Amandla enhlonipho: indlela yokusabela ku-boor

ULaura oneminyaka engu-36 uthi: “Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule bengishayela nendodakazi yami. - Emarobhothini, ngabaza imizuzwana embalwa. Ngokushesha ngemva kwami, othile waqala ukuhayiza okohlanya, kwase kuba imoto ecindezela eduze kwami, futhi umshayeli wangithuka ngendlela yokuthi angikwazi nokuzama ukuyikhiqiza. Indodakazi, kunjalo, ngokushesha izinyembezi. Usuku lonke, ngangizizwa ngicindezelekile, ngilulazekile, ngiyisisulu sokungabi nabulungisa.”

Nansi indaba eyodwa kweziningi zokwedelela esibhekana nazo nsuku zonke. Eqinisweni, kwakuvamile kangangokuthi umlobi uPier Massimo Forni, isekela likaprofesa wezincwadi zesiNtaliyane eJohns Hopkins University, wanquma ukubhala incwadi yokuzivikela: “Isinqumo Somphakathi: Okufanele ukwenze lapho abantu bekudelela.” Nakhu akuncomayo.

Emsuka wokudelela

Ukuze ulwe nokudelela nokudelela, udinga ukuqonda izizathu zabo, futhi ngenxa yalokhu, zama ukumazi kangcono umenzi wobubi.

Ngamanye amazwi, akakwazi ukunqoba izifiso zakhe kanye nezithakazelo zakhe ngokuthanda abanye, ecabangela ukufaneleka kwakhe "Mina" futhi evikela "nge-saber engenalutho."

Hama isu

Ngokuziphatha kabi, empeleni umuntu uzama ukuzivikela. Akazethembi, uyesaba ukukhombisa lokho akuthathayo ngenxa yokushiyeka kwakhe, ukuzivikela futhi ahlasele abanye.

Ukuntula ukuzethemba okunjalo kungase kube ngenxa yezizathu ezihlukahlukene: abazali abaqine kakhulu, othisha abamenza azizwe «enamaphutha», abafundi afunda nabo ababemgcona.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isizathu, umuntu ongavikelekile uzama ukusinxephezela ngokusungula uhlobo oluthile lokulawula nokubusa phezu kwabanye ukuze azuze inzuzo yezinto ezibonakalayo noma engokwengqondo.

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akaqapheli ukuthi lolu hlobo lokuziphatha, ngokuphambene nalokho, lwenza buthaka ubuhlobo bomphakathi futhi lumenza angajabuli kakhulu.

Isikhali esikhulu inhlonipho

Isu eliyimpumelelo ukusiza ibhunu liphile kangcono ngokumelapha ukuze ekugcineni likhululeke. Lokhu kuzomvumela ukuba azizwe emukelekile, ehlonishwa, eqondwa futhi, ngakho-ke, aphumule.

Ukumamatheka kubangela ukumomotheka, kanye nesimo sengqondo sobungani - ukuzithoba okulinganayo. Umqondo ovulekile kanye nesithakazelo esiqotho ezinkingeni zabanye abantu kungasebenza izimanga.

Uma umuntu odelelayo ephikelela eyedwa, singakhohlwa ukuthi ukudelela ngokuyinhloko kumlimaza lowo okuvela kuye.

Indlela yokusabela ekuhlazweni

1. Adonse umoya kakhulu.

2. Zikhumbuze ukuthi umuntu odelelayo wenza ngale ndlela ngenxa yezinkinga zakhe, futhi amise ibanga elingokomzwelo.

3. Nquma ukuthi wenzeni. Ngokwesibonelo…

Esitolo

Umxhumanisi usocingweni futhi akakunaki. Khuluma naye ngala mazwi: "Uxolo, bengifuna ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi ungibonile, ngaphandle kwalokho bengimi lapha imizuzu eyi-10."

Uma isimo singashintshi: «Ngiyabonga, ngizocela omunye umuntu», ekhomba ukuthi uya kumlawuli noma komunye umdayisi, ngaleyo ndlela kumenze aqhudelane.

Etafuleni

Udla isidlo sakusihlwa nabangani. Omakhalekhukhwini bahlala bekhala, inkampani yakho iphendula izingcingo, okukucasula kakhulu. Khumbuza abangani bakho ukuthi ujabule kangakanani ukubabona nokuthi kudabukisa kangakanani ukuthi ingxoxo iphazanyiswa ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Nezingane

Ukhuluma nomngane wakho, kodwa ingane yakho ikuphazamisa njalo futhi izidonsele ingubo.

Ngomusa kodwa ngokuqinile babambe isandla sakhe, umbheke emehlweni bese uthi: “Ngiyakhuluma. Ingabe kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi awukwazi ukulinda? Uma kungenjalo, kufanele uthole okuthile ongakwenza. Uma uqhubeka usiphazamisa, kuzomele ulinde kakhulu.»

Qhubeka ubambe isandla sakhe aze athi uyakuqonda. Ngomusa amcele ukuthi axolise kusivakashi.

Ehhovisi

Uzakwenu umi eduze futhi unomsindo omkhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini ekuphazamisayo emsebenzini.

Ithi, “Uxolo, uma ukhulumela phezulu kakhulu ocingweni, angikwazi ukugxilisa ingqondo. Uma ukhulumela phansi kancane, uzobe ungenzela umusa omkhulu.”