Ubusha yisikhathi lapho umfana omncane (intombazane) ethola ubulili. Lokho (yena) akuthandayo, imizwa yomzimba wakhe, nokushaya indlwabu kungenye yazo. Abazali abangena egumbini labo lokulala noma endlini yangasese ngaphandle kokungqongqoza kuzofanele bacabange kabusha imikhuba yabo, njengoba le ntsha ifuna ubumfihlo. Kujwayelekile ukuthi kule minyaka, bacabange ngayo, bahlole, futhi babelane ngolwazi ngezocansi.

Sekungamakhulu eminyaka kushaywa indlwabu yimfundo yezenkolo. Noma yini ehlobene ngqo nezocansi, kufaka phakathi ukushaya indlwabu, kwakuthathwa njengokungcola futhi kungavunyelwe ngaphandle komshado. Isenzo socansi sasilungele ukuzala, kepha igama elithi injabulo lalingeyona ingxenye yethemu.

Ukukhululwa ngocansi ngoMeyi 68 kukhulule imizimba nokushaya indlwabu kwaphinde kwaba umkhuba wemvelo, wokutholakala komzimba nowezocansi. Okwabesifazane nabesilisa. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula lokhu ngoba eminyakeni yamuva nje ubumnandi besifazane bebubekwe eceleni.

Amakilasi okufundisa ngocansi esikoleni anikeza imininingwane emfushane kakhulu. "Sikhuluma ngokuzala, izitho zangasese, ukwakheka komzimba, kodwa ezocansi ziningi kakhulu" kucacisa u-Andrea Cauchoix, umqeqeshi wothando. Intsha ngakho-ke izithola ishintshana ngemininingwane efihliwe evame ukuthathwa kumafilimu ezithombe zocansi ezingavusi ubumnandi, uthando, inhlonipho ngomlingani wazo.

"Kuyo yonke iminyaka, akulula ukukhuluma ngezocansi nabazali bakho, noma kuncane kakhulu ebusheni". Abazali banendima okufanele bayidlale kuqala kusukela ebuntwaneni. Lapho umfana noma intombazanyana iqala “ukuthinta” futhi (yona) ithola ukuthi ezinye izindawo zimnandi kunezinye. “Ngaphezu kwakho konke, akufanele ubavimbe noma ubatshele ukuthi kungcolile. Ngokuphambene nalokho, kuwubufakazi bempilo enhle yengqondo nentuthuko. Ngeminyaka engu-4/5 ubudala, bayakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi kufanele kwenziwe lapho bebodwa ”. Izingane zingasheshe zicabange ukushaya indlwabu njengento enqatshelwe futhi engeyinhle uma zithukwa.

"Ngaphandle kokugxambukela kakhulu, abazali bangavele bakhombise osemusha ukuthi uma enemibuzo noma izinkinga, bazimisele ukukhuluma ngakho." Lo musho olula ungakhombisa ukushaya indlwabu futhi ukhombise ukuthi le ndaba akuyona into engafanele.

Amafilimu e- "American pie" ayisibonelo esihle sikababa ozama ukuxoxisana nentsha yakhe esebenzisa ophaya bama-apula ukushaya indlwabu. Unamahloni kakhulu lapho uyise eletha lolu daba, kepha lapho esekhulile uyabona ukuthi wayenenhlanhla engakanani yokuba nobaba olalele.

Uma uthayipha amagama angukhiye indlwabu yentombazane ezinjinini zokusesha, ngeshwa izingosi zezithombe zocansi zivela kuqala.

Noma kunjalo, izincwadi zezingane zinikeza imisebenzi ethokozisayo. Kwabangaphambi kwentsha, "umhlahlandlela we-zizi zocansi" uhlelo olusha olwenziwe nguHélène Bruller noZep, umklami we- "Titeuf" odumile uyinkomba, ehlekisayo futhi efundisayo. Kodwa kukhona ne "Sexperience" ka-IsabelleFILLIOZAT noMargot FRIED-FILLIOZAT, Le Grand Livre de la puberty nguCatherine SOLANO, The Sexuality of Girls Explained to Dummies kaMarie Golotte nabanye abaningi.

Lesi senzo esizungeze ukushaya indlwabu kwabesifazane kuqhuba ukungazi kwamantombazane amancane maqondana nemizimba yawo. Kukhawulela injabulo ebudlelwaneni bezocansi nomlingani, futhi amantombazane asakhula athola injabulo ngalokhu kuphela. Isitho sangasese, i-clitoris, indunu, isitho sangasese sowesifazane, njll. Wonke lawa magama kukhulunywa ngawo kuphela phakathi nesikhathi, noma ukubonisana nodokotela wezifo zabesifazane. Kuthiwani ngobumnandi ngaphandle kwakho konke lokho?

Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi iningi labesifazane lishaya indlwabu. Lokhu kuyinto ejwayelekile ngokuphelele futhi akuyona neze i-wacky.

Ngokocwaningo lwe-IFOP, olwenzelwe lo magazini Ubumnandi besifazane, nabesifazane abangu-913, abaneminyaka engu-18 nangaphezulu. U-74% walabo ababuzwa ngo-2017 bathi basebevele beshaya indlwabu.

Ngokuqhathanisa, yi-19% kuphela esho into efanayo ngama-70s.

Ngasohlangothini lwabesilisa, ama-73% wamadoda amemezela phambilini ukuthi asevele ethintekile kuma-95% namuhla.

Cishe abesifazane abangama-41% baseFrance bathi bashaye indlwabu okungenani kanye ezinyangeni ezintathu ezandulele ucwaningo. Ku-19%, bagcina ukwedlula unyaka owedlule kanti ama-25% athi abakaze baphatheke empilweni yabo.

Ucwaningo olungajwayelekile, olukhombisa ukuthi ulwazi lubaluleke kangakanani emantombazaneni amancane ukuze kuphakanyiswe umkhuba, osekhona namanje, ngokushaya indlwabu kwabesifazane.