Okuqukethwe
Ukuyeka lokhu okuqalile kubi. Besilokhu sizwa ngakho kusukela ebuntwaneni. Lokhu kukhuluma ngomlingiswa obuthakathaka kanye nokungashintshi. Nokho, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Amy Morin ukholelwa ukuthi ikhono lokuyeka ngesikhathi liyinkomba yobuntu obuqinile. Ukhuluma ngezibonelo ezinhlanu lapho ukuyeka lokho okuqalile akunakwenzeka kuphela, kodwa futhi kuyadingeka.
Icala lihlupha abantu abangalandeli. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bavame ukuba namahloni ukukuvuma. Eqinisweni, ukungabaza ukunamathela emigomweni engathembisi kuhlukanisa abantu abavumelana nezimo ngokwengqondo kwababuthaka. Ngakho-ke, ungakuyeka nini lokho okuqalile?
1. Uma imigomo yakho isishintshile
Lapho sikhula ngaphezu kwethu, silwela ukuba ngcono. Lokhu kusho ukuthi izinto ezibalulekile nezinjongo zethu ziyashintsha. Imisebenzi emisha idinga izenzo ezintsha, ngakho-ke ngezinye izikhathi kufanele uguqule inkambu yomsebenzi noma imikhuba yakho ukuze wenze isikhathi, indawo namandla okusha. Njengoba ushintsha, udlula imigomo yakho yakudala. Nokho, ungakuyeki lokho obukuqale kaningi. Kungcono ukuhlaziya izinto ezibalulekile zamanje bese uzama ukulungisa imigomo yangaphambili kuzo.
2. Uma okwenzayo kuphambene nezimiso zakho
Kwesinye isikhathi, ukuze uthole ukukhushulwa esikhundleni noma impumelelo, unikezwa ithuba lokwenza into ocabanga ukuthi ayilungile. Labo abangaqiniseki ngokwabo banqotshwa ukucindezela futhi benze lokho abaphathi babo noma izimo ezikufunayo kubo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, bayahlupheka, bakhathazeke futhi bakhononde ngokungabi nabulungisa kwezwe. Bonke, abantu abavuthiwe bayazi ukuthi ukuphila okuphumelelayo ngempela kungenzeka kuphela uma uphila ngokuvumelana nawe futhi ungayekethisi ezimisweni zakho siqu ngenxa yenzuzo.
Ngokushesha uyeka ukuchitha isikhathi nemali, kancane kancane ugcina ulahlekelwe.
Isifiso esishisekayo somgomo ngokuvamile sikwenza ucabange kabusha izinto eziza kuqala ekuphileni kwakho. Kukhona okudingeka kushintshwe uma umsebenzi uthatha isikhathi esiningi namandla kuwe, uma unganaki umndeni nokuzilibazisa, ungaqapheli amathuba amasha futhi awunandaba nempilo yakho. Ungakwehlisi lokho okubaluleke ngempela kuwe ukuze uzitholele wena noma abanye ukuthi ngeke uyeke phakathi.
3. Lapho umphumela ungawufanele umzamo osetshenziselwe ukuwufinyelela
Olunye lwezimpawu zobuntu obuqinile ukuzibuza: Ingabe isiphetho sami siyazithethelela izindlela? Abanamandla emoyeni abanqeni ukuvuma ukuthi bayawumisa lo msebenzi ngoba beqise amandla abo futhi kudingeka izinsiza eziningi ukuze lolu hlelo lusebenze.
Mhlawumbe uthathe isinqumo sokwehlisa isisindo noma wenze u-$100 ngaphezulu ngenyanga kunangaphambili. Ngenkathi uhlela, yonke into yayibukeka ilula. Kodwa-ke, lapho uqala ukuya emgomweni, kwacaca ukuthi kunemikhawulo eminingi nobunzima. Uma uphelelwa amandla ngenxa yendlala ngenxa yendlela odla ngayo, noma uma ulala ungashintshile ukuze uthole imali eyengeziwe, kungase kube kuhle ukuliyeka lolu hlelo.
4.Uma usenkingeni
Okubi kakhulu kunokuba semkhunjini ozikayo ukuthi usagibele, ulinde umkhumbi uzike. Uma izinto zingahambi kahle, kuhle ukuzimisa ngaphambi kokuba isimo singabi nathemba.
Ukuma akukhona ukuhlulwa, kodwa ukushintsha kuphela amaqhinga nendlela
Kunzima ukuvuma iphutha lakho, abantu abanamandla ngempela bayakwazi. Mhlawumbe utshale yonke imali yakho ebhizinisini elingenzi nzuzo noma wachitha amahora amaningi wenza umsebenzi obonakale ungelutho. Kodwa-ke, akusizi ukuphinda uthi: "Ngitshale imali eningi kakhulu ukuthi ngiyeke." Ngokushesha uyeka ukuchitha isikhathi nemali, kancane kancane ugcina ulahlekelwe. Lokhu kusebenza kukho kokubili umsebenzi kanye nobudlelwano.
5. Lapho izindleko zidlula imiphumela
Abantu abanamandla babala ubungozi obuhambisana nokufinyelela umgomo. Baqapha izindleko futhi bahambe ngokushesha lapho izindleko zeqa umholo. Lokhu akusebenzi kuphela mayelana nomsebenzi. Uma utshala imali ebudlelwaneni (ebunganeni noma othandweni) kakhulu kunalokho okutholayo, cabanga ukuthi uyazidinga yini? Futhi uma inhloso yakho ithatha impilo, imali nobudlelwano, idinga ukubhekwa kabusha.
Usenza kanjani isinqumo sokuyeka lokho okuqalile?
Isinqumo esinjalo akulula. Akufanele kuthathwe ngokushesha. Khumbula ukuthi ukukhathala nokudumala akusona isizathu sokuyeka lokho okuqalile. Hlaziya okuhle nokubi kokukhetha kwakho. Noma ngabe yini oyinqumayo, khumbula ukuthi ukuma akukhona ukunqotshwa, kodwa wushintsho kuphela lwamaqhinga nesiqondiso.