Sivame ukuhlobanisa uthando nocansi. Kodwa ingabe injabulo yobulili nombhangqwana ahlukene ngempela? Kungenzeka yini ukuzijabulisa nomuntu ongathandani naye? Impendulo ngamaphuzu ambalwa.

Lapho sisothandweni, imizwa yethu nemizwa yethu akufani. Sivame ukuzwa imizwa yethu ngendlela ejulile, futhi sijabulele lokho esikuzwa ngokugcwele. Futhi lokhu kusebenza nasocansini. Ngakho-ke, i-orgasm ehlotshaniswa nomuzwa wothando kungenzeka ibe namandla kakhulu, ngenxa yokuhlanganiswa kwemizwa. Imingcele eminingana yengezwa kulokhu: uma usothandweni, uyazi ukuthi uyathandwa futhi uyafunwa. Lokhu kwandisa ukuzethemba kwethu, futhi kusivumela ukuba sikhululeke kakhudlwana lapho siya ocansini. Ngokufanayo, isifiso sethu sihambisana nothando esinalo ngomlingani wethu. Ngakho, ukujabulisa omunye ngokobulili kuyasijabulisa nathi, futhi injabulo yanda ngokuphindwe kashumi.

Ucansi olwenziwa ngaphakathi kohlaka lobudlelwano bezithandani bunezinzuzo ezimbalwa ezibalulekile. Okokuqala, ukusondelana kobudlelwane bothando kukuvumela ukuba uzizwe ukhululekile, unesibindi sokukhuluma ngezifiso zakho, amaphupho akho noma ngokuphambene nalokho ukungabaza noma ukwesaba kwakho. Uma usothandweni, uzizwa uqiniseka ngomlingani wakho. Ngakho, kubonakala kunengqondo ukuthi lesi sisekelo sivumela ubuhlobo bobulili obungcono kunalapho umuntu engahlanganyeli ukuphila komlingani wakhe. Ebudlelwaneni bakho, inkhulumomphendvulwano iyakhululwa, futhi ungathola kalula ulwazi olusha, ukuveza amaphupho akho komunye, noma umcele ukuthi ahlole imikhuba ethile yocansi noma izikhundla.

Njengoba sesibonile, lapho usothandweni, uzizwa ukhululeke kakhudlwana. Futhi lokhu kusondela kunezinye izinzuzo. Ngempela, ubuhlobo obude bukuvumela ukuba wazi kangcono umlingani wakho, umzimba wakhe kanye nezifiso zakhe. Futhi kulula ukwenza umuntu afinyelele ku-orgasm uma uwazi kahle umzimba wakho nokuthi usabela kanjani. Ngakho-ke, unethuba eliningi lokuphumelela ekwenzeni umlingani wakho eze ku-orgasm kunomuntu ongamazi: usuyazi ukuthi yiziphi izikhundla okufanele uzithathe, lapho uqondisa khona ama-caresses akho, yisiphi isigqi ozosithatha, indlela yokuqabula, njll. Lolu lwazi lomunye, izifiso zabo kanye nemizimba yabo kungakusiza uqondise umlingani wakho emvuthwandaba ngokushesha kunomuntu ongajwayele ukuba nobudlelwano naye.

Nokho abanye abantu abasiboni isidingo sokuba nemizwa ngophathina babo ukuze baneliseke ngokocansi. Ungalujabulela ngokuphelele ucansi ngaphandle kokuba sothandweni. Lokhu kunjalo "ngabangane bobulili" isibonelo, njengoba sibiza labo bantu abangabangane nsuku zonke, kodwa abalala ndawonye ngezikhathi ezithile. Lapha, abalingani ababili babelana ngokuhambisana nokusondelana ngenxa yobungane babo, kodwa abakhulumi ngokuqinile othandweni. Okubalulekile ukuthi uzizwe ukahle, ukhululeke futhi uzizwe ufisa omunye! Lolu hlobo lobudlelwano, olukhululekile futhi olukhululekile emizweni, lungakuvumela ukuthi uzizwe uzimele, futhi uyeke ubusuku obunye, noma ngaphezulu.

Njengoba sesibonile, uthando nemizwa akuhlukaniseki. Kwabanye, ucansi alubi ngcono uma lwenziwa njengombhangqwana. Futhi ngesizathu esihle: umuntu ngamunye uhlukile, futhi isifiso sobulili asakhiwe ngendlela efanayo kuwo wonke umuntu. Uma umbhangqwana uhlinzeka ngohlaka lokwethembana nokusondelana okuqinisekisayo kwabanye, abanye bazokujabulela kakhulu ubudlelwano bomuntu oyedwa, noma nabantu abangabazi noma abazi okuncane ngabo. Ngokufanayo, ukuba sothandweni akusho ngempela ukuba sebudlelwaneni. Okubalulekile wukuzizwa ukhululekile nophathina wakho, ukwazi ukuveza injabulo yakho kanye nokuthola uhlobo lobudlelwano obukufanelayo.