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Ukushaya manje sekuvunyelwe!
Kusukela mhla zingama-22 kuZibandlela wezi-2016, ukushaya kwenqatshelwe ngokusemthethweni e-France, njenganoma yisiphi isijeziso sokushaywa. Ukuvinjelwa okwafunwa uMkhandlu WaseYurophu, owagxeka iFrance “ngokunganikezi ukuvinjelwa okucacile, okubophayo nokunembe ekujezisweni komzimba.” Kuye kwenziwa-ke! Uma leli voti seliphuzile, kungenxa yokuthi amaFulentshi, ngobuningi bawo, ayephikisana nalo: ngo-March 2015, ama-70% amaFulentshi ayephikisana nalokhu kuvinjelwa, noma ngabe ama-52% awo abheka ukuthi kwakungcono ukungayitholi. uyinike izingane (umthombo Le Figaro).
Ukushaya, isenzo esingasho lutho enganeni
Uma sibabuza, abanye omama bachaza ukuthi “ukushaywa njalo akukwazi ukulimaza » noma ngisho nokuthi: “Ngashaywa ngezimpani ngisemncane futhi azizange zingibulale”. U-Olivier Maurel, umbhali wencwadi ethi "Spanking, imibuzo ngodlame lwezemfundo", uphendula ngokucacile ukuthi "uma kuwukunikeza i-spaning encane, kungani? Ungakugwema futhi ukhethe enye indlela yemfundo ”. Kuye, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi impama encane, ngisho nakunabukeni, noma impama, “sisebudloveni obuncane futhi umphumela enganeni awuwona omncane. Ngempela, ngokusho kwakhe, "ukucindezeleka okukhiqizwa yi-tape kuthinta ngokuqondile impilo yengane ngokubangela ukuphazamiseka kokugaya ukudla njengesibonelo". Mayelana no-Olivier Maurel, « lokho okubizwa ngokuthi ama-mirror neurons obuchopho aqopha zonke izenzo ezitholwa nsuku zonke futhi lo mshini usilungiselela ukukuphinda sikukhiqize. Ngalokho uma ushaya ingane, uvula indlela yobudlova ebuchosheni bayo futhi ubuchopho bubhalisa. Futhi ingane izophinde ikhiqize lobu budlova esikhathini sayo ekuphileni kwayo. “.
Isiyalo Ngaphandle Kwesijeziso
Abanye abazali babheka ukushaya njengendlela “yokungalahlekelwa igunya phezu kwengane yabo.” UMonique de Kermadec, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yezingane, uyakukholelwa lokho “Ukushaya ngempama akuyifundisi lutho ingane. Abazali kufanele belulekwe ukuthi baqondise izigwegwe ngaphandle kokujeziswa ”. Ngempela, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sichaza “ukuthi ngisho noma umzali efinyelela esimweni esithile sokwethuka lapho ingane yeqa umkhawulo, kufanele agweme ukuthukuthela futhi ikakhulukazi angayishayi”. Esinye seseluleko sakhe siwukukhuluma ngomlomo noma ukujezisa ingane, uma kungenzeka, ukuze ihambisane nokusola. Ngoba, lapho umzali ephakamisa isandla, “ingane ithotshiswa yisenzo futhi umzali ulalelwa ngobudlova obulimaza izinga lobuhlobo babo”. Kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, umzali kufanele "afundise ngamazwi ngaphezu kwakho konke". Igunya labazali ngeke lisekelwe odlameni uma kuphela umuntu omdala owenzayo. UMonique de Kermadec ukhumbula ukuthi uma “imfundo isekelwe ebudloveni, ingane izofuna le ndlela yokuhlinza, kuyoba nokwanda. Ingane iyibona kabi futhi izoba nesifiso sokuziphindiselela ”.
Indlela yokufundisa ephikisiwe
Omama abaningi bacabanga ukuthi “ukushaywa akukaze kube buhlungu”. Yilolu hlobo lokugomela ukuthi ososeshini abaningi sebeneminyaka eminingana belwa. Ngo-2013, i-Children's Foundation yashaya kakhulu ngomkhankaso owawubizwa ngokuthi. Le filimu emfushane ebeka ingcaca yayibonisa umama owayedinwe eshaya indodana yakhe ngempama. Ithwetshulwe ngokunensa, umphumela wandisa umthelela nokuguqulwa kobuso bengane.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, inhlangano i-l'Enfant Bleu yanyathelisa ngoFebhuwari 2015 imiphumela yeqembu elikhulu. uphenyo lokuhlukumeza. Bangaphezu koyedwa kwabayi-10 abantu baseFrance abazothintwa udlame olungokomzimba, i-14% imemezele ukuthi izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, ngokocansi noma ngokwengqondo besebancane futhi abangama-45% basola okungenani icala elilodwa endaweni abahlala kuyo (umndeni, omakhelwane, ozakwabo, abasondelene nabo). abangani). Ngo-2010, i-INSERM yakhumbula ukuthi emazweni athuthukile njengeFrance, izingane ezimbili ziyafa nsuku zonke kulandela ukuphathwa kabi.
Ukwazi :
“Ukushaywa, okunikezwa ngesandla esingaphethe lutho njengoba manje kunikezwa izingane, kwaqala okungenani ekhulwini le-18. Khona-ke, ngekhulu le-19 futhi ikakhulukazi ekhulwini le-19, cishe kwakuwumkhuba ongokwengeziwe womkhaya. Ezikoleni sishaya ikakhulukazi ngezinduku, futhi, ekuqaleni, i-Historical Dictionary yolimi lwesiFulentshi ka-Alain Rey (Robert) icacisa ukuthi igama elithi "ukushaya" aliveli ezinqeni, kodwa lisuka elithi "fascia", okungukuthi yithi “inqwaba” (yamagatsha noma izinti zezinti). Kwaba kamuva nje, mhlawumbe ekuqaleni kwekhulu lesi-XNUMX, lapho kwenzeka khona ukudideka negama elithi “isinqe”, yingakho kwaba yisipesheli: “imivimbo enikezwa ezinqeni”. Ngaphambili, kubonakala sengathi ukushaywa kwanikezwa okwengeziwe ngemuva. Emindenini, kusukela ngekhulu lesi-XNUMX, ukusetshenziswa kwe-swift bekuvame kakhulu. Kodwa futhi sishaya ngezinkezo zokhuni, amabhulashi nezicathulo ”. (Ingxoxo ka-Olivier Maurel).