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U-ularsula Calvo: «Ukuzindla akuyekisi ukucabanga noma ukubeka ingqondo yakho kungenalutho»
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Isazi sokucabanga, u-Úrsula Calvo, uqeda izinkolelo zamanga ngokuzindla futhi achaze ukuthi kungasiza kanjani ekulweni nengcindezi.
U-ularsula Calvo utshela ukuthi wayehlala engusomabhizinisi ophumelelayo, kodwa lokho ngaphambi kokuqala ku ukucabanga empeleni ukuphila kwakhe “kwakungeyona impilo.” Ngemuva kokuhlushwa yimiphumela emibi yengcindezi emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakhe, wanquma ukungena ezweni le ukuzindla. Lokho kwakwenzeka eminyakeni engaphezu kwengu-15 eyedlule kanti manje usengumengameli weSpanish Association of Meditation and Mindfulness Instructors, kanye nomsunguli we-ularsula Calvo Center, lapho afundisa khona izinhlelo zokuphumelela nokulinganisela komuntu siqu nobungcweti. Ngezinkulumo zakhe nangezindatshana zakhe, ukhuthaza izinkulungwane zabantu ukuthi bathole amakhono abo futhi baphile impilo enempilo nenengqondo.
Yini ekwaziyo ukwenza ukucindezeleka, lokho esiphila nakho nsuku zonke futhi esikubona kujwayelekile?
El Ukucindezeleka kulimaza impilo futhi sekuvele kunamakhulu ezifundo ukukuqinisekisa. Kuyimbangela engaqondile yezifo eziningi zaseNtshonalanga ezifana nesifo senhliziyo noma isifo senhliziyo kubantu abasha; kusukela ezifweni eziwohlozayo, izifo ezithathelwanayo kanye nokuntuleka kokulala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukucindezeleka kuhlobene ngokungaqondile nezifo ezivuthayo noma umdlavuza. Kuyinto okufanele uyithathe ngokungathí sina.
Into eyodwa ibizwa ngokuthi ukucindezeleka okuhle, okuhlobene nokuphendula komzimba lapho ubhekene nengozi futhi lokho kungenxa yokuthi umuntu usinde ezintweni eziningi kusukela ekuqaleni kwesikhathi. Futhi into ehluke kakhulu yilokho esiphila manje. Ithole ngaphandle kwesandla. Kuleli zwe lokuncintisana nelingelona iqiniso, ingcindezi idala ukugula. Kungakho-ke kulula ukubona, ukubuka nokukhombisa ukuze sikwazi ukubona ukuthi yini ebangela ukucindezeleka.
Mayelana nezimbangela zengcindezi kunomqondo osebenza nawo kaningi futhi lokho ngukwamukelwa, ingabe kufanele ushiye phansi ukuze ungabi nengcindezi?
Abantu bayadideka ukwamukelwa us ukuyeka emsebenzini noma nge ukugcabha noma ngisho naye ukukhathazeka noma ngeqiniso lokuthi izinto azisho lutho kithi. Kepha kuphambene impela. Ukwamukela kuyindaba yomqondo ovamile kanye namaqiniso. Kusho ukuqaphela ukuthi lokho “osekuvele kukhona.” Futhi uma u- "vele ukhona" kusho ukuthi unezinketho ezimbili: kungaba ukuzibandakanya nayo kanye nokuphila futhi usebenzise noma yini evelayo ukuqhubekela phambili; noma uchithe impilo yakho yonke ulwa nayo wazi ukuthi uzolahlekelwa yi-XNUMX% yazo zonke izimpi. Ungaba nesahlulelo senani, kungabonakala kukuhle noma cha, kufanelekile noma cha, kulula noma cha… Kungukwahlulela kwakho, ngokombono wakho olinganiselwe, ngokwamandla akho obuhlakani kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwangaphambilini, kepha awunayo i-global or umbono ojwayelekile wokuphila. Kepha iqiniso lokuthi “Angiyizwa kodwa nami angikwazi ukuyishintsha” Kusho ukuthi angizukuchitha amandla ami, impilo yami kanye nekhwalithi yami yempilo ukulwa nento "esivele ikhona."
Kusukela kulokho kwamukelwa ngingasebenzisa amandla ami, inhloso yami, umzamo wami, umsebenzi wami kanye nempilo yami ukukuguqula lokho. Ukwamukela kuhlakaniphile, kepha sikholwa ukuthi uma ngamukela okuthile, ngizoba yi-amoeba. Akudingekile ukuthi ucabange ukuthi kuhle noma kubi yini, kepha kunalokho "sekuvele kunjalo." Okufanele ngikwenze ukuyeka ukusabela, ukukhononda, ukulwa ngeze ukuphendula ngendlela engcono kakhulu. Futhi lokhu kuyinto kakhulu kukhulula, inciphisa ukucindezeleka futhi inyuse izinga lempilo.
Ukuziqhenya, ukwesaba, ukulindela, ukuphika… Yimiphi imizwa engavimba lokho kwamukelwa?
Ngendlela elula nefingqiwe, okuvimba ukwesaba. Konke okunye kususelwa ekwesabeni. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kunemizwelo eyisithupha eyisisekelo ngokuya ngobuhlakani obungokomzwelo (yize kunemibono eminingi njengoba kunemfundiso). Kepha uma uyakuqaphela, kubheke futhi uzizwele kuwe konke lokho imizwelo izinto ezibukeka zingajabulisi ezenza ukuthi siphike lokho okuvela ekwesabeni. Ukwesaba njengesimo sengqondo kuvimbela kakhulu. Kuyisimo sengqondo sokuphika ngoba "ngiyesaba" ngoba ngisekela noma yiluphi ulwazi lokuthi ngiphila kulokho ebengikuphila ngaphambili, ngicabanga ukuthi lokho ebengivele ngikuphila ngaphambili ngikutolika ngokwesaba futhi ngiveza ulwazi lwami okwedlule esikhathini esizayo. Okuyiluphu okunzima ukuphuma kulo ngoba angizivuleli kuzinketho ezintsha.
Futhi umuntu uvulela kanjani izinketho ezintsha?
Ukwamukela lokho okukhona nokubona okwenzekayo. Esikhundleni sokuphika noma imuphi umuzwa noma ukuphika izinto ezenzekayo ngizozivumela ukuthi ngikwamukele ("Ukwamukelwa kuphambene nokwesaba"Futhi ubone ukuthi kwenzekani. Uyabona ukuthi ungaphila impilo ngemizwa, ungaphila ukudabuka, intukuthelo nokwesaba ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwesaba. Futhi uma uyiphila ngokwamukela, uyabona ukuthi akwenzeki lutho. Ngichithe impilo yami yonke ngesaba ukubhekana nokuthile, lapho empeleni ngivumela ukuthi ngiphile, ngiyabona ukuthi akukho okungahambi kahle. Ngiyaphila nje
Kungani abantu abaningi becabanga ukuthi ukuzindla kumele kube nzima kakhulu?
Ukuzindla akunzima, okulukhuni ukuyeka ukucabanga. Futhi abantu bahlobanisa ukuzindla nokuyeka ukucabanga. Bazama ukuhlala nomqondo wokungabi nalutho futhi bacabange ukuthi lokhu akukona okwabo. Bakholelwa ukuthi lonke lelo nani lemicabango elifika kubo, beza kubo ngoba bahlala phansi ukuzindla, kepha leyo micabango yayivele ikhona ngaphambili. Leyo micabango iza “ejwayelekile.” Futhi yilapho behlangana khona. Baqala ukulwa nento engokwemvelo njengokucabanga. Futhi ukucabanga akuyona inkinga.
Ukuzindla akukuyeki ukucabanga kepha ukubona lowo mcabango kungukuhlangenwe nakho onakho kepha ongekho. Awudingi ukuyikholelwa futhi lokho kukhulula okuningi. Kepha lokho akuqondakali kahle. Ukuyiqonda kuyisikhubekiso sokuqala. Futhi kulokho kufanele sengeze "ukuqina kwengqondo"…
Ziyini “izilonda zengqondo”?
Kunezaba eziningi zokungazindli. Kuthiwani uma “anginaso isikhathi”, kuthiwani uma “kungikhathaza”, kuthiwani uma “angikulungele lokho”, kuthiwani uma “anginaso isineke”, kuthiwani uma “akusizi ngalutho” … Yilokho engikubiza ngokuthi “Izinhlungu Zengqondo.”
“Anginaso isikhathi” ngokuvamile kungenye yezinto ezivame kakhulu. Kepha engivame ukubuza ukuthi bangasithola kanjani isikhathi sokuzinikela ekucabangeni ngemicabango engasho lutho nge-60.000 ngosuku. Inani lelo ipulazi lengqondo ayinikeli ngalutho futhi i-90% iyaphindwa kusuka ezinsukwini ezidlule futhi ithatha isikhathi esiningi. Uma uzindla, uguqula okuncane kosuku lwakho isikhathi eside sokuxoxa ngengqondo. Eqinisweni, enye yezinzuzo zokuzindla ukuthi isikhathi siba nokunwebeka ngokwengeziwe.
Ukugwema lokhu "kuhluleka kwengqondo" kufanele ubazi kahle futhi wazi ukuthi banamuphi umphumela kithi. Ukubazi singalwa nabo.
Kuyini ukuzindla nge
U-ularsula Calvo ubamba iqhaza kwi-First National Congress of Science and Mindfulness (Mashi 14 no-15, eSeville). Kuzomenyezelwa umhlangano, ohlelwe yiNational Wellness Center, lapho izifundo zesayensi zishicilele kuze kube manje eziqoqa izinzuzo zokucabanga nokuzindla ngempilo.