Intsha ayifuni ukukhula: kungani futhi kufanele yenzeni?

Ngempela, izingane ezineminyaka engu-17 zazivame ukuya phambili, ziqondise izingqungquthela, zifeze izindinganiso zikaStakhanov, kepha manje azikwazi ukudabula izinqa zazo kwi-laptop. Izingane zanamuhla (ake senze ukubhuka: akubona bonke, kunjalo), ngangokunokwenzeka, abazama ukubambezela ukukhula, okungukuthi, amandla okuhlela impilo, ukubhekana nezenzo, ukuthembela emandleni abo. “Ingabe kulula ngabo?” - sibuze onguchwepheshe.

“Inkinga ikhona ngempela,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emitholampilo u-Anna Golota. - Ukunwetshwa kwentsha kuqondane nokuguquka kwezinkambiso zomphakathi kanye nokwanda kwamazinga okuphila. Phambilini, “ukukhula” bekungenakugwenywa futhi kuphoqelelwe: uma unganyakazi, uzobulawa yindlala ngomqondo ongokoqobo noma ongokomfanekiso wegama. Namuhla, izidingo eziyisisekelo zengane zihlangatshezwe kakhulu, ngakho-ke akudingeki ukuthi iye efemini iyosebenza ngemuva kwebanga lesi-7 ukuzondla. Yini okufanele abazali bayenze?

Uke waqaphela ukuthi ingane inentshisekelo kokuthile? Sekela umfutho wakhe, yabelana ngenjabulo yenqubo, ukhuthaze futhi uvume umphumela, usize, uma kunesidingo (hhayi yena, kepha naye). Amakhono okuqala okuhlanganisa izenzo ezimbili kuketanga nokufeza umphumela aqeqeshwa eneminyaka emibili kuya kwengu-2. Ingane ingathola ulwazi oludingekayo kuphela ngokwenza okuthile ngezandla zayo. Ngakho-ke, lezo zingane ezikhulela emafulethini lapho konke kungenakwenzeka khona, kepha ungabuka kuphela opopayi bese ubamba ithebhulethi, lawa makhono awakhuli, futhi ngokuzayo le mali idluliselwe ukuyofunda (ezingeni lengqondo). Izingane ezikhulela esigodini noma endlini yangasese, ezivunyelwe ukugijima kakhulu, zikhuphuka izihlahla, zigxume emanzini, izitshalo zamanzi zisencane, zithola amakhono amahle kakhulu okwenza umsebenzi. Bazobeka futhi amapuleti ngokuzithandela ekhishini, bashanele phansi, benze nomsebenzi wabo wesikole.

• Uma indodakazi yakho isondela esivivinyweni ngombuzo othi "Mama, ngingazama?" Vala uwoyela obilayo, ulolonge uphaya ndawonye, ​​uwuthose bese welapha ubaba. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukuncoma!

Uma umama ehlala ekhathele, esontekile, engajabule, enza imisebenzi yasekhaya ngokububula, "Ngikhathele nina nonke," uyosebenza njengomsebenzi onzima futhi akhononde kuphela ekhaya ukuthi konke kubi kangakanani, ngeke kube khona ukukhuluma noma yikuphi ukukhuliswa kwenkululeko. Ingane izogwema ngayo yonke indlela ukuthi ingabi “umuntu omdala” onjalo, vele ilingise indlela oziphatha ngayo. Olunye uhlobo "Wonke umuntu uyangikweleta". Umzali uqobo ujwayele ukujabulela ukusetshenziswa kokungenzi lutho, akawubongi umsebenzi noma uphoqelelwa ukuba asebenze, enomona ngalabo abazinzile kahle. Ingane nayo izolingisa izindinganiso ezinjalo, noma ngabe zingazwakaliswanga kuye ngokuzwakalayo.

• Ubaba, cha, cha, yebo, uzothi enganeni (ngokungancokisi, ngokunganaki): “Ngeke ube ngumongameli, bekufanele uzalwe uyindodana kamongameli.” Noma: "Khumbula ndodana, khetha umakoti ocebile, onedali, ukuze wehliswe umthwalo emsebenzini." Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi le misho izomkhuthaza?

Eminyakeni engama-50 edlule, umphakathi usubabekezelela kakhudlwana abantu abaziphatha nokuziphatha kwabo kwehlukile ezinkambisweni ezamukelwa ngokuvamile. Kuvele abesifazane, ukungabi nezingane, imiphakathi ye-LGBT, njll. Ngakho-ke, ukukhululeka okujwayelekile, ukwenqatshwa kokufundiswa ngesijeziso, kanye nesimo sengqondo sobuntu kubantu abathembele kubo kuholela, phakathi kwezinye izinto, ekutheni ingxenye yentsha ikhethe le ndlela yokuphila. Njengamanje, asikwazi ukuphoqa izingane zethu ukuthi zifune ukuphila ngendlela esiphila ngayo.

• Indodakazi iphupha ngokunqoba imodeli yezimoto zomhlaba wonke, ichitha amahora amaningi itadisha omagazini abacwebezelayo. Ungamdli ikhanda lakhe elinempandla ngezinkulumo ezingapheli! Okungenzeka ukuthi akasondeli esibonelweni sikamama omnene futhi onakekelayo womndeni.

Futhi-ke, uma ufuna ukuletha ububele, umusa, kanye nokukhononda endodakazini yakho, yiba yisibonelo salezi zimfanelo ezinhle kusukela namhlanje. Umshado ophilayo yinto ongayinikeza ingane yakho njengelobolo. Futhi-ke yena uqobo, ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ufuna.

• Noma ngubani izingane ezifuna ukuba ngumdlali wegeyimu, imodeli yemfashini, noma ivolontiya e-Afrika - zisekela ukukhetha kwazo. Futhi khumbula ukuthi abantu abayizibonelo zendabuko abavikeli ezinkingeni. “Amadoda angempela” afa kaningi kunabanye ngenxa yokuhlaselwa yisifo senhliziyo nokushaywa unhlangothi, futhi abesifazane abanobubele nabakhathalelayo kungenzeka babe yizisulu zobushiqela.

Ukuzimela empilweni yansuku zonke, esikwazile ukukukhulisa esemusha, kuzocaca uma wena (ungekho). Phambi kwabazali, ingane izoziphatha ngokuzenzakalela njengengane. Ngakho-ke, kaningi uziqhelelanise futhi uzigcine usesandleni lapho kuvela isifiso esingenakuphikiswa sokuhlanza izicathulo "zendodana yakho ethandekayo". Kubalulekile ukufunda ukuthi ungabelana kanjani ngemingcele nezingane esezikhulile.

• Le ntombazane ngokungananazi ibeka izinto ngokuhleleka ekamelweni, ifanelwe yisiqu semilenze kubazali bayo. Futhi eseqale ukuhlala nensizwa ehlukene nabazali bayo, uyakuhlanza ngenjabulo futhi apheke kahle. Ubaba osemusha usiza ngentshiseko ngokusonga ingane, avuke kuye ebusuku, kepha lapho nje unina efika "ezosiza ngengane," usheshe abune bese eya kuthelevishini. Kuzwakala kujwayelekile?

Muva nje, inani lezingane ezine-ADHD (ukunakwa kokushoda kokungasebenzi kahle kwengqondo) belilokhu landa. Izingane ezinjalo azihlelekile, zinamawala, azihlaliseki. Kunzima kubo ukuhlela izenzo zamanje, ingasaphathwa eyokukhuluma ngezinhlelo zempilo noma ukukhetha umsebenzi. Ukuqaliswa kwanoma yimuphi umsebenzi ohlobene nempumelelo kuzodala ukukhuphuka kwengcindezi engokomzwelo nengcindezi kuyo. Uzogwema izimo ezinzima ukuze azigcine.

• Indodana, njengoba ifunde iminyaka emibili, iyeka isikole somculo ngenxa yokusabela kukanina kulaba bobabili kudayari yakhe. Kumbuzo othi “Awusithandi isigingci?” uyaphendula: "Ngiyathanda, kodwa angifuni amahlazo."

Izingane eziningi zesimanje zinokushoda kwezimfanelo ezithandwayo - azenzi lutho, zihamba nokugeleza, ziwela kalula ngaphansi kwethonya lezinkampani ezimbi, futhi zivame ukufuna ukuzijabulisa kwakudala. Azenzi izisusa eziphakeme zomsebenzi, inhlonipho, umthwalo wemfanelo, isimilo esimiswa yimizwelo yesikhashana nemizwelo.

• Emsebenzini nasempilweni yomuntu uqobo, umuntu onjalo akathembekile, yize engenabungozi. Njengesibonelo - umlingiswa ophambili wefilimu "Afonya". “Udinga ukushada, Afanasy, ushade! - Kungani? Ngabe nabo kufanele bangixoshe endlini? ”Indlela yokusiza izingane ezinjalo zithole indawo yazo efanelekile empilweni kuyinkinga enkulu. Othile usizwa yimidlalo, omunye umuntu omdala onegunya.