Okuqukethwe
Lapho umuntu osondelene nathi ezithola esesimweni esinzima: omunye walabo abathandekayo kuye ushiya ukuphila kwakhe, ubhekene nokugula okunzima noma isehlukaniso - ngokuzumayo sibhekene nokuthi kunzima kangakanani ukuthola amagama afanele. . Sifuna ukududuza, kodwa ngokuvamile sikwenza kube kubi nakakhulu. Yini engashiwo kumuntu ogulayo?
Ngokuvamile ezimweni ezinjalo, siyalahleka futhi siphinde lokho inqwaba yabanye abantu abangakusho kumuntu ngaphandle kwethu: “Ngiyazwelana,” “kubuhlungu ukuzwa lokhu.” Bheka ukuphawula ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngaphansi kwalezo zincwadi lapho umbhali efuna ukusekela. Iningi lazo, ngokungangabazeki, libhalwe ngokusuka enhliziyweni, kodwa liyaphinda futhi, ngenxa yalokho, lizwakala njengerekhodi eliphukile.
Imisho engeke isize umuntu ohluphekayo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ingase ikhulise isimo sakhe
1. "Ngiyazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani"
Masikhulume iqiniso, angeke sazi. Ngisho noma sicabanga ukuthi saba nokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo, wonke umuntu uphila indaba yakhe ngendlela yakhe.
Ngaphambi kwethu kungase kube nomuntu onezinye izici ezingokwengqondo, umbono wokuphila nekhono lokumelana nokucindezeleka, futhi isimo esifanayo sibonwa nguye ngendlela ehlukile.
Yebo, ungakwazi ukwabelana ngolwazi lwakho, kodwa akufanele ukhombe isipiliyoni sakho ngalokho umngane wakho abhekana nakho manje. Kungenjalo, kuzwakala njengokuphoqelela imizwa kanye nemizwelo yomuntu kanye nesikhathi sokukhuluma ngawe futhi.
2. “Kwakuhloselwe ukuba kube njalo, futhi kufanele nje ukwamukele”
Ngemva "kwenduduzo" enjalo, kuphakama umbuzo kumuntu: "Kungani ngempela kufanele ngidlule kulesi sihogo?" Kungasiza uma wazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi umngane wakho uyikholwa futhi amazwi akho ahambisana nesithombe sakhe sezwe. Ngaphandle kwalokho, bangabhebhethekisa isimo sangaphakathi somuntu, okuthi, mhlawumbe, ngalesi sikhathi, azizwe elahlekelwa ngokuphelele yizincazelo zokuphila.
3. "Uma udinga okuthile, ngishayele"
Ibinzana elivamile esiliphinda ngezinjongo ezinhle kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, u-interlocutor uyifunda njengohlobo oluthile lwesithiyo osimisile ukuze uhlale kude nosizi lwakhe. Cabanga ukuthi ngabe umuntu ohlupheka kakhulu uzokushayela yini ngesicelo esithile esikhethekile? Uma engakaze athambekele ekufuneni usizo, amathuba alokhu avame ukuba zero.
Kunalokho, cela ukwenza okuthile umngane akudingayo. Isimo sosizi siyakhathaza ngokwengqondo futhi ngokuvamile asishiyi amandla emisebenzi yasekhaya evamile. Vakashela umngane, nikela ukupheka okuthile, uthenge okuthile, uhambe nenja. Usizo olunjalo ngeke lube olusemthethweni futhi luzosiza ngaphezu kwesithembiso esinesizotha kodwa esikude sokukushayela.
4. "Nalokhu kuzodlula"
Induduzo enhle ngenkathi ubuka uhlelo lwe-TV olunesicefe oluthatha isikhathi eside, kodwa hhayi ngesikhathi lapho uhlukaniswa yizinto ezinzima. Ibinzana elinjalo kumuntu osezinhlungwini liyinciphisa ngokuphelele imizwa yakhe. Futhi nakuba lesi sitatimende ngokwaso siyiqiniso kakhulu, kubalulekile ukuba umuntu angazijahi, aphile isimo sosizi futhi afike ekuqondeni la mazwi ngokwakhe, ngesikhathi lapho esekulungele.
Ukuthobela yonke le mithetho kwandisa amathuba okusiza othandekayo
Nokho, into embi kakhulu ongayenza ukungasho lutho. Abantu abaye babhekana nosizi bayavuma ukuthi ukuthula okungalindelekile kwabathandekayo babo kwaba olunye uvivinyo kubo. Ngokunokwenzeka, omunye walabo abahoxayo wazwela kakhulu, abakwazanga nje ukuthola amagama afanele. Nokho, kusezikhathini ezinzima nezibuhlungu zempilo lapho amazwi ethu ayiwona asekelayo. Bacabangele labo abathandekayo kuwe.
Mayelana nombhali: U-Andrea Bonior uyisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sasemtholampilo esigxile ekwelashweni kokulutheka kanye nombhali wezincwadi.