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Uthando lokuqala enkulisa
Ngokwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esidumile sase-Italy uFrancesco Alberoni, izingane zisengozini enkulu yokuthandana phakathi nezinguquko ezinkulu ekuphileni kwazo. Lapho beqala inkulisa cishe iminyaka emi-3 ubudala, bavame ukuzwa imizwelo yabo yokuqala. Esikoleni samabanga aphansi, bangathola umuzwa wangempela wothando. Kuyabasiza ngesikhathi esithile ukuba bazizwe bebalulekile kwenye ingane, untanga oyisiza ukuba yamukeleke kwabanye. Njengokungathi isithandwa esincane “sasingumhlahlandlela”, “usekelo” lokudlulela kwenye indawo yonke.
Ungahleki uma uthola ukuthi kuyahlekisa noma kungaphezulu. Ezinye izingane zigcizelela kakhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungamphileli impilo yakhe yothando ngokuphakamisa ukuthi anikeze isipho soSuku Lwezithandani njengesibonelo! Makaphathe lokho osekungowezinkampani ezizimele!
Unamachobozi angempela
Izingane zinemizwa ejulile ngamaqabane athile. Bane-athomu ehlanganisiwe, kusobala futhi ngezinye izikhathi bazizwa bechotshozwa ngempela. Ngakho-ke badala "umbhangqwana" ongcono, imidlalo, ukuqhuma kokuhleka, futhi okubi kakhulu, ukubhekana nabanye, ukuhlanganisa eqenjini, hhayi ukuhlukaniswa. Kodwa yithina, abantu abadala, esivame ukubhekana nokuziphatha kwethu okuhle kubo ngokuzithoba embuzweni oyingozi: "Ngakho-ke, ingabe unaso isithandwa esincane?" “.
Ungamphusha ngokumbuza njalo emva kwemizuzu emi-5 ukuthi usemathandweni. Ezinye izingane azinayo noma zikhetha ukuzigcina kuzo. Akufanele azizwe sengathi kuyisibopho, noma okubi nakakhulu, ukuthi “uyinqaba” ngoba akanayo.
Agqolozele umngani wakhe
Okuwukuphela komngane amfunayo - aze amukele - ukumema u-Eléonore, "ngoba muhle futhi uyamthanda futhi uzomshada". Uma ngebhadi engekho ngolunye usuku esikoleni, uphatheke kabi futhi azihlukanise. Kuwukuthatheka kwangempela, okungacishe kukuthuse! Izingane, ngisho zincane kakhulu, zingathanda ngendlela ephelele nephelele. Bangakwazi ukuzwa uthando lwangempela ngemizwa yabo kanye nokudumazeka. Nokho kuhlukile othandweni phakathi kwabantu abadala njengoba ingane ingenalo ikusasa layo esandleni futhi incike ngokomzwelo nangokwezinto ezibonakalayo kubazali bayo.
Ungazami ukumehlukanisa ne-alter ego yakhe. Lobu budlelwano bubalulekile kuye, ngisho noma bubonakala bukhethekile kakhulu kuwe. Kodwa-ke, ingozi kulolu hlobo "lombhangqwana" ukuhlukana okuzokwenzeka nakanjani ngesikhathi esisodwa, isibonelo ngesikhathi sokushintsha esikoleni noma ekilasini. Okuhle ukuwulungisa kancane kancane. Ngokumema amanye ama-comrades, ngokwenza imisebenzi enqanyuliwe ngokuphelele, njengeklabhu yezemidlalo omunye angayi kuyo.
Unezithandwa eziningi
Namuhla sekunguMargot the Brunette, kanti izolo bekungu-Alicia nezinwele zakhe ezinde zenkosazana eziblond. Indodana yakho ishintsha izithandwa ngaso sonke isikhathi kodwa nokho ibonakala ithathekile ngaso sonke isikhathi! Ukuthi kulesi sikhathi sobudala sibala izikhathi ezintathu. Angaba nothando oluqothulayo no-Alicia “omuhle njengenkosazana” futhi kungazelelwe akhangwe uMargot ngoba wenza naye umhlangano wokucobelela imidwebo futhi owamanje uyahamba. Khumbula ukuthi impilo inesibopho sokuhlukanisa njalo izingane zaleyo minyaka (ukunyakaza, ukwehlukana, izinguquko zekilasi). Kungcono "ukwazi" ukuthi ungashintsha kanjani! Lokhu akuphathi kahle ikusasa. Kudingeka ngempela ukugwema ukumvalela othandweni oluqoshwe etsheni. Futhi ukubheja okuphephile ukuthi isithandwa sakho sikaDon Juan esineminyaka engu-4 ngeke sibe umalokazana wakho!
Ubuhlungu benhliziyo yokuqala yengane yami
Ubuhlungu benhliziyo bokuqala eneminyaka engu-5 ubudala. Ubungakulindele! Nokho kuyiqiniso impela. Umncane wakho unomuzwa wangempela wokulahlwa nesizungu. Izingane ngokuvamile ziyakwazi ukwenza lokho okwenzeka kuzo: “Ngiphatheke kabi ngoba angisamboni uMnqobi”. Abazali bangakwazi-ke ukunciphisa ukuhlukumezeka: “Sizommema ngempelasonto” kodwa kufanele baqinise ingane yabo eqinisweni, “Ngeke kube njengalapho usekilasini elilodwa”. Ungabunciphisi ubuhlungu benhliziyo ngoba ingane yakho izozizwa ihlekwa usulu. Akubona kunamandla kakhulu, ngisho noma kungadlula ngokushesha okukhulu. Futhi kungcono kakhulu! Hlonipha ingadi yakhe eyimfihlo uma edinga ubumfihlo, kodwa hlala ubukele. Ungakwazi futhi ukuvula inkhulumomphendvulwano ngokukhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho: “Ngesikhathi ngilingana nawe, u-Pierre wathutha phakathi nonyaka futhi ngangiphatheke kabi kakhulu. Ingabe yilokho okwenzeka kuwe? ”.
Usizakala ngomusa wakhe
Ngeke ukwazi ukuzibamba ungabheka enganeni yakho ukuthi izoba yini umuntu omdala. Ngakho-ke uma intombi yakhe imenza enze yonke into ayithandayo umbona esezithobile ebudlelwaneni bakhe. Ubudlelwano phakathi kwezingane ngokuvamile busekelwe ebudlelwaneni obubusayo/ obubusayo. Wonke umuntu kulobu budlelwano uthola abalingiswa abangenabo: ababusayo, umusa nobumnene, ababuswayo, amandla nesibindi, isibonelo. Bafunda okuningi kulobu budlelwano. Ibavumela ukuba bazibeke maqondana nabanye futhi bahlangabezane nezinye izindlela zokuba khona. Kungcono kakhulu ukuvumela ingane yakho ibe nomuzwa wayo ngenkathi igcina inkhulumomphendvulwano ivulekile. Angakwazi-ke ukukhuluma nawe ngalokho okungenzeka kumkhathazayo. Ngokuvamile, ngaphezu kwalokho, othisha banaka kakhulu ubudlelwano bothando noma ubungane izingane ezinabo futhi bayakuxwayisa uma zibona ukuthi ingane yakho iphazamisekile.
Udinga ukwesekwa nguwe
Abantu abadala bavame ukuzijabulisa ngalezi “zindaba zothando”. KuFrancesco Alberoni, bayakhohlwa imizwa enamandla okungenzeka baba nayo lapho besakhula, becabangela ukuthi uthando lwangaphambili alubalulekile kakhulu kunalolo lwanamuhla. Ngezinye izikhathi futhi ukuntuleka kwesikhathi noma inhlonipho yokuba ngasese abazali babo bengenaso noma banesithakazelo esincane kukho. Nokho ukushintshana kubalulekile. Ingane kufanele yazi ukuthi lokhu ekuzwayo kungokwemvelo, kungenzeka ukuthi nawe uke wabhekana nesimo esifanayo ngeminyaka yayo. Udinga ukubeka amazwi enhliziyweni yakhe encane eshaya kakhulu, emizweni engamedlula noma imethuse. Ufanelwe “ukwazi okunye”: ukwazi ukuthi uzokhula, azi ukuthi mhlawumbe kuzodlula, noma cha, ukwazi ukuthi mhlawumbe uzohlala ethandana naye noma uzohlangana nomunye. nokuthi unelungelo lokwenza njalo… Ungamtshela konke lokhu, ngoba ungumvektha ongcono kakhulu wesipiliyoni.