Incwadi ethi "Introduction to Psychology". Ababhali - RL Atkinson, RS Atkinson, EE Smith, DJ Boehm, S. Nolen-Hoeksema. Ngaphansi komhleli jikelele we-VP Zinchenko. Uhlelo lwamazwe ngamazwe lwe-15, i-St. Petersburg, i-Prime Eurosign, ngo-2007.
Isihloko esivela esahlukweni 14. Ukucindezeleka, ukubhekana nesimo nempilo
I-athikhili ibhalwe nguNeil D. Weinstein, Rutgers University
Ingabe uthambekele kakhulu ekubeni umlutha wotshwala kunabanye abantu? Kuthiwani ngamathuba akho okuthola isifo esithathelwana ngobulili noma onesifo senhliziyo? Ababaningi abantu ababuzwa le mibuzo abavumayo ukuba nephesenti elingaphezu kwesilinganiso sobungozi. Ngokuvamile, ama-50-70% alabo abahlolisiswayo bathi izinga labo lobungozi lingaphansi kwesilinganiso, enye i-30-50% ithi inezinga lengozi eliphakathi, futhi ngaphansi kuka-10% iyavuma ukuthi izinga labo lobungozi lingaphezu kwesilinganiso.
Yiqiniso, empeleni, konke akunjalo nhlobo. Ungase ube nethuba eliphansi kunelijwayelekile lokuhlaselwa yinhliziyo, kodwa baningi kakhulu abantu abathi lokhu kulungile. Umuntu "omaphakathi", ngokwencazelo, unezinga "elimaphakathi" lengozi. Ngakho-ke, uma kunabantu abaningi abengeziwe ababika izinga labo lengozi elimaphakathi kunalabo abathi izinga labo lengozi lingaphezu kwesilinganiso, maningi amathuba okuthi labo bangaphambili babe nokuhlola ubungozi okuchemile.
Ubufakazi bubonisa ukuthi abantu abaningi izenzo zabo, umlando womndeni noma indawo ezungezile ziwumthombo wengozi enkulu abangakuqondi noma abalokothi bakuvume. Ngokuvamile, kungashiwo ukuthi abantu banethemba elingenangqondo ngezingozi zesikhathi esizayo. Lokhu kuthemba okungenangqondo kunamandla ikakhulukazi endabeni yezingozi ngokwezinga elithile ngaphansi kokulawulwa komuntu ngamunye, njengokuluthwa utshwala, umdlavuza wamaphaphu kanye nezifo ezithathelwana ngocansi. Ngokusobala, siqiniseka ngokuphelele ukuthi siyophumelela kakhulu ekugwemeni izinkinga ezinjalo kunoontanga bethu.
Ukulindela okuhle okungenangqondo kubonisa ukuthi asinakungakhethi futhi sibe nomgomo lapho kuziwa ezingozini zempilo. Sifuna ukwaziswa futhi senze izinqumo ezifanele, nokho sizizwe sengathi sesiphila impilo enempilo, alukho ushintsho oludingekayo, futhi asikho isidingo sokukhathazeka. Ngeshwa, isifiso sokubona konke nge-pink singabangela izinkinga eziningi. Uma konke kuhamba kahle, asikho isidingo sokuthi sithathe izinyathelo zokuphepha. Singaqhubeka nokudakwa nabangane, sidle i-pizza eningi, inyama ethosiwe nama-hamburgers ngendlela esifuna ngayo, futhi sisebenzise amakhondomu kuphela nabalingani bobulili esibabheka njengabaxekethile (okuxakayo, asivamile ukucabanga ukuthi bonke banjalo). Isikhathi esiningi, ukuziphatha okuyingozi akusibangeli izinkinga, kodwa maningi amathuba okuthi kwenzeke. Izigidi zabafundi basekolishi unyaka ngamunye ezingenwa yilesi sifo ngobuhlobo bobulili noma ezingene ezingozini zezimoto ngemva kokuphuza ubhiya kakhulu ziyizibonelo ezicacile zabantu abenza izinto abaziyo ukuthi ziyingozi. Kodwa banquma ukuthi bazolunga. Lokhu akukhona ukungazi, lokhu ithemba elingenangqondo.
Isibonelo esidabukisa kakhulu ukwanda kwenani labafundi basekolishi ababhemayo. Ukukhohlisa okuhlukahlukene kubavumela ukuthi bazizwe bekhululekile. Bazobhema iminyaka embalwa futhi bayeke (abanye bangase babanjwe, kodwa hhayi bona). Kuphakathi kokuthi ababhemi ugwayi oqinile noma abawuhogeli. Bahileleka ngenkuthalo kwezemidlalo, okunxephezela umonakalo obangelwa ukubhema. Ababhemayo abaphiki ukuthi ugwayi uyingozi. Bamane bakholelwa ukuthi ugwayi awunangozi kubo. Ngokuvamile bathi ingozi yabo yokuthola isifo senhliziyo, umdlavuza wamaphaphu, noma i-emphysema iphansi kunabanye ababhemayo futhi ingaphezudlwana nje kwabangabhemi.
Ukuba nethemba kunezinzuzo zako. Uma abantu begula kakhulu futhi bezabalaza nesifo esinjengomdlavuza noma ingculazi, kubalulekile ukuhlala unethemba. Kuyasiza ukubekezelela ukwelashwa okungajabulisi, futhi isimo sengqondo esihle singasiza umzimba ukumelana nokugula. Kodwa ngisho nokuba nethemba elikhulu akunakwenzeka ukuba lenze umuntu ogulela ukufa akholelwe ukuthi akaguli, noma ayeke ukwelashwa. Nokho, ingozi ehlobene nokuba nethemba elingenangqondo iyanda lapho inkinga iwukuvimbela ukulimala. Uma ukholelwa ukuthi ungakwazi ukushayela imoto ngemva kokuphuza ubusuku bonke, noma ukuthi akekho noyedwa kubalingani bakho bocansi abangenwe isifo esithathelwana ngocansi, noma ukuthi, ngokungafani nofunda nabo ekilasini, ungakwazi ukuyeka ukubhema nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, ithemba lakho elingenangqondo lingase libe khona. ukukudalela izinkinga zempilo ezizokwenza uzisole ngokuziphatha kwakho.
Ukuba nethemba okungenangqondo kungaba kuhle empilweni yakho
Ingabe ukuba nethemba okungenangqondo kuyibi empilweni yakho? Uma uthi nhlá, kubonakala sengathi kufanele kube yingozi. Phela, uma abantu bekholelwa ukuthi abavikelekile ezinkingeni kusukela ekuboleni kwamazinyo kuye nesifo senhliziyo, akufanele yini lokho kube isithiyo endleleni yokuphila enempilo? Ubufakazi obanele bubonisa ukuthi abantu abaningi ngempela banethemba elingenangqondo ngempilo yabo. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, ithemba elingenangqondo libonakala liyilungele impilo yakho. Bona →
Isahluko 15
Kulesi sahluko sizobheka izindaba zabanye abantu abanenkinga yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okubi kakhulu, sigxile esigulini ngasinye esiphila impilo ecekela phansi ubuntu babo. Bona →