Okuqukethwe
Inganekwane 2. Ukubamba imizwa yakho akulungile futhi kuyingozi. Zishayelwa ekujuleni komphefumulo, ziholela ekucindezelekeni okungokomzwelo, okugcwele ukuwohloka. Ngakho-ke, noma yimiphi imizwa, emihle nemibi, kumelwe ivezwe obala. Uma ukuveza ukucasuka komuntu noma intukuthelo kungamukeleki ngenxa yezizathu zokuziphatha, kufanele zithelwe entweni engaphili - isibonelo, ukushaya umcamelo.
Eminyakeni engamashumi amabili edlule, isipiliyoni esingavamile sabaphathi baseJapane saziwa kabanzi. Emakamelweni okushintshela amanye amabhizinisi ezimboni, kwafakwa onodoli benjoloba babaphathi njengezikhwama zokubhoboza, izisebenzi ezazivunyelwa ukubashaya ngezinduku zoqalo, okwakuthiwa zidambise ukungezwani okungokomzwelo nokukhulula ubutha obunqwabelene kubaphathi. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, sekudlule isikhathi esiningi, kodwa akukho lutho olubikiwe mayelana nokusebenza kwengqondo kwalokhu okusha. Kubonakala sengathi isalokhu iyisiqephu esinelukuluku ngaphandle kwemiphumela emibi. Noma kunjalo, izincwadi eziningi zokuzilawula ngokomzwelo zisabhekisela kukho nanamuhla, zikhuthaza abafundi ukuthi "bangazigcini esandleni", kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, bangayibambi imizwelo yabo.
Reality
NgokukaBrad Bushman, uprofesa waseNyuvesi yase-Iowa, ukukhipha intukuthelo entweni engaphili akuphumeleli ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka, kodwa okuphambene nalokho. Ocwaningweni lwakhe, uBushman wagcona abafundi bakhe ngamabomu ngamazwi ayiziswana njengoba beqeda umsebenzi wokufunda. Abanye babo babe sebecelwa ukuba bakhiphe intukuthelo yabo esikhwameni sokubhoboza. Kwavela ukuthi inqubo "yokuzola" ayizange neze ilethe abafundi ekuthuleni kwengqondo - ngokusho kokuhlolwa kwe-psychophysiological, bavele bacasuka kakhulu futhi banolaka kunalabo abangazange bakuthole "ukuphumula".
Uprofesa uyaphetha: “Noma yimuphi umuntu onengqondo, oveza intukuthelo yakhe ngale ndlela, uyaqaphela ukuthi umthombo wangempela wokucasuka ubulokhu ungenakuvinjelwa, futhi lokhu kumcasula nakakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma umuntu elindele ukuzola ngenqubo, kodwa akufiki, lokhu kwandisa kuphela ukucasuka.
Futhi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uGeorge Bonanno e-Columbia University sanquma ukuqhathanisa amazinga okucindezeleka abafundi nekhono labo lokulawula imizwelo yabo. Ulinganise amazinga okucindezeleka abafundi bonyaka wokuqala futhi wabacela ukuthi benze ukuhlola lapho kufanele babonise khona amazinga ahlukene okubonisa imizwelo - okuyihaba, okulinganiselwe nokujwayelekile.
Ngemva konyaka nengxenye, uBonanno wabiza izifundo ndawonye futhi walinganisa amazinga azo okucindezeleka. Kuvele ukuthi abafundi abahlangabezane nengcindezi encane kwakungabafundi abafanayo abathi, ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa, banda ngempumelelo futhi bacindezela imizwelo ngokuyala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba usosayensi athola, laba bafundi babejwayele ukujwayelana nesimo somxhumanisi.
Izincomo zenhloso
Noma yimuphi umsebenzi womzimba unomthelela ekukhishweni kokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, kodwa kuphela uma ungahlotshaniswa nezenzo ezinolaka, ngisho nemidlalo. Esimweni sokucindezeleka kwengqondo, ukushintshela ekuzilolongeni kwezemidlalo, ukugijima, ukuhamba, njll kuyasiza. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyasiza ukuzithikameza emthonjeni wengcindezi futhi ugxile kokuthile okungahlobene nakho — lalela umculo, funda incwadi, njll. ↑
Ngaphandle kwalokho, akukho lutho olungalungile ngokubamba imizwelo yakho. Ngokuphambene, ikhono lokuzibamba futhi liveze imizwa yomuntu ngokuvumelana nesimo kufanele lihlakulelwe kuye ngokwakhe. Umphumela walokhu kokubili ukuthula kwengqondo kanye nokuxhumana okugcwele — kuphumelela kakhulu futhi kusebenza ngempumelelo kunokuvezwa okuzenzakalelayo kwanoma yimiphi imizwa↑.