Okuqukethwe
Siphila enkathini yokuphumelela — I-inthanethi nenkulumo ecwebezelayo yokuthi ungazibekela kanjani imigomo, unqobe ubunzima futhi unqobe izinga eliphezulu lempumelelo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, esinye sezigaba ezibalulekile endleleni eya ekuphileni okungcono sibhekwa njengokuphuma endaweni yokunethezeka. Kodwa ingabe kuyiqiniso ukuthi sonke sikuwo? Futhi ingabe kuyadingeka ngempela ukuyishiya?
Ubani ongakaze ajahe kwenye ucingo ukuze aphume endaweni yakhe yokunethezeka? Kulapho, ngale kwemingcele yayo, lapho impumelelo isilindele, abaqeqeshi kanye nosomabhizinisi abanolwazi bayaqinisekisa. Ngokwenza into engavamile futhi ecindezelayo, sithuthukisa futhi sizuze amakhono amasha nolwazi. Nokho, akuwona wonke umuntu ofuna ukuba sesimweni sokukhula njalo, futhi lokhu kuvamile.
Uma isigqi nokushintshana kwezinkanuko ezinezikhathi ezolile empilweni yakho kukhululekile kuwe futhi awufuni izinguquko, khona-ke iseluleko sabanye abantu sokushintsha okuthile, "kunyakazise" futhi "ube umuntu omusha" okungenani singenangqondo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abagqugquzeli nabeluleki bavame ukukhohlwa ukuthi indawo yokunethezeka yawo wonke umuntu ihlukile futhi indlela yokuphuma kuyo incike ekutheni uyini umlingiswa womuntu. Futhi-ke, ukuthi umelana kangakanani nokucindezeleka.
Isibonelo, kumuntu isinyathelo esikhulu sokuzinqoba siwukudlala esiteji phambi kwehholo eligcwele labalaleli, kanti komunye umuntu, umsebenzi wangempela ukuphendukela kumuntu odlulayo emgwaqweni ukuze athole usizo. Uma "isenzo" esisodwa sizogijima eduze kwendlu, khona-ke okwesibili kubamba iqhaza ku-marathon. Ngakho-ke, isimiso sokuthi "vele uthole futhi ukwenze" sisebenza kuwo wonke umuntu ngezindlela ezahlukene.
Imibuzo emibili kimina
Uma usacabanga ngokushiya indawo yakho yokunethezeka, kufanele uhlole ukuthi uludinga ngempela yini ushintsho.
Ukuze wenze lokhu, phendula imibuzo ebalulekile:
- Ingabe lesi yisikhathi esifanele? Vele, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ulungele okuthile okusha ngo-XNUMX%. Kodwa ungazama "ukubeka utshani" futhi wenze kube lula ukuphuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka - ngoba uma ungakulungele ngokuphelele isinyathelo esihlosiwe, khona-ke amathuba okuhluleka aphezulu.
- Ingabe uyayidinga? Zama okuthile okusha lapho ufuna ngempela. Futhi hhayi lapho abangani bekuphusha, futhi hhayi ngoba bonke abangani bakho sebekwenzile noma i-blogger eyaziwayo ikuncomile. Uma izilimi zakwamanye amazwe zinzima kuwe futhi azidingeki emsebenzini nempilo ngokujwayelekile, akufanele uchithe amandla akho, izinzwa, isikhathi nemali ngokuzifunda.
Qaphela nje ukuthi ungakohli futhi uthi «angikudingi lokhu» mayelana nokuthile okubonakala kunzima. Ngokwesibonelo, awuqiniseki ukuthi usukulungele ukuya ephathini yomngane wakho, lapho kuzoba nabantu abaningi ongabazi. Yini ekuvimbela ukuthi ungenzi izinto ezingaphandle kwendawo yakho yokunethezeka: ukwesaba noma ukungabi nasithakazelo?
Thola impendulo usebenzisa isu lerabha: cabanga ukuthi unesisuli esiwumlingo esingasula ukukhathazeka kwakho. Kwenzekani uma uyisebenzisa? Kungenzeka ukuthi, ngokwengqondo ususa ukwesaba, uzobona ukuthi usafuna ukufeza uhlelo lwakho.
Sihamba kuphi?
Lapho sishiya indawo yethu yokunethezeka, sizithola sikwenye indawo - futhi lena akuyona neze "indawo lapho izimangaliso zenzeka khona." Lokhu, mhlawumbe, kuyiphutha elivamile: abantu bacabanga ukuthi kwanele nje "ukuphuma" endaweni ethile, futhi konke kuzohamba kahle. Kodwa ngaphandle kwendawo yokunethezeka kunezinye izindawo ezimbili eziphambene komunye nomunye: indawo yokwelula (noma ukukhula) kanye nendawo yokwethuka.
Indawo yokwelula
Yilapho izinga eliphelele lokungakhululeki libusa khona: sibhekana nokukhathazeka okuthile, kodwa singakucubungula kube ugqozi futhi sithole uphethiloli wokukhiqiza. Kule ndawo, sithola amathuba ebekade singawajwayele, futhi asiholela ekukhuleni komuntu siqu nasekuzithuthukiseni.
Kukhona futhi nomqondo ohlukile owethulwa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uLev Vygotsky wokufundisa izingane: indawo yokukhula okusondelene. Kusho ukuthi ngaphandle kwendawo yokunethezeka, sithatha kuphela lokho esingakwenza ngenethi yokuphepha yomuntu onolwazi olunzulu kuze kube yilapho sesikwazi ukwenza kahle ngokwethu. Ngenxa yaleli su, sifunda izinto ezintsha ngaphandle kwengcindezi, singalahlekelwa isifiso sokufunda, sibone intuthuko yethu futhi sizizwe siqiniseka ngokwengeziwe.
indawo yovalo
Kuzokwenzekani uma sizikhipha endaweni yokunethezeka ngaphandle kwezinsiza ezanele - zangaphakathi noma zangaphandle? Sizozithola sisendaweni lapho izinga lokukhathazeka lidlula ikhono lethu lokubhekana nakho.
Isibonelo esijwayelekile isifiso esizenzakalelayo sokushintsha ngokuphelele futhi uqale impilo entsha lapha namanje. Siwacabangela ngokweqile amakhono ethu futhi asisakwazi ukulawula isimo, ngakho-ke siphoxekile futhi sizizwa sikhungathekile. Isu elinjalo aliholeli ekukhuleni komuntu siqu, kodwa ekuhlehleni.
Ngakho-ke, ukuze ugweme ukucindezeleka okungadingekile, ngaphambi kokwenza into entsha ne-atypical kithi, udinga ukulalela ngokucophelela futhi uhlole ukuthi isikhathi sesifikile ngempela salokhu.