Okuqukethwe
UJessica: Ukhulelwe, umama kaJules, 11, Elsa, 9, noRoman, 3 nengxenye.
"Ngiyamchazela ukuthi ngeke sishade."
“Indodana yami isendaweni ye-Oedipus ngokuphelele! U-Roman uneminyaka emithathu nengxenye ubudala. Nsuku zonke, ungibheka echichima uthando, aphathe ubuso bami ezandleni zakhe futhi angikhulume amazwi avuthayo. Ngiyisithandwa sempilo yakhe! Wenza izinhlelo zikaMacavellian zokuthi ngimshade. Ngokwesibonelo, ngesonto eledlule bengisendaweni yokudlela kanye nomfowabo omdala. Wabuka uweta (emuhle kakhulu) isikhashana wathi: ” Awu bheka, muhle. Ubaba angamshada. Uzoba lusizi. Kodwa kanjalo, singashada sobabili! "Noma, wathi kimi ngokujulile:" Ngikhulumile nobaba, uyavuma ukuthi sishade ndawonye, mina nawe. "Kusihlwa, lapho umyeni wami efika ekhaya, uRoman uyathuka: Kungani eza ekhaya? “. Nakuba empeleni, uyamthanda uyise, unamathele kakhulu kuye! Kodwa kuyiqiniso ukuthi ngami, kukhethekile.
Ami amabili amadala ayengafani
Angizange ngibhekane nento efanayo ngezingane zami ezimbili ezindala, intombazane nomfana. Babenezigaba “ezazinamathele” kancane kimi, kakhulu indodakazi yami kunendodana yami endala, kodwa hhayi ngaphezu kwalokho. Mina ngokwami, angikhumbuli “ngenza i-Oedipus” ngisemncane nobaba. Noma nomama! Ngikhumbula ngangiphelelwe yithemba lokuthi siyoke sihlukane. Ngamcela ukuthi angishade ukuze sihlale ndawonye. Lapho indodana yami ingitshela ukuthi ifuna ngibe unkosikazi wayo, futhi ifuna ukuqabulwa emlonyeni, ngicabanga ukuthi muhle kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngisabela ekuqabuleni kwakhe ngokushaya kancane, kuyilapho ngimchazela ukuthi ngeke sakwazi ukushada. Ngimtshela ukuthi sengingumfazi kababa wakhe. Noma ukuthi omama abakwazi ukushada nezingane zabo, njengaseculweni likaPeau d'âne. Kodwa ngiyabona ukuthi ngiyayiphula inhliziyo yakhe ngokumtshela lokho. Kunzima !
URoman useyingane enkulu!
Uma sindawonye njengomndeni uRoman unginikeza isitatimende esishisayo noma ngimqabule, kungene umyeni wami. Kuyamcasula noma kunjalo, azitshele ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthi cha. Kodwa ekujuleni, sobabili siyazi ukuthi ngeke kuhlale. Mina, noma kunjalo, anginendaba ngempela. Ngilindele ingane yami yesine. Ngisenyangeni yokugcina ngikhulelwe. Asazi noma kuzoba umfana noma intombazane. Ngiyazi ukuthi lokhu kubangela ukukhathazeka okukhulu ezinganeni. Engikubonayo nje ukuthi indodana yami ikhula kahle: ifunda isikole, isithole abangani abaningi. Yisigaba, akuzona zonke izingane ezidlula kuso, kodwa kimi, kuseyingane enkulu! ” l
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UMarina: Umama kaJuliana, 14, Tina, 10, Ethan, 8, noLéane, 1.
" No-Ethan, sahlangana ngokushesha."
“Sisephakathi ne-Oedipus, lapho indodana yami ineminyaka engu-8 ubudala! Lapho, usanda kubuya ensimini nembali wanginika yona, ethi “Ungangishada ?“Manje ngiphendula ngihleka futhi uyaqonda ukuthi ngeke kwenzeke. Kodwa lokhu bekungenjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi! I-Oedipus complex yaqala cishe iminyaka emi-2 nengxenye futhi yayinamandla ngempela. Ngokushesha nje lapho esekwazi ukukhuluma kancane, u-Ethan, ingane yami yesithathu (nomfana wokuqala) wangitshela ukuthi uyangithanda. Ngaba nelungelo lokuthi “Mama, ngiyakuthanda”, bese kuthi ngokushesha “Mama, ungumkami”. Wanginika izindandatho ayezozibheka ebucwebeni bami ukuze abonise uthando lwakhe kimi. Udonse izinhliziyo ngayo yonke into: ushizi wakhe, ujamu… waze waze wasika amapanikuku ngendlela yezinhliziyo anginika yona. Ngakuthola kukuhle kakhulu esemncane. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi lolu thando olukhulu enganginalo ngaye lwaluhlangene, ngakho angizange ngiwubone umonakalo. Ngamtshela ukuthi nami ngiyamthanda, kodwa ngase ngishade noyise. Aphendule athi “Kulungile mama, ngingakwaba”.
Utshela uyise ukuthi ngingumfazi wakhe
U-Ethan wayehlale etshela odadewabo noyise ukuthi ngingumfazi wakhe. Kwamhlekisa umyeni wami owathi: “Kuyiqiniso, besengivele ngabelana ngawe nomama kusukela wazalwa, ukuze siqhubeke!”Futhi kuyiqiniso, selokhu yazalwa, sisondelene kakhulu. Yingoba ngashonelwa ingane yami yokuqala yomfana nginezinyanga eziyisi-6 ngikhulelwe? Lapho ngazi ukuthi ngangilindele umfana ngemva kwamadodakazi ami amabili, ngafaka i-ultrasound. Ngangimbeke eduze kombhede wami futhi ngikhuluma naye nsuku zonke. Lapho ezalwa, sahlangana ngokushesha. Ngamncelisa iminyaka engu-3 nohhafu futhi "savumelana" waze waba nezinyanga ezingu-18 ubudala. Ubengalali kumatilasi kodwa elele mina. Bengiwumatilasi wakhe! U-Ethan wangithinta isisu, amabele ami, wayedinga ukuthintwa ngokomzimba ukuze aziqinise. Umyeni wami ukuthole kukuhle kakhulu, uyazwisisa. Wancamela ukulala kusofa wegumbi lokuphumula lapho u-Ethan esembhedeni wethu. Ngenhlanhla, u-Ethan walala yedwa, ngingajoyina umyeni wami ukuze sibe nobusuku phakathi kwezithandani.
Ngonyaka odlule nginendodakazi, phew!
U-Ethan wayengaba nenkinga uma engakwazi ukuhamba nami lapho ngiphuma. Ababehamba nabo bathole ukuthi wayebambeke kakhulu, ukuthi kwakungekuhle ekukhuleni kwakhe. Ngangingazi ngempela. Ngikhulele emndenini wabantu abayisithupha nabafowethu ababili okumanje banamathele kumama: omunye uhlala naye, omunye udla khona, yize benemindeni! Ngiyabona ukuthi lolu thando oluhlanganisayo alubasizi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngakho ngachazela u-Ethan ukuthi wayezolala embhedeni wakhe kusukela manje kuqhubeke. Ngamtshela nokuthi indawo kababa isembhedeni wakhe, nomama. Waqonda ngokushesha futhi waphila kahle. Ekungeneni kwesikole, waba nobuthongo obuthile futhi wayesafuna ukuba khona kwami ebusuku. Ngakho ngangimbuyisela embhedeni wakhe futhi abuye alale. Ngonyaka odlule ngathola ingane yentombazane. Ngakhululeka ngokungabi nomfana. Iqine kakhulu nendodana yami! U-Ethan uqala ukucabanga ngokuba nentombi ngelinye ilanga. Kodwa futhi uyachaza ukuthi uzohlala eduze kwethu, ukuze ngibheke izingane zakhe (mina ngingumsizi wasenkulisa) futhi ngiziphekele! Njengokuthi, akukaqedwa ngokuphelele! ” l
U-Angélique: Umama kaBrayan, 5, noKeyssie, 3.
"Lapho sigona, izingane zethu ziyasihlukanisa."
“Nginezingane ezimbili, intombazane nomfana. Futhi yilowo nalowo wenza i-Oedipus yakhe kanye nobaba kanye nami. Indodakazi yami eneminyaka emi-3 inkosazana encane kababa wayo. Uhlala eduze kwakhe etafuleni kuphela. Uyamupha ukudla, kungenjalo ngeke agwinye lutho, njengengane encane! Uthi ubaba wakhe uyisithandwa sakhe. Njengoba ngezinye izikhathi ehlushwa i-migraines, umlungiselela izimbiza ezincane nge-dinette yakhe, ezama ukumelapha, noma abeke izandla zakhe ezincane ebunzini lakhe… Kuhle kakhulu!
Akungikhathazi, nakuba ngazi ukuthi akufanele kuhlale isikhathi eside!
Indodana yami yenza okufanayo nakimi. Uchitha isikhathi sakhe engilandela: ekhishini, ungilungisela ikhofi, ugeza izitsha noma ungisize ngilungiselele ukudla. Njalo ngemizuzu emi-5, ungitshela ukuthi uyangithanda futhi kufanele ngiphendule "nami", ngaphandle kwalokho uyathukuthela! Ngolunye usuku wangitshela ngokungagwegwesi: “Awuyena umkababa, ungumkami!” Sobabili sisondelene kakhulu. Lapho ngisewodini lababelethayo ngibeletha udadewabo omncane, ngaphatheka kabi kakhulu ukuba kude naye. Siyaqala ngqa ukuthi sihlukaniswe isikhathi eside kangaka: izinsuku ezi-5! Ngangiguliswa yiyo! Ukubona izingane zethu zinamathele kithi ngokuphelele futhi zisothandweni, kuyasihlekisa nomngane wami. Sithatha njengehlaya futhi sihamba endleleni yezingane. Akungikhathazi, nakuba ngazi ukuthi akufanele kuhlale isikhathi eside. Ekugcineni, mhlawumbe anginandaba ngoba kwakufana nobaba ngisemncane. Ngangiyinkosazana encane kababa wakhe. Ubaba waya olwandle amasonto amabili e-English Channel. Ngaleso sikhathi, ngalala nomama. Wathi ebuya umama waphuma embhedeni ngoba ngifuna ukulala naye! Kamuva badivosa futhi ubaba wangithola. Ngavele ngacasuka kakhulu naye. Ngaphambi kokuhlangana nobaba wezingane zami, ngangiphuma ngoLwesihlanu nobaba. Sasinendawo yokudlela noma yasesinema. Ngezinye izikhathi abantu babesithatha njengendoda nomfazi. Kwasenza sahleka.
Sigcine sesitshala imali kumbhede wamamitha angu-2
Ebusuku, isikhathi eside, indodana yethu yayilala nathi. Njengoba sasinombhede omncane, ukuze silale kangcono, umngane wami waya esofeni. Sabe sesigcina ngokutshala imali embhedeni ophindwe kabili wamamitha amabili. Ngokuvamile indodakazi yami ilala nathi. Agone uyise. Emini, lapho sigona noyise, izingane zethu ziyangenela ukuze zisehlukanise! Indodakazi yami ithatha umngane wami futhi indodana yami ingibuyisela emuva. Abakwazi ukuma! Noma kunjalo, bobabili banezithandwa ezincane esikoleni, kodwa umama nobaba bangokunye. Kancane njengami nobaba wami! Kuyinto ekhethekile! Kwesinye isikhathi, ngingathanda ukuthi lokhu kunamathisela okuqinile kunciphe, ngiphefumule kancane futhi ngikwazi ukwenza izinto nomlingani wami, ukuthola impilo yethu njengombhangqwana. ” l
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