kungathatha imizuzu engu-30, futhi uma ngemva kwemizuzu engu-20 kufanele ngiqale phansi, ngilahlekelwe ngu-500g! Ukumupha ukudla uma enqume ukushaya ngesipuni nakho kuwumdlalo: Angikwazi ukulwa ngesandla esisodwa! Kufanele ngizivumelanise nezimo futhi ngithole ezinye izindlela zokwenza izinto. Kodwa ngathola amakhono ami: Ngikwazi ngisho nokuwugeza ngokuzimela! Kuyiqiniso, angikwazi ukwenza yonke into, kodwa nginamandla ami: Ngiyalalela, ngihleka kakhulu naye, sijabule kakhulu. “

U-Antinea, unina ka-Alban noTitouan, oneminyaka engu-7, noHeloïse, onezinyanga ezingu-18: “Indaba yokuphila kwami, hhayi okomuntu okhubazekile.”

“Ngesikhathi ngilindele amawele ami ngazibuza imibuzo eminingi. Indlela yokuthwala umntwana osanda kuzalwa, indlela yokugeza? Bonke omama bayaphumputha, kodwa omama abakhubazekile nakakhulu, ngoba izinto zokusebenza azihlali zifanelekile. Ezinye izihlobo “zaphikisana” nokukhulelwa kwami. Eqinisweni, babephikisana nombono wokuthi ngibe umama, bethi, “Uyingane, uzobhekana kanjani nengane?” »Ukuba ngumama kuvame ukubeka ukukhubazeka phambili, okulandelwa ukukhathazeka, icala noma ukungabaza.

Lapho ngikhulelwe, akekho owaphawula ngami. Yebo, ngamawele umndeni wami wawukhathazekile ngami, kodwa bafika ekuziphatheni kahle futhi ngangiphila kahle futhi.

Ubaba wamawele washona ngenxa yokugula esikhathini esithile kamuva. Ngaqhubeka nempilo yami. Ngabe sengihlangana nomyeni wami wamanje, wamukela amawele ami njengawakhe futhi sifuna enye ingane. Obaba bezingane zami bebelokhu bengabantu abahle kakhulu. U-Héloïse wazalwa engenandaba, wancela ngokushesha ngendlela engokwemvelo, esobala kakhulu. Ukuncelisa ibele kuvame ukuba nzima kakhulu ukuthola ngaphandle, yilabo abaseduze kwakho.

Ekugcineni, okuhlangenwe nakho kwami ​​ukuthi angizange ngiyeke izifiso zami ezijulile zobumama. Namuhla, akekho ongabaza ukuthi izinqumo zami bezilungile. “

UValérie, unina kaLola, oneminyaka engu-3 ubudala: “Lapho ngizalwa, ngaphikelela ukugcina insiza yami yokuzwa, ngangifuna ukuzwa ukukhala kukaLola kokuqala.”

“Bengingakwazi ukuzwa kusukela ngizalwa, uhlushwa uhlobo 2 lwe-Waardenburg syndrome, olutholwe ngemuva kocwaningo lwe-DNA. Lapho ngikhulelwa, kwaba nemizwa yenjabulo nokwaneliseka kuhlangene nokukhathazeka nokwesaba ngengozi enkulu yokudlulisela ubuthulu enganeni yami. Ukuqala kokukhulelwa kwami ​​kwaphawulwa ukwehlukana nobaba. Ekuqaleni, ngangazi ukuthi ngizoba nendodakazi. Ukukhulelwa kwami ​​kwakuhamba kahle. Lapho kusondela usuku oluhle lokufika, yilapho kwakhula khona ukuntula isineke nokwesaba kwami ​​ukuhlangana nale ngane encane. Ngangikhathazekile ngombono wokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi uyisithulu, kodwa futhi nokuthi mina ngokwami ​​angikwazanga ukuzwa kahle ithimba lezokwelapha ngesikhathi sokubeletha, engangikufuna ngaphansi kwe-epidural. Ababelethisi ewodini bangeseka kakhulu, futhi umndeni wami wawuhileleke kakhulu.

Ukubeletha kwaba yinde kangangokuthi ngahlala izinsuku ezimbili esibhedlela sokubeletha ngingakwazanga ukubeletha. Ngosuku lwesithathu, kwanqunywa ukuhlinzwa okuphuthumayo. Ngangesaba ngoba ithimba, linikezwe umthetho olandelwayo, langichazela ukuthi ngangingakwazi ukugcina insiza yami yokuzwa. Kwakuyinto engenakwenzeka neze ukuthi angizange ngizwe indodakazi yami ikhala okokuqala. Ngachaza usizi lwami futhi ekugcineni ngakwazi ukugcina i-prosthesis yami ngemva kokukhishwa amagciwane. Sengidabukile, ngisakhipha isimo sokucindezeleka. Udokotela obulala izinzwa, ukuze angiphumuze, wangibonisa ama-tattoos akhe, angenza ngimamatheke; ithimba lonke le-block lalijabule kakhulu, abantu ababili bedansa futhi becula ukuze umoya ujabule. Khona-ke, udokotela obulala izinzwa, ephulula isiphongo sami, wathi kimi: “Manje usungakwazi ukuhleka noma ukukhala, ungumama omuhle”. Futhi lokho engangikulindile kulezo zinyanga ezinde ezimnandi zokukhulelwa okwanelisayo kwenzeka: Ngezwa indodakazi yami. Yilokho, ngangingumama. Ukuphila kwami ​​kwaba nencazelo entsha phambi kwalesi simangaliso esincane esinesisindo esingu-4,121 kg. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, wayephilile futhi ezwa kahle kakhulu. Ngingajabula kuphela...

Namuhla, uLola uyintombazane encane ejabule. Sekuyisizathu sami sokuphila nesizathu sokulwa kwami ​​nobuthulu, okuncipha kancane kancane. Futhi ngokuzimisela okukhulu, ngihola umhlangano wokucobelelana ngolwazi ngokuthwasa ngolimi lwezandla, ulimi engifuna ukwabelana ngalo kabanzi. Lolu limi lucebisa kakhulu ukuxhumana! Kungaba isibonelo izindlela ezengeziwe zokusekela umusho okunzima ukuwuveza. Ezinganeni ezincane, iyithuluzi elithakazelisayo lokubavumela ukuthi bakhulume nabanye kuyilapho belinde ulimi olukhulunywayo. Ekugcineni, usiza ekuqondeni imizwelo ethile enganeni yakhe, ngokufunda ukuyibheka ngendlela ehlukile. Ngiyawuthanda lo mbono wokukhuthaza ukudalwa kwesibopho esihlukile phakathi kwabazali nezingane. ”